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how to ask him out
15/f -- me and this guy ["jack"] have been friends for about 4 months and lately weve both started to "like" each other more and he's been wantin to ask me out for awhile [he told me so himself] but he knew that although i liked him too, i was really enjoying the single life and wasnt ready to be in another relationship. his brother was talkin to me a lil while back and said that if/when i decided i was ready to go out with jack, i could let him kno and then he'd tell jack he should ask me out. but i wanna put a spin on things and just ask him myself. the prob is, i dont kno how. ive never asked anyone out before. we only get to see each other about once a week cuz he works almost every day and stuff but we talk on the phone every night. so i was wondering should i ask him on the phone like tonight or wait till this weekend when i see him in person? and what would be a good way to do it? like when he says i love you, should i say something like .. i love you too, wanna make it official? or something like that? i wanna make it good but not complicated you kno? :]
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i dunno, kinda depends on his personality. My bf asked me out over the phone. He got a hold of my cell and on the welcome message he put, will you go out w/ me (not in that many letters cuz he ran out of room but you get the pic) so yea i thought it was really sweet, but again it depends on the personality of the guy.
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hey!! omg i really like your idea... about saying it at the end of the phone conversation! it's deffinitely good and deffinitely not complicated... plus i think he will be surprised in a nice way. that way you guys can make it official and then spend the weekend together as an official couple and have fun, without you having to worry about how to ask him!! :) go for it, i really think he will love it if you ask him that way... it shows confidence and it's laid back, so he won't be freaked out by it! let me know how it goes if you want! :) good luck!
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definitley ask him out in person...its just better that way...if you ask a person out on the phone or computer or something like that it might give the other the wrong impression like they might think you dont want a serious relationship...and try to see him more than just once a week it could help...yeah and let him know you love him too...aw good luck hun =] hope i helped...
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hey,
i've read your problem and i think i could give you my point of you in this situation.
First of all, you say that you are enjoying the singel life and you are not ready to be in another relationship. why? because when you broke up with your previous boyfriend, you were heart broken,hurt and in so much pain,is that why?
Let me tell you something, we all fall in love and are crazy about our boyfriends, and sometimes this relationship works out and sometimes it doesn't, and when it doesn't , we keep crying and feel so upset about it ,but then what, do we just simply give up and say that we will never date again, and when someone comes forward and says that he likes you and wants to be with you, do you just turn him down and practically say that you are afraid to be with him, because you were heart broken last time.
We were all meant to make mistakes, for example, to date someone and when they dump us, we will have to cry and feel sad, but then we learn from our mistakes and move on and date someone better.
Now this guy was your friend, so he knows you well, and he cares about you, and he said he likes you and you said you do too,then what is stopping you. Go on,and forget what had happened, and fall in love, and live your love, and always know that the greatest thing is to love and be loved in return ,so if you have that, then why not take advantage of it? It wil feel great to have someone to hang out with , and love an care about ,and someone to be there for you and ask about you.
So here is what you should do, you should ask him on the phone, when he says that he loves, you say that you love him too, and then you tell him how you were wondering if he'd like to go out with you during the weekend when you see each other, and he;s not dumb, and he'll understand that you are asking him out. And it will be good and simple and totally not complicated,and since this is what you want, then go for it.
Finally, if you need any other help or advice, or if you have any other problems troubles, worries or concerns, then please be free to contact me. Goodluck :)
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I can understand that since you haven't really asked someone out before it can be difficult what to say. And actually there is many ways to say it. You may say something like. "You know, I have been thinking about us being together... do you want to go out with me?" or "So since you want to go out with me.. would you like to?". Don't get afraid to ask him. Just bring it up and talk about it.
And if he says "I love you", say that you do as well, and tell him you have been thinking about going out with him, or when you talk to him again tell him how you feel, and how you want to start taking things to the next level.
I hope I helped =)
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