Act normal...friendly but not gooey. You don't want to embarrass or freak him out, but you do get to talk smile etc like you did before.

First, I am glad to hear that you do not share the view that it is wrong to date based upon racial differences. This is a very dated and ignorant view that will certainly not disappear altogether, but is being challenged more frequently. We cannot change other people's minds for them, but we can give them opinions and examples of living outside the narrowness to which they are accustomed. Most people are threatened by change and will react with defensive and sometimes offensive behavior and words. Be prepared to offer understanding of their fear, but do not back down in what you know to be right in your own heart and mind. Sometimes people just need to get over the first reaction and shock. Don't ever give up the hope that hearts can open. This usually has to occur before minds can change. If you lose a friend because of their own judgements and bigotry, then it is their loss and definately not yours. It is hard to be a minority voice for any issue, but keep strong and learn more about racial equality and the challenges that have been and are continually being faced all over the world. Any problem can be turned into an opportunity for willing individuals who are not afraid to lead. You sound like a leader to me.

Wow. First, I am impressed at your level of thinking for such a young woman. You are right to take it slow and to assess yourself as needing to learn how to relate to guys other than flirting. That is a huge step in the right direction just to see yourself in a clear light. Many adults can't even do that, and then they wonder why they keep making the same mistakes over and over, again. This guy obviously is still into you and probably would like to become friends with the potential for more. What great practice for yourself. Flirting is fun, but if you do it all the time, it can be a sign of something more. Many times it is a DEFENSE mechanism. This means that you may be uncertain or unprepared about getting close to someone or being real, so you flirt to distract yourself and them from reality. Flirting can be a lure, but it can equally be a way to put people at a safe distance, because flirting is a game, not a serious way to get to know someone. If it is a habit and you flirt with everyone, that it becomes almost void of any real meaning. That is to say, that when someone special comes along, you will not be able to send the message you are interested if you don't find a way to distinguish how and why your flirt. Pretend this guy is not a guy or was your guy. Pretend he is just a friend and talk how you would to any friend. You may find something to connect with, but more importantly you will be gaining experience in communicating in a direction that you need to grow.

Not knowing what your secret is, I can still imagine how terrible it is to hold on to that burden and be eaten up by it. Talking to someone...anyone about it can be very freeing and empowering. I know, I have been there! You will wish you had done it earlier. Even if you can't get to a therapist, talk to a school teacher or couselor or just tell a friend you trust. Even anonymously telling someone can help you. Get it all out of you by talking about it or writing it out. You will find that you will be able to do more for yourself in your life when you get rid of this baggage. If you want you can leave it to me in my inbox. Good luck.

We all feel like we look like an idiot from time to time....so what? It is human, and no one wants to be around a perfect person all the time. Being able to laugh at yourself or not take yourself seriously all the time is a sign of health and wisdom. Realize that a little humility will open you up for spectacular moments, but self-doubt will steal those opportunities away. You are self-imprisoning yourself when you limit yourself to perfection which is an imaginary state. Not only do you hold the keys to your own freedom, the cell bars are all in your head. Come on out and play, every one needs to be themselves or what is the point of living?

It is hard work but pay can be good to be a housekeeper. Write up a flyer and pass it around to the neighbors and people you know that you would feel safe working for. Your hours are set by you and you could get hourly rate about 20. in most places cash.

First, what is she like? Traditional type: Get her flowers, card, chocolates. Materialistic type: Jewelry. Romantic type: Homemade Card with Love Poem or Song written and maybe sung by you. Outgoing type: Plan a fun date that includes hiking, picnic, something outdoorsy. No idea? Ask her friends! They should know if you don't. Something is better than nothing, so do it with sincerity and she will be happy.

He probably was taking you at your word. Guys tend to do that, so be honest and direct next time. Keep it simple and don't confuse him by trying to appear cool...rarely works that way. What is cool to a guy is a woman who knows who she is and what she wants. No more games. Tell him you were teasing not offending and that you think he is very adorable. That will fix it quick before you push him into someone else's arms.

Well unholy activities usually bond people rather quickly...okay, what? Forget that the two characters suck blood for a while and think about them individually as complex personalities. What motivates them, what's their history, why are they together, what do they want besides blood, and are they afraid of anything? You need to approach this the way you would any other character story, so start brainstorming and let the characters come to life and tell YOU what to write!!!

Guys take rejection hard, so it might be a blow to his ego, but that won't happen because you like him, right? You may have missed some opportunities but don't miss any more. There is nothing wrong with asking him out, but some guys prefer to do the asking and like a girl to be the challenge. It is a macho thing. What is this guy like? Be a little flirty, a little mysterious, but don't miss the next opportunity. If it is getting close to the dance date and he has not asked anyone out, ask him. I would give him a little time to ask you first and you can make sure to give him the vibe you are interested in him by paying attention to him, smiling at him etc.. Good luck!

That is a hard burden to bear. You believe it was your fault in some way that this girl had to move into another family. Fortunately you are going to get past this, but not the way you are currently thinking. It never helps to try to forget completely and it is not healthy. What is healthy is to put it into perspective with everything you know and to realize that there is a lot you will never know. You know that you have a loving family and that you and your family would never have given up on her staying with you if they thought it was good for her to be there. You know that you had a lot of love for her and still do and wish her the best. You know that it was not her fault or yours or your family's that she had needs that were beyond what she was getting those months she stayed with you. We can't know all the reasons for everything in life, but if you believe that things happen for reason, you will find that reason. Being active in sports is great, but also find a way to talk out your feeling about this or anything else that you need to talk about with your family and friends. We all have things that are tough to move beyond in our life, and questions and struggles. This is a part of our life experience. The important thing is what we do with the parts in life that we DO control, and accept that some things are not within our power. Love when you can love, and let go of what keeps you from loving. Let go of what you could not do about the situation, and embrace the fact that you have a heart that is big and still has enough room in it to love even when life is not perfect. Let that experience be a reminder to you that people will always come and go in our lives, and we have no control of anyone but ourselves. We do have a great opportunity to love and be loved with the people who touch our lives and we need to be thankful for the chance we get every day to love again. You can still honor someone who is not in your life by remembering them as a reason to make the most of every moment and spread hope in the way you live. Even if you never see this person again, you will make the world a better place for her by living a life of love.

It is totally normal and may not even be about sex. Sometimes you can find out the meaning of a dream by writing it down, including the way you feel and why you feel that way about what is going on in the dream. Do this, and it may reveal more about your emotions and thoughts than you are aware of consciously. Our mind never sleeps, and will try to work out problems for us that we are to distracted or unwilling to resolve during our waking hours. Listen to your dreams as a metaphor or parable to your life, not necessarily a literal interpretation.

I am going to save you a lot of time and energy if you are ready to hear this. If you only let guys who aggresively pursue you in, you will only end up with one type of guy all your life. That may be okay with you and we all have our attractions. However, some guys might be shy as well. They may think you don't like them unless you are flirty. If this kind of shy guy does not appeal to you and you would rather be swept off your feet by a guy who likes shy girls, then don't change. We decide with our behavior who we will attract over and over again. A shy girl will be seen one way by another shy boy, and another way by a confident guy who does not mind being assertive. Which do you want? We cannot make this cute guy one or the other, but we can guess which type of girl he may like better if he enjoys being flirted with continually and pays no attention to shy girls in general. Playing cool is overrated. Getting what you want is awesome. Don't put down a girl for being flirty, and think you are above her because you don't have to flirt. You don't, but that won't appeal to every guy. Know when to do what will make the most of what you want and when it works...think of me.

You love yourself. Otherwise you would not care that you are not happy. However, you are critical of yourself and even more fearful that others are critical of you. Do you see God as a critical being? Are you used to being criticized at home and school. This is the answer to your prayer. God is not critical. People can be critical and cruel because they don't feel loved themselves and so they judge others as harshly as they imagine someone else is judging them. Christians can easily fit this stereotype if they imagine that God is critical, then they feel unworthy of love and treat others in their home and world with equal judgement. It can be a vicious cycle unless something happens to strike at their heart with a thunderbolt like truth. The truth is that others are not as critical of you as you imagine, God is not critical like some imagine, you love yourself and need to let go of false ideas that are suffocating this love from breathing in the beauty of life and your place in it. Falling in love is a feeling that we are not in control of. You actually are deeply afraid of being in control of your own life and do not know how. Maybe you have not been allowed to be independent at home. Guys do date and love and marry and are happy with gals of all sizes, colors, heights, ethnicitys, religions, political preferences, and intellect levels. Don't ever buy into the bullcrap that guys only love, want, and date supermodels who are dying to be thin. Dating or having a boyfriend is not proof of your worth. Your attitude will attract or repel more guys than your physical appearance. Many guys have left beautiful women for less attractive ones, because of how both women made them feel. Embrace your body mind and soul right now. You are already perfect. God loves you right now. Love yourself right now and let go of any thought that is an attack on what you know to be true...you are worthy. You will only be doomed to be single, poor, fat, depressed, whatever, if you concentrate on it and accept it and stand for it. The universe is not in our control, but it will not give us what we do not seek. You are already thin and beautiful and boyfriend ready and happy and loved and enough. Now act like it and the universe will listen.

Smoking is an addiction. Anyone with an addiction is not going to be able to quit unless it is their own decision. We cannot pressure, guilt, or complain enough to get someone to change. It is up to them. He is not smoking to hurt you. You choose how to react and feel about his addiction to nicotine. I don't know about what else is going on in your head or what going all weird means to you or in this situation, so you will need to be specific if you want a real answer. You should always be honest about your feelings, but don't expect others to love everything they hear. We are all entitled to our own thoughts and relationships are about compromises that work for both partners to establish an integration that is mutually pleasing on some level. When you come across a dealbreaker, something that you cannot live with in another person, you have no right to beat them up for it or blame them for being themselves. You do have a right to stay and accept them for it, or leave and find someone who you can accept. Men in general will avoid confrontation with the one they are with and even lie to keep what they imagine is the peace. Women on the other hand will fight to divulge everything and risk it all to make sure it is worth fighting for. Every relationship goes through this and every individual must decide how to proceed.

Okay, but you should still try to talk to him in person about it and give him a chance to take responsibility. Go to the dance anyway and hang with your girls, meet some new guys...get a new guy to go with you. If this is how it is going to be, then you are better off without him.

You need to work on being more outgoing for yourself. She may think that you are a great person, but wants to hang out with people who are up to her own energy level. We can only guess, but she is not the main issue here. You are. When we start to focus on one person too much or judge ourselves by someone's reaction, then we are not living our true self. Why are you clinging to the false safety net of "shyness?" Shyness is not genetic and you are not born shy. Shyness like so many other personality traits, is a learned thing that can be unlearned, too. Something better has to take its place. Change the way you see yourself, and others will have to change their perceptions of you, too!!! Write down a version of yourself that is you still, but without the shyness. What does this new you act like, think, say, wear, feel? What would happen if you tried out a little more of this new you out a little more each day, until you are satisfied with the results. We cannot be everything to anyone and no one is everything to us either. Get to know and talk to more people and put yourself out there as the girl who has more to her then they thought and would be fun to get to know. No matter what happens with the one friend, you are more likely to make many friends with a new attitude and by shifting your focus to what you can do, not what anyone else does.

Get support! Do you need help with some tough subjects or just find it boring? Either way, it really helps to be in a group of people that support your progress and positive change. Ask a couselor at school and a teacher for their assistance and advice. Get into peer support groups. Is there an underlying issue? Why did your grades slip down in the first place? Deal with any problems you have been trying to ignore or get help dealing with anything that is eating at you from the inside. Ask a friend or parent to sit down with you one hour a day and talk, encourage, help with homework. Remember though, this is about you and your future and do it for yourself and no one else!!!

Okay. You need to poop once a day or once every two days at the least. Drink plenty of water and eat fruit/vegies/whole grain foods to ensure this healthy elimination. It should be one complete poop and curved. Otherwise you are too constipated. You should not have too loose stool either, unless you are sick. Urination should be as often as you need and not put off. Pee should look almost completely clear, or you are not drinking enough water! If you ever see blood in urine or it is hard or painful to urinate you could have an infection, so see a doctor.
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"Excess vitamin A or an overdose of Retin-A is very likely to cause liver problems, which can cause dark circles under eyes. Learn how to control your vitamin A levels and how to heal the liver naturally and you will be on your way to a healthier body and radiant face skin without dark circles.



Excess sugar:

Sugar is the enemy for people suffering severe dark circles. Research about the action of insulin shows that sugar can lead not only to weight problems, but also skin problems, through inflammatory responses as well as their effect on protein which can age the skin and the body prematurely through a process called glycation. Inflammation leads to eye puffiness and dark circles. Find out which foods are highest in sugar, which are most damaging and how to stay away from them.



Salty foods:

Cut down your daily intake of salt. Salt produces fluid retention this increases the pressure in the small capillaries in your eye area aggravating your dark circles. It is very important to know what an acceptable level of sodium is and how much you should cut from your diet in order to see improvements in your dark circles."


"Dark circles under the eyes: is the issue of congestion, micro damaged capillaries, and oxidative build up that the body cannot rid itself.

When congestion occurs an imbalance sets in causing toxic buildup, which again can come from constipation, lack of sleep, doing desk jobs, and anything that would promote congestion. The cure is obvious, stop congestion by promoting circulation, reduce toxic buildup, and provide the body with nutrients needed for healing of damaged tissues!

1. Promoting Circulation. There are several ways to promote circulation that will reduce congestion. I get away from my desktop computer and point my head looking up 90 degrees and stay there for a couple of seconds.

When I do this the circulation congestion buildup flows back into the body. There are several critical points which bring up congestion, first is facial massage around the sinus and the neck area below the ear where circulations needs to be drained.

The other possibility is to do a neck exercise, slowly of course, nodding forward, backwards, left, and finally right, three to four times each. Then circle your neck counterclockwise a couple of times slowly again then clockwise a couple of times. This will really help. The secret is to do it SLOWLY, and do as often as you like. No limitations. It helps with the neck and top back pain a lot, because this is my common area of congestion.

When people do not get enough sleep, yes it is easy to blame lack of sleep, people tend to overlook something else. With lack of sleep or rest, people do not drink enough water! So just drink enough water, to get the circulation moving!

Of course, there other extreme of dark circles is too much water water retention. In this case it is due to eating too much salty snacks or taking medicine which can bring on edema. If the issue is too much water retention, then taking certain supplements which will cause ridding of excess of water will be helpful. Sometimes you can take diuretics, for me I just take 1 teaspoon of baking soda to reduce some constipation. Of course, if you want to rid of a lot of water, which I don't recommend except for emergency is 1/2 teaspoon of baking soda, 1/2 teaspoon of sea salt to 1/2 glass of water. This could cause loose stools. Once that happens you can drink more water, but stay away from fried foods, salty snacks, etc. Taking some electrolyte drinks, sometimes called Oral Rehydration therapy, could also restore some electroytic imblances too. You can also prepare at your home with the recipes here:

http://rehydrate.org/solutions/homemade.htm

2. Reduce Toxic buildup. Reducing toxic buildup is something like a Yin and Yang approach. You need to reduce toxic buildup both ways to really work. First the Yin, which requires oxidative therapy, such as 1 glass of water, add 5-6 drops of 3% H2O2. Take it for a couple of times until you begin notice increased energy and circulation and notice that your skin starts clearing up. A longer term, at least for me required I drink it for a couple of days, or you can do shorter term, like only a day. So this is just the Yin of it. Hydrogen peroxide is well known for detoxification of various insecticides, pathogens, bugs, chemical toxins that buildup in your body for sometime. It destroys them by oxidation. There was an outstanding underground video from Taiwan which demonstrated that insecticide no longer exists upon ozonation of meats and vegetables in water for only a couple of minutes. So not only can you try peroxide, you can also ozonate your room.

Now the Yang of it. This requires a mild detoxification by reduction, as opposed to oxidation. The simplest one I can come up with is the following:

1/2 teaspoon of baking soda + 1 whole lemon + 1/2 glass of water taken twice, once in the bedtime and once in the morning. Or use ascorbic acid of 1/2 teaspoon in place of whole lemon is up to you. The reading of the Oxidation Reduction Potential, will get you a negative -200 to -300 millivolts. So this is a simple the reduction method of detoxification.

3. Nutrients to rebuild Damaged Tissues. Certain nutritition helps improved skin textures and sometimes brighter looking eyes sometimes. These include flavonoids, found in hesperidin, rose hips, vitamin F, bee pollen, royal jelly, vitamin B5 panthenol (or pantothenic acid), gingko, chitosan, inositol B8, oatmeal (high in silicon), and most importantly vitamin C in the form of sodium ascorbate, which is an alkaline form of vitamin C. These all will help repair damage tissues and reduce allergies. I have seen one person with reduced allergies and somewhat improved skin from just taking chitosan. Gingko helps with microcirculation and thus repair.

I have recently made my own heavy metal tester and found that one source of free radicals come from my own water filtering device. It was further traced to an old rusty faucet. Upon the removal of this, there was no longer copper toxicity. Copper free radicals is a common problem in Thailand since copper in drinking water is quite high. In certain parts of Bangladesh, arsenic is high. In the rice I eat, I haven't yet investigated it, I found it to be high in free radical zinc. So most of the heavy metals come from too much food processing, as opposed to minimal food processing. Just think, boiling that water in the old teapot, creates more free radical metals, which could be tin, iron, etc. An easy way to tell is to get a laser pointer and look at the lights passing through it. If you can see it, more clearly after you boil it, then that is the source of heavy metals which of course might be free radical metals and cause dark circles under they eyes, because that is a sensitive part of your body and the skin is already thin.

As to whether using cucumbers (potatos) and other ailments will help such as apple cider vinegar, etc. These will help too since they also help detoxify the body but I prefer to mention the less obvious answers. If you are looking for obvious answers, such as dark circles is caused by hereditary, or some other things, those are some of the things we can do very little and is not worth mentioning here."

"Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person they are almost indistinguishable. To say something you value deeply to another and to have him or her value it equally by listening to it carefully and apppreciatively is the most universal way of exchanging social interest or demonstrating affection." David Augsburger, CARING ENOUGH TO HEAR AND BE HEARD.


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For info. on birth control etc.
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All our motivations stem from two: Love or Fear. When in turmoil or indecision, ask yourself from which of these you are acting. If you want an honest response outside of yourself, you need to first be honest within yourself. Bless you on your journey!

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