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Is this normal...(relationshit)
I can't function without a significant other.
I've been single for a really long time.
All of my relationships end before they really start (after the 1st date he never calls and there's no reason why)
I cry all the time and I hurt myself when I don't have a bf.
To feel "normal" and not like a worthless piece of crap I have to have a boyfriend. It's like I'm only alive when I'm in love (and i hate it so much).
I'm overweight (but still really pretty) and so there's no chance for me to ever be asked out again. Guys don't date fat, depressed girls like me.
I'm a christian and I try to ask the Lord to help me with this, but he hasn't answered this prayer. I still find myself depressed all the time.
What can I do to be happy being single for the rest of my life?
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You love yourself. Otherwise you would not care that you are not happy. However, you are critical of yourself and even more fearful that others are critical of you. Do you see God as a critical being? Are you used to being criticized at home and school. This is the answer to your prayer. God is not critical. People can be critical and cruel because they don't feel loved themselves and so they judge others as harshly as they imagine someone else is judging them. Christians can easily fit this stereotype if they imagine that God is critical, then they feel unworthy of love and treat others in their home and world with equal judgement. It can be a vicious cycle unless something happens to strike at their heart with a thunderbolt like truth. The truth is that others are not as critical of you as you imagine, God is not critical like some imagine, you love yourself and need to let go of false ideas that are suffocating this love from breathing in the beauty of life and your place in it. Falling in love is a feeling that we are not in control of. You actually are deeply afraid of being in control of your own life and do not know how. Maybe you have not been allowed to be independent at home. Guys do date and love and marry and are happy with gals of all sizes, colors, heights, ethnicitys, religions, political preferences, and intellect levels. Don't ever buy into the bullcrap that guys only love, want, and date supermodels who are dying to be thin. Dating or having a boyfriend is not proof of your worth. Your attitude will attract or repel more guys than your physical appearance. Many guys have left beautiful women for less attractive ones, because of how both women made them feel. Embrace your body mind and soul right now. You are already perfect. God loves you right now. Love yourself right now and let go of any thought that is an attack on what you know to be true...you are worthy. You will only be doomed to be single, poor, fat, depressed, whatever, if you concentrate on it and accept it and stand for it. The universe is not in our control, but it will not give us what we do not seek. You are already thin and beautiful and boyfriend ready and happy and loved and enough. Now act like it and the universe will listen.
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