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I need a bit of advice
... and no matter how silly it might sound to you it's serious enough for me.
I'm 16, male.
I started being good friends with this 11 year old girl about august last year. Before that, we used to see each other maybe once in every few months and we were no more than acquaintances, but when I saw her for my birthday in august it was as though my whole point of view changed and I realized I wouldn't be able to wait to see her again.
Although there's five years of difference between us we do make a perfect (friendly) match as we both somehow stand out from the others and appreciate true values of life, if you know what I mean. (We ought to thank to our parents for that)! She acts according to her age and sometimes impresses me with her thoughts about the world. I'd say she's just about mature enough for her age. She likes to spend time with me just as much as I like to spend time with her, and she even made me know that a few weeks ago, but here's the problem: I don't get to see her often! In fact we see each other once in every few weeks which somehow just doesn't seem enough! It all depends on our parents and I'm not sure if I should push my mum into inviting them over every weekend as it might make her (my mum) think that I'm in love with her or something. But I SO wish to see her and I don't know how to do that!
Recently, I've been given an idea to invite her to the cinema or simply pick one whole day to spend with her. But how do I do that?! How do I make my parents know? Should I initiate the whole thing just because I'm "the male" or wait for her to grow and do something first? I hope just because she didn't get this idea first it doesn't mean she wouldn't be interested if I suggested it... ???
All in all, I really wanna spend more time with this girl but since it doesn't directly depend on me I'm not sure how it could be done without me embarrassing myself in front of my parents or anybody else. And does me being the male make any difference???
Sorry for the length and please help me if you can.
Thanks in advance!
Marko
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Sorry, but that is kind of weird. My brother is 11, and in 6th grade. I have friends that are 16. That's like my little brother hanging out with one of my friends all day. The age difference is definately a little weird. Your parents will probably freak out, and it does seem kind of pedafile-ish. Sorry, but it doesn't seem normal. Maybe try waiting another 15 years or so.. but for now, that's just not right.
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sorry but a SIXTEEN year old with an ELEVEN year old is NOT going to work. maybe in about 10 years, the age difference will be acceptable but for now this to me seems perverted.. i mean this girl is in ELEMENTARY school... you are 2 years away from college. if you want to be friends with her thats fine, i guess, but even that is pushing it. i can guarantee it will be looked down upon by everyone, unless your acting like a sort of older brother figure to her... i'm sorry to be so harsh, but it's for your own good that you know what you're getting yourself into. even if the girl likes you, she can't really comprehend the age difference.. its like a little girl having a crush on a celebrity or something.. cute, but totally unrealistic.
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