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how do I get him to notice me?
22/f
First off to loose confusion I work in a restaurant. Ok there is this guy that comes into my work recently that I just think is really cute and nice. We used to go to high school together but hardly ever talked. But now that he comes in we actually have conversations. He is also good friends with one of my coworkers but she has a tendency to be more flirty and she has a boyfriend. I don’t want to have to fight for his attention even if they are just friends. I am not that kind of girl, plus I don’t want her to get any clues that I like him because she has a big mouth and would tell him really embarrassing me. Be even worse that if he didn’t have the same feelings and then he would never come back. I am really shy at first so it is hard for me to make any kind of first move. I want to play this cool but not eager. does any body have any tips for me? I really need help with this one even though it has probably been said a zillion times. Oh also is there any signs that he might have an interest in me?
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I am going to save you a lot of time and energy if you are ready to hear this. If you only let guys who aggresively pursue you in, you will only end up with one type of guy all your life. That may be okay with you and we all have our attractions. However, some guys might be shy as well. They may think you don't like them unless you are flirty. If this kind of shy guy does not appeal to you and you would rather be swept off your feet by a guy who likes shy girls, then don't change. We decide with our behavior who we will attract over and over again. A shy girl will be seen one way by another shy boy, and another way by a confident guy who does not mind being assertive. Which do you want? We cannot make this cute guy one or the other, but we can guess which type of girl he may like better if he enjoys being flirted with continually and pays no attention to shy girls in general. Playing cool is overrated. Getting what you want is awesome. Don't put down a girl for being flirty, and think you are above her because you don't have to flirt. You don't, but that won't appeal to every guy. Know when to do what will make the most of what you want and when it works...think of me.
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I think you should use your nosy coworker, you said she has a boyfriend so she shouldn't be competition. Let her talk to him for you, you can remain silent and shy and if he's not interested then you pretend it never happened. Otherwise you're going to have to make that first move yourself.
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well if your a waitress and wants to be seated in your area thats a good sign...but if your shy just continue to talk to him and stear the topics toward movies...and you ccould be like hey i wanted to go see it..and leave it there and if he responds like oh maybe we should go together or something...or which might be easier tell him about a new restaraunt thats in town that you want to try out and see if he volunteers to go with you...
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