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Need to be social...
I need some help with being more social and outgoing around people.I used to be incredibly funny,nice,outgoing,and I knew how to make myself and other people around me have a good time...now just out of nowhere I'm none of these things.The weird thing is,I really want people to talk to and be around,but when I have the opportunity I turn it down because I'm scared.It's almost like I've become frightened of people in general.When I am in a social setting and not alone,I tend to just sort of sit there and do my own thing without making any kind of conversation(because I don't know how to make conversation).I was very spontaneous,and I think that the reason why I'm not anymore is because I'm afraid of looking like an idiot.
Anyway,how can I get myself back on track?I want to have friends,I want to be comfortable around people,and I want to be outgoing.
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You are obviously far too focused on what other people think. I suggest you stop worrying about it and focus on an extracarricular activity instead. Stop trying to impress the other kids and work on developping your talents. Who knows, you might even make a few new friends along the way :) Good luck, let me know how things work out!
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who cares if you look like an idiot..if you like to make people laugh then maybe you have to look like an idiot...if ur in a postion when some people are talking around you try to get in there convo...you shouldnt be afired of what people think..you cant make your self outgoing you have to work up the courge to do it
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We all feel like we look like an idiot from time to time....so what? It is human, and no one wants to be around a perfect person all the time. Being able to laugh at yourself or not take yourself seriously all the time is a sign of health and wisdom. Realize that a little humility will open you up for spectacular moments, but self-doubt will steal those opportunities away. You are self-imprisoning yourself when you limit yourself to perfection which is an imaginary state. Not only do you hold the keys to your own freedom, the cell bars are all in your head. Come on out and play, every one needs to be themselves or what is the point of living?
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well,
try talking to 1 person (maybe someone close, like in your family?)
then gradually talk to 2 people (maybe neighbors)
and then 3 people (kids from school, teachers)
and you know.... just gradually talk to more people.
sorry if I wasn't much help.
-volleyball2150
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