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Hurting me
This guy and I have liked each other for so long and this summer was awesome we were like gf and bf and then things died out. Like every month i would phone him to see how he was and we would talk for ages and yet he wouldnt talk to me in school. So A few weeks ago i invited him over and honestley its like awesome we were all cuddly and like a couple and then he left. Then at school, ignores me and then sometimes he talks to me and he's like 'u ok?' and i've been like 'umm yeh' but he promised to take me to the cinema and he didnt and then he promised to come over on Friday and he didnt. Should I confront him, thing is if i do- i will have to be drastic and say ' Look if you care for me, if you really care, you will put effort in as a friend, otheriwse i cant see this friendship working out?' and im scared he will be like 'whatever' and not talk to me again. He said to me ' we will always be friends if not more' and he's a sincere person- im really confused.
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maybe he's just scared that if you do go out, that it might not work out. just talk to him about it and if he doesn't know what he wants he might not be worth your time.
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He is obviously insecure or nervous, but that is irrelivant. You have to understand that you cannot change him. Talking to him about it will not do any good. You have got to relax and start enjoying what you have. He seems like an okay guy. Just make sure you do not kiss him unless he commits to you (asks you out). The risk in your situation is that he may start taking advantage of you. If he tries to become your "friend with benefits" drop him.
Good luck, and let me know how things work out :)
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okay this guy seems to be unsure himself...if he doesn't talk to you in school it may be because he doesn't really want to be seen with you or it may be he is just nervous to tak to you around other people. i would confront him and ask him why he didn't come over friday and then when you ge the answer casually ask him why he doesn't talk to you at school as much as he does on the phone and honestly if he does blow you off then just forget him even if he is really nice it would b stupid to hang around with someone who really doesn't care
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if he doesnt talk to you in school then he doesnt seem like a friend to me..i would confront him and see what happens because if u dont you could regret it or you could be missing out on something really great...he may say something you dont want to hear or he may say somthing you want to hear..but w/e he says will make you stop saying what if i said this or what if i did that
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I think you should definitely confront him. Just letting things go along as they are isn't going to get you anywhere. You're going to have to do something about it or things will just stay this way. Chances are if he still wants to be friends with you, he wil listen and explain his actions. You need to talk to him about keeping his promises and why he ignores you at school. If hes going to be friends with you, he's going to have to associate with you outside of school and in school. If he chooses to instead ignore you and break off your friendship, then move on and find better people. As heartbreaking as it will be, you can get better friends who will always be there for you and keep their promises. But if he's as sincere and such as you say, then i think things will work out for you guys.
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