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i have these wierd bumps that are lining the top o my mouth nd my tounge also has them and has become swollen...my neck in the front has also become swollen..any idea about what it could be? (link)
In the mouth could be kanker sores, but I hardly doubt it. It seems this is a reaction to what you've eating. It could also be allergies. When did this first happen? Remember what you've eaten before that. This doesn't seem to serious yet. You should contact someone you are close with. They might have an idea. If this doesn't get better, you should call a doctor to make sure.

Hope you get better!


ok i have this guy friend who broke up with my his girlfriend, she broke up with him in myspace message and he loves her LIKE REALLY REALLY WHOLE LOT and and i really feel sorry for him and i dont know what to say to him does anyone know how to cheer my guy friend who is like my brother? they went out for like 6 months and he sacrificed a lot for her and i feel really bad and does anyone know what to say? not like youll find someone else or something thanky you (link)
Tell him that he is much better than her and she doesn't deserve a guy like him. If she couldn't see how much of a great guy your friend truly is, he deserves so much more than her. Take him out and have some fun. Go see a movie with a couple friends, or rent his favorite movie and invite him over.


15/f

i orgasm really easily. like i spent the night at my boyfriend's house recently and during like 6 hours of sex i had 57 orgasms.

one time, when our sexual tension was really high, in 10 minutes, i managed to have about 15 orgasms.

what causes this, and is this irregular? like is something wrong?

i dont fake and i know that they are actual orgasms.

what makes this happen? (link)
There's nothing wrong, you're just lucky. Most women have a hard time reaching an orgasm. Blah I wish I was as lucky as you were lol.


Whenever I go out in public.. I kiss my boyfriend, like a few pecks and hug him. People always tell us to get a room..
but it's only a kiss!

Why are they saying that? It's making us look bad around everyone else. It's not like we are having sex right in front of them or anything sexual like that.

Has this happened to anyone else? (link)
That has happened to me plenty of times. They're joking or jealous. If most of you're friends are single, they just want what you have. Don't worry about it, people are just silly.


i hate my stepmom. i kno hate is a strong word and well, my feelings are strong. she is sooo mean to me!! she doesnt like abuse me but the things she says really hurt. she always calls me fat (im 14 5'2 and 97 lbs.) and maybe thats fat but i dont think she needs to remind me of it every single day. i cant have friends over because she is sooo rude to everyone. i cant talk to my dad about it because he doesnt want to deal with it and i cant talk to her because she doesnt care. how can i ignore it? and pleaseeee dont say to talk to my dad. i really dont know what to do anymore.

thanks (link)
5'2" and 97 pounds?
That is UNDERWEIGHT.
Don't listen to her, you should be at least 110 lbs. for your height.
To ignore her, whatever she says "agree" with her, it will throw her off.

Or don't reply at all.
Whatever she says you can't let it get to you because that's obviously what she wants. Try to stay out of your house as often as possible so you don't have to be around her. Try talking to your friends or a school counselor [if you're still in school]

If all else fails, you're going to have to talk to your dad, sorry. Wait until your stepmom is gone and your dad isn't doing anything. Say something like "Dad listen to me, [STEPMOM] is really getting to me. She's rude to all of my friends and me as well and I shouldn't have to be treated like this. She insults me on a daily basis and I don't deserve it because I've done nothing to her. I know you don't want to deal with it but I'm your kid and she's YOUR wife so you have to. Would you please talk to her and tell her to at least tone it down? I've tried but she won't even let me get a chance to talk"


I know that leggings and short denim skirts have been a trend and probably are still a trend for some people. I wear leggings whenever I wear a short skirt because they're just more comfortable. I don't have to worry about my skirt lifting up when I wear leggings. But... is this look still in style? I saw a whole bunch of people wearing it at my school and this year at my school, but ever since my friend said it looked tacky I've been noticing less people wearing it these days. I still wear it. I just don't want to look like an unfashionable weirdo. Is this look still "in" at your school? Tell me what you think. (link)
I think trends are stupid to be honest. Some people still wear them at my school. If you like what you're wearing, than forget trends. Everyone should dress the way they want and the way the feel is comfortable for them. Your friend is silly don't listen to them, if you like it that is all that matters. =)


how old were you when you lost your virginity? and how far along were you into a relationship if you were into one? also when do you think is okay to lose it? thanks! (link)
I was 15 when I lost mine. Actually I'm still 15 and I wasn't even in a relationship. That makes me sound like a whore but I'm not. It was me and my best guy friend, I'd always liked him and cared for him a lot. I knew he cared for me too, he'd do anything to make me smile. After he broke up with his girlfriend, we started drugs and we would mess around and it happened one night. I was his first as well. Now we're going out, and we can still have conversations with each other like we did when we were only best friends. I think it's okay to lose it if you really are devoted to someone, care for them, and love them.

I do regret that I wasn't in a relationship with him when I lost my virginity, but I don't regret him being the one to take it. For as long as I've known him he's always treated me amazing. I know our relationship isn't only based on sex. He takes me places and we always have fun whether it's at a restaurant or miniature golf. He's always helped me with my problems even if I don't know what's wrong. So I'm glad I lost my virginity to a guy like him, even if we don't last.

Also, I do think any age below 16 or 17 is too young to have sex, yes I'm admitting I was too young.


i am

13/f

5"1

and 104 pounds am i over weight? (link)
Absolutely not.
104 pounds??
Anywhere from 105 - 125
is a healthy weight for your height.
You're actually underweight dear.


Mkay, all of my questions have C and K, and so does this one. I guess this one really isnt going to be a question, im going to tell you this story because i want to hear your views on what i am going to say. My bffl F is really great, and back when i used to chill with K and C, C had a boyfriend named... H. Now, C used to always suck his dick, now, i've never done anything like that, i won't even try it ever. Now, H was cheating on her and they broke up, but she kept doing it AFTER they broke up. Now F had told me a while back, 'im gonna take him away from her.' and she did. H and F are now going out.. And there was this whole thing on myspace about F being a whore and C being 'wifey material.' Yes, F has already had sex with 4-5 guys, but so what.. She isnt a whore. each guy was her bf at one point in time. And im still a virgin, and C called me a slut too.. i just dont see how that is.. i laugh at them.. C makes me laugh.. If anything, I'm 'wifey material.' But thats not the point. F likes to have sex, thats not her fault, its just how she is. Now im not saying C is a whore either.. But seriously.. C shouldn't even be saying anything. All C does is talk shit, even when i hung out with her for the first time a couple days. she kept talking shit about her and it really pisses me off. I have stopped hanging out with F, but thats because she's always with H. F loves H and she like.. wants to marry him i guess. C is just.. ew.. I can't stand her, i just can't. So, what do you think of this? Who do you think is the whore, and why? Or what do you think about the whole guy situation in general.. =/ (link)
I don't think anyone is a whore really. And you are especially not a slut. I'd just ignore what "C" says and forget about it. The whole situation basically confuses me to be honest.


okay so i like this boy but hes 15 and im only 13 is he to old for me?
he said he liked me and everything
and i always think about him does that mean i love him?

please answer both my questions i need help! (link)
Well in my book, that isn't to old. I doubt you love him. You just like him a lot. You really can't be in love with someone unless you've been with them and have a strong sense of care, affection, and devotion towards him. You're also still young to know what love feels like, at least mature love. Anyway, you just have a big crush on him that's all.


Last night i had sex with a guy and we used a condom.
He cummed in the condom and im pretty sure that there werent any holes.
Then a while later, we did it again.
We had another condom and we did it for about 5-10 minutes and then we realized there was a hole in it.
He said he took it out right when it broke,but I dont know for sure.
He said he didn't cum and I know he didn't,but I'm still worried.
Also, a few nights before he stuck in me for literally 2 seconds and he didn't cum ,but Im very scared of pregnancy.
Do you think im pregnant or is there a good chance im not?
By the way, I have an irregular period so I cant trust that exactly.
How long before side effects start to show and what will happen first?
Thanks so much! (link)
Well if the condom didn't break you shouldn't be pregnant. However, even if the penis is only in for 2 seconds, it should never be unprotected because there's a chance he pre-came. I don't think you're pregnant but if you want to be sure take a pregnancy test.


mmkay, me and my boyfriend have been talking about having sex and where pretty sure we're foing to. it'll be my first time so I got a couple of questions. Like I know it hurts so like if you have to compare how much it hurts what would it hurt like? also how efffective are condoms? What are my chances of getting pregnant? what should I know before I do this? I'm sorry, I'm just really confuesed. I really think I'm ready for this and I really actually want to.
someone please help! lots of awnsers please! Thank you so much!
(link)
The first couple of times it will hurt, i can't really compare that to anything. It will hurt less if you go slow though. Also, because it depends on the person, i can't tell you how much it will hurt either, sorry. Condoms are about 95% effective. Don't ever double up condoms, it will cause friction and increase the chance that it will break. They do not protect against STDs. I suggest you go to sex-ed websites such as sexinfo101.com and get more educated before you have sex. =)


I just got back from my vacation and we went camping. My aunt and uncle surprised me with a truck and $300 for drivers training. I know...awesome huh? My high school doesn't offer drivers education which is a total bummer so I need to go to some place that has intergrated drivers traing and drivers education. Does anyone know what place can do that??? (link)
look for driver's schools in your area in your phonebook. otherwise you can look online or figure something out. but the phonebook seems like the most sensible option. find places, call em, ask em how they do it, and go from there.


I'm getting my first car soon, and my mom said I have only $2,000 to pay for it. So..I did some research and found a car. Here's the info about it:

-1992 Toyota Corolla
-131,000 miles
-$800
-Air Conditioning
-AM/FM Radio
-Cassette Player
-Automatic Transmission
-Manual locks & windows (not power)

The seller also got a new starter and a new battery for the car. Should I buy it or keep looking? (link)
try to find one with lower miles if possible.

or rather let me put it this way. anyone selling a car for 800 bucks is trying to get rid of it for some reason. and with this it could be anything from a cracked block, blown gaskets (toyota makes terrible headgaskets), bad starter (toyota makes terrible starters as well) or any number of things. i say keep looking, i would not buy it.


what's the best brand digital camera? please only answer if you have a camera & are TRULY in love with it.

don't just name a random brand or go along with the person underneath you cause i rate based on your reasons why it's a good camera. (link)
nikon and cannon make the best ones. why? because nikon and cannon are actual camera companies. they actually make and build cameras and have always done that since their company started. kodak you would think would be the same, as with fuji. but the problem is kodak has terrible quality control. and fuji is owns subaru motors and focuses more on building cars these days and not on cameras. go with a nikon or cannon they are your best bet. and this information i got from a photographer friend of mine.


15/f

i orgasm really easily. like i spent the night at my boyfriend's house recently and during like 6 hours of sex i had 57 orgasms.

one time, when our sexual tension was really high, in 10 minutes, i managed to have about 15 orgasms.

what causes this, and is this irregular? like is something wrong?

i dont fake and i know that they are actual orgasms.

what makes this happen? (link)
wow i wish i were your boyfriend that would be fun.

but no you are perfectly normal, just really have no problem reaching orgasm. which is good. some girls you gotta really work hard to get one out em. so be glad. i would be haha.


My father has a Mercedes Benz, and he was washing his car yesterday. Now, when he goes to turn his car on, it will not have a strong engine, then turn off. It was fine before he washed it. It isnt the battery, and the motor was new.

Any ideas what it could be?
Oh, and he hooked up a fan to blow under the hood of the car, and nothing happened.

thanks=[ (link)
got water into the intake unit. what happens when that happens is gasoline can't mix with air and the engine will run too rich and die on you. what you need to do is start it up and rev it hard to keep it running and don't let it die on you. eventually rhe water will be flushed from the intake and it'll run fine.


LOL Are cucumbers vegetable or not cause some of my friends say they are and some say there not lol ? (link)
They're fruit surprisingly.


My parents are fighting every second day my mum has wanted a divorce ever since but she dosnt divorce him because they come bac to tlaking again but he hits her sometimes and i dont want her to divorce him even though he hits me and her but i love them both i couldnt stand them being apart and tell me its wrong to hit a women seriously please i just want to get the idea of divorce out of my mums head all i ever do is cry =[? (link)
Your mom needs to get a divorce as soon as she can. You love your parents, and the thought of them together but your dad is hurting both of you, physically and mentally. Is this how you want to remember your childhood? Seeing your mom get hit and you yourself being abused? The safest thing would be for both of you to get out of that type of household.


is it weird that i get horny spying on my brother when he's masturbating or is it just curiosity?

i dont want to feel this way but i dont knwo what to do.

please help!! (link)
It's hormones but still try to avoid spying on your brother, that's a little weird.




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