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sex & stuff
mmkay, me and my boyfriend have been talking about having sex and where pretty sure we're foing to. it'll be my first time so I got a couple of questions. Like I know it hurts so like if you have to compare how much it hurts what would it hurt like? also how efffective are condoms? What are my chances of getting pregnant? what should I know before I do this? I'm sorry, I'm just really confuesed. I really think I'm ready for this and I really actually want to.
someone please help! lots of awnsers please! Thank you so much!
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Honest truth, it hurts some women there first time and then it doesnt hurt some women. The pain is bearable. Dont freak out too much about it or your just going to have yourself all worked up. Be prepared to bleed alittle though because most women do if you didnt know. Make sure he takes it slow the first couple of times.
Condoms are pretty effective, just make sure it fits him right, and make sure that if it breaks he pulls out right away.
Your chances of getting pregnant are very likely if you are safe and use a condom. Dont freak yourself out about the whole situation if your not ready dont push yourself...
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To be honest, the first time you have sex, it will feel like someone is pushing a size 24 shoe up your vagina. That sounds harsh, but it's the truth. Make sure to tell your partner to go slow and give yourself time to stretch and get used to it.
Condoms are effective as long as they fit correctly. And, of course, if they don't break. Trojan and Lifestyles are good brands of condoms. I've always used them and they have never broken. I HIGHLY HIGHLY HIGHLY suggest you use two forms of birth control. The condom is a good one, but you should also consider getting on the pill. It's better safe than sorry. Pregnancy is not something to take lightly. I'm sure you think you know that, but you have no idea until it actually happens to you.
What are your chances of getting pregnant? Obviously greater since you're going to have sex. No birth control method is 100% effective on it's own. But if you use two types (such as the pill AND condoms) you'll be that much less likely to get pregnant.
Basically, don't take chances and be safe. Pregnancy scares are the worst things in the entire world. Use protection. Get on the pill.
You should also know that the first few times you have sex, it will continue to hurt. It will take quite a bit for your vagina to get used to having a penis in there. So go slow and give yourself time.
Let me know if you need anything else.
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The first couple of times it will hurt, i can't really compare that to anything. It will hurt less if you go slow though. Also, because it depends on the person, i can't tell you how much it will hurt either, sorry. Condoms are about 95% effective. Don't ever double up condoms, it will cause friction and increase the chance that it will break. They do not protect against STDs. I suggest you go to sex-ed websites such as sexinfo101.com and get more educated before you have sex. =)
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It doesn't hurt a lot, breaking the hymen I mean, and there could be alittle blood, but otherwise, it should be OK. Unless he is really big, and you are really tight. It wouldn't hurt to have some lubricant handy, like KY Jelly. There is always a chance that you will get pregnant. Only abstinence is 100% safe. But I know that is not always an option. I hope your boyfriend knows how to use a condom, and can get it on properly. That can be difficult if it is the first time. He has to be sure he gets the right size, and no I don't know how boys know what size they are. If it comes off, after he has had an orgasm, or if it breaks, while he is in you, and he has had an orgasm, you can get pregnant.
I see that you are just 13 years old. If you find any of this difficult to discuss with your boyfriend, or awkward, that I would say that you two are NOT ready. You really shouldbe on birth control pills before you have sex. With sex comes great responsibility. You could end up getting pregnant. What will you both do if that happens. You need to discuss that also. YOu are the one who will have the BIG burden of telling your parent(s). He could get off scott free. I hope he is about your age too If he is three years older than you, or if he is 18 or over, he will be arrested and will go to jail and will be branded as a sex offender for the rest of his life. That is the law and it won't matter that you or even your parents don't want him to get arrested. That is the law. You both really need more information before you go down this road. I think it would be a good idea to wait longer. If you two don't end up together, you will be sad that you lost your viginity to someone that you are not going to spend the rest of your life with. YOu may think that the two of you are going to do that now, so waiting longer will just make you more sure of that. Why not take it month by month. See what happens. Wait a little longer and then get more and more information. Then see if there is a planned parenthood place in your city, so you can get information on birth control. And he can get information on condoms and how to use the properly. You can add a spermacide too, that will help more. What if the condom does break, you can get the "morning after pill". so you won't get pregnant. It's just in case. But do you know where to get them? If you are not mature enough to take these steps, then you are not ready for sex. So you decide. And I hope you decide to wait
Michele
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