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So this may not be exactly up your alley, but you seem very wise, so here goes. I have a friend who, when she gets close to orgasm (or really, any kind of intense sexual excitement) has a panic attack. She's really annoyed by this, and it's also making her feel really insecure. I don't think she's ever been abused, but I'm not 100% sure. She is a little high strung, and has had panic attacks about other things too. Anyway, I'm just trying to help her get some answers. Have you ever heard of anything like this? What could be causing it? Thanks for your help! (link)
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Anxiety attacks are caused when people feel extremely stressed and panicked.
If she only gets this way during sexual encounters,
it could be fear of pregnancy, maybe she is actually
afraid she won't have an orgasm, or if she is from a very religious background she may feel guilty.
It could also be from previous abuse. Its something she might discuss with you if she was comfortable enough to discuss the panic attacks.
I will suggest you encourage her to see her doctor and ask about it. If she doesn't, it could discourage her from having intimate relationships in the future.
All her talks with a doctor would remain confidential. Encourage her to write down
everything she can think of to ask him/her before going. That is something you may be able to help her with. If she is uncomfortable talking to the doc, she can always just give him/her the list.
Most important, let her know that while it is annoying and possibly embarrassing for her, it is
not that strange or anything. Many people experience panic attacks over any number of things. She can get help to prevent them, she only needs to see her doctor.
Best of luck to her.
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Last night, at work i was lifting up things that have never been too heavy for me. I was pouring this bucket for about 5 min..that was about 5-6 lbs. Well my arms have gotten really weak lately. (I cant even do more than 4 CORRECT pushups.) Anyways right afterwords my arms were shaking like crazy (like i had Parkinsons disease or something.) Even for a minute, my legs began to shake. I felt soo weak like i was going to collapse. And even now, almost 24 hrs later, they are still shaking when i try to lift things that are only 3+ lbs. It also hurts about 4 inches from my wrist..almost like i pulled a muscle there. Ive been anemic for a year or two, and ive never taken any medication for it. I dont think its because of that or something that i ate. (My exercise and eating habits havent changed.) I think its more of a health problem i dont know about. I would see a doctor, but my parents wont take me. I just wanted to know if any of you had any idea what is wrong with me..or if youve ever experienced this before? (link)
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There could be a lot of things causing your weakness, anemia being one of them.
You need to see a doctor to find out the cause.
Self diagnosis just isn't an option for these symptoms. If you can't afford a doctor visit,
find a free clinic or one that bases fee on income.
Check your local health department for possible help also.
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17/f. I was really depressed when I was younger, I considered killing myself multiple times and running away, but if course I did not and eventually got over it. I never told anyone and no one ever knew. Anyway, then when I was 16, I'm not really sure I was depressed but I honestly cAn't remember one thing from my sophmore year, it was all just a blur. Now, for the past month I've been sad a lot and I cry really really easily. So I was wondering can depression come back? (link)
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Yes, it can come back & often does. Just remember it also goes away again in most cases.
The best rule of thumb is that if you get depressed and it goes away after a few days, its normal.
If it comes over you and stays for weeks and just doesn't go away, or if you have suicidal thoughts, seek medical attention.
Everyone has bouts of depression. It isn't at all uncommon.
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Why do some people feel the need to stereotype? I find it very small minded, especially when people say:
*"emos" are suicidal
*"preps" are mean
*guys are horndogs
*girls are bitches when they get their periods
*teenagers are full of raging hormones and go through tons of mood swings
etc.
So why do some stereotype like that? (link)
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For one thing, some of those you listed are facts and not stereotypes.
Most guys are horndogs. Many girls are bitches when they get their period. And teens most certainly are full of raging hormones and go through tons of mood swings.
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How do you Ask a Question Intelligently? (link)
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Here are a few...
Don't ask and then leave out important details.
Don't capitalize random first letters as you have in this question.
Use proper English and not texting abbreviations.
Use proper punctuation.
Don't start out your question with "Hi, it's me again". You are anonymous to the users of this site
and they don't know what you asked before.
Take a look at some of the other questions on the site to avoid asking the same question that has already been asked a hundred times.
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does long duration smooch cause pregnency (link)
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No
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hey, i have like a new myspace account, so pretty much i have like only 40 friends.i woudl like to have more, and someone else asked a question about whoring or something? how do you do it please!! (link)
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Account whoring isn't allowed here. We aren't here to promote Myspace, or any other accounts you may have. Make your own friends there.
Putting "inbox me", or asking people here to contact you for advice is also frowned upon.
If you are good, no need to ask.
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how do you get rid of dandruff with out like scratching it out or buying shampoos?
like home products if you can make something
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I have heard vinegar works well for dandruff.
For this and other home remedies, check out the search below.
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i lost my ipod!
any ideas where to look like lost and found (it was in school and im really upset!)any ideas where i might be able to find it?
ill rate a 5! (link)
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Go to the school office and tell them what happened.
Other than asking if anyone has seen it, or putting up a flier if your school has a bulletin board, that's about all you can do.
Just so it doesn't start an annoying trend, I need to say that questions advertising that you will rate all 5's, are usually deleted. Rating all 5's is considered to be ratings abuse. Rate the answers
fairly.
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where can i get the program applesauce for more AIM colors?? (link)
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my friend pulls out her hair.. whats going on?
and oh yeah she barelt has a strand.... she probally has about 18 strands left!! (link)
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Your friend probably has Trichotillomania. It is a type of psychological condition that involves strong urges to pull out one's own hair.
She is probably being treated by a doctor for it. If not, then she should be.
For more information use this search.
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Okay this is going to be REALLY long, this all started when i was doing my clothes at around 11.... i wanted to clean some of my clothes so i would have something to wear tomorrow.
so i threw 2 pairs of abercrombie pants in the wash and dryer. so my mom was all like throw some of my jeans in! but i was half way threw the cycle to put any thing else in the the wash so i didnt bother.
then we went out and i was all nice to her. very nice. this lasted till about 3?
then i got home around like 3:30, and wow was it hell. i put my jeans in the dryer. so they would be dry for about 4:00. then my mom threw in some of her stuff, so i threw in the whites that were dirty in too. no problem with that right?
Okay this is when the shit started, i threw her stuff in the dryer without looking. [with my whites....] and so i did that so i could wash my so lows. so i did that. no problem right?
okay so my mom SCREAMS AND YELLS. becuase her stuff apparently shrunk 2 sizes. i told her if she wants to fit into them again, [ps their like designer] so she starts a hussy-fit with how everything gets broken left and right. and i dont need this beause i have finals from the 13-20th. do i need peace and quiet. but Apparently i cant get it sence my mom is bitching [sorry but i dont have anything else to say for that]
and i didnt invite her to dinner because i dont allow whiners eat the food i make, [im like a chef and planning to be one] so i made pretty good food. its hard to resist ;]
but like, then i was eating then she said to my dad, ricky, sister, melissa, and i, laura, "i hope you bastards [im quoting the EXACT words] fucking die form that taco shit you call food, and i hope you CHOKE AND DIE"
what should i do? call the cops. HELP! (link)
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If you call the cops and tell them, "I shrunk mommy's jeans and she got mad and yelled at me".
And then you tell them, "I'm a chef and I
was mad at mom and wouldn't let her eat my famous food" They are going to get their laugh for the day.
Just because your mom threw a fit and swore at you
isn't going to get her thrown in jail. We know though where you get the spoiled behavior.
Get over yourself. If this is all it takes to rattle your cage you are going to have a miserable life.
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i am 14 years old and people call me natie and i am looking for a paper round in burslem stoke-on-trent but i have put my email in so it said on the thing when we get a free one we will send you an email and i have't got an email so i am getting really annonyed. (link)
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Uh...what? If you want some good answers, my advice is to explain what you are talking about.
Punctuation would help a great deal too.
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I usually give advice to other people about this kinda stuff, but I currently I've found myself in a difficult situation that I could use some other opinions on.
I'm a guy in my early 20's that's been dating a girl for a little over half a year. The problem is she lives in another country, and I met her when I went abroad for half a year. The last two months we've been apart. I feel like she really is happy with the relationship, but I personally am not because of the long distance and some other reasons. I know it's selfish, but the reason I'm still with her is that I don't want to feel the loneliness of not having someone care about me in that way. I feel like even though I'm not happy with it that I would hurt her a lot by ending it also, and that I might lose some friends that are close to her and me, because they will take her side on it.
She's coming here for a year next year, but after that she'll be gone, and so I said eventually it would have to end and she got very defensive. She always ask me if I'm cheating on her, but I can assure you I'm not. She's really worried about the relationship not working out.
I just don't feel that connection, and i don't see it as that serious. I really have fun with her, but I don't feel a strong love connection, and I am absolutely sure that I wouldn't want to marry her.
I just don't know what to do, because eventually I will break up with her, but initially I was gonna wait it out and see what happens since she is coming back next year. I wish we could both just see the relationship as a non-serious thing, but I feel like she can't see it like that. I was just having fun with it, but I guess she has a much more serious view of the relationship.
Any advice or perspectives on my situation would really help me out. Thanks a lot (link)
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Long distance relationships just don't work out. There may be an occasional fluke where it works, but not very often. My advice is to end it.
Since the distance makes you just friends basically anyway, I see no reason why that can't continue if you both want it to. But a relationship consists of dating, going out to movies, eating dinner together etc. Not just email, messenger and phone conversations.
There is no reason at all for remaining in a relationship you are not happy with. Sure, you'll have lonely days. You'll also be free to find other female company.
Its very noble for you to worry about hurting her. Hurt is going to happen eventually anyway. The longer you put it off, the more it is going to hurt her. Breaking it off now is actually better than letting her get even more attached.
Any friends who can't stand by you because you end an unhappy relationship, aren't really friends. True friends will remain friends with both of you, not take sides.
If you end it now, its possible you will both be over the break up enough that you can be friends only by the time she comes next year. If not, well, with luck you will be in a happy relationship with someone else by then anyway.
If she is always asking if you're cheating, then she already knows you are not happy in the relationship. She can't be truly happy either if she is always worrying about such things. For sure she isn't trusting you like she should be.
It may take a while, but she is sure to see sooner or later that it would not have worked out.
End it now. Main reason being you cannot base a relationship on technology only. You need face to face interaction. You need to be able to touch & smell. See the bad and the good, the happy & the sad. long distance relationships lack the daily emotions.
OK I am done rambling. Good luck. :)
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There is a kid in my lunch class. I need to walk by his table to get to mine and every single day he is at his table already with his food. I will walk by and try not to look at him like a creep (I'm kinda diggin him, btw) but sometimes I'll look at him and he'll be looking at me already. I love it and usually I'm the one who breaks the glance. We'll look at each other while I'm walking to my table and he'll look at me until he can't anymore without turning around. What does this mean? Does he think I'm cute? What do I do? Thanks! (link)
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I think the chances are great that he likes you. You are doing something that is getting his attention.
Why not try for a reaction from him? Next time you walk by and catch him staring, give him a wink and a smile. ;)
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so i got a strained quad.. what is the best way to treat it besides ice it?? i need to get better so i can compete in my track meets.. any opinions would be GREAT!! :) (link)
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This is an injury you really should seek medical attention for, if you haven't already. Returning to track to soon could cause even more damage.
From http://www.antibodywear.com/articles/quadricep-injuries-symptoms-treatment.asp
Treatment should consist of following your doctor's instructions. Some supplemental first aids are the "R.I.C.E." instructions: Rest, Ice, Compression, and Elevation. It is helpful, as continuing care, to use an ice massage 3 or 4 times a day for 15 minutes at a time. . Fill a large styrofoam cup with water and freeze. Tear a small amount of the foam from the top so the ice protrudes. Massage firmly over the injured area in a circle about the size of a softball.
After the first 72 hours, apply heat instead of ice if it feels better. Use heat lamps, hot soaks, hot showers, heating pads or heat liniments and ointments. Take whirlpool treatments, if available. Wrap the injured quadricep muscle loosely with an elastic bandage between treatments. Massage gently and often to provide comfort and decrease swelling.
Torn ligaments and tendons require as long to heal as fractured bones do.
The average healing times are: (1) mild strain - 2 to 10 days, (2) moderate strain - 10 days to 6 weeks, (3) severe strain - 6 to 10 weeks.
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Ok, here's the deal. My boyfriend and I (we're both 17 and juniors) have been dating for 4 months... well, it'll be 5 months by the time prom rolls around. We really love each other and we both think that prom might be fun to go to. However, there are some complications. Firstly, people say that if you go to your junior prom it completely takes away the value of your senior prom. Is that true? Secondly, right around prom is a festival in my hometown that I look forward to attending all year long. I go almost every year and always have a really amazing time. Here's the problem though: I don't have a job and the festival's really pricey (usually $100+) and it takes me most of the year to save up for it. So, as you can probably see, I'd have to choose going to one or the other. The thought of missing either makes me pretty sad. Thirdly, my boyfriend is SUPER shy. Although I know he wants to go, he'd probably not dance... Which is fine. I probably wouldn't dance too much either... But anyways, what else is there to do at prom? Would we just be bored out of our minds? And finally and fourthly, I would say that I would just go to prom next year and go to the festival this year (the festival is always going to be here, prom's not). But, then again, there's no guarantee that my boyfriend and I are going to be together next year (but I hope and believe we are going to be)... And I want to go to prom with HIM. BLAH! I have no idea what to do :( and I have to decide really soon! Please give me your advice/experiences to try to help me with this difficult choice... Thank you so much! You have no idea how much you guys are going to help me. (link)
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I personally could have lived very well without going to either prom. I never did understand what the big deal was. Same as all the other school dances...except it costs at least twice as much.
But, I've always been a little different. :)
Unless you really, really want to go to the prom, I think I would be asking the boyfriend to the festival instead. I'd at least ask him and see which he would rather be doing. He may see prom as a once in a lifetime experience, or he might just be thankful he has a way out of it!
Talk it over with him and see what he thinks.
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When you've loved someone and have waited for them for seven years straight(continue to)--would this be considered as love or lust? (link)
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Its neither. It is more like a crush. I'd compare it to a teen who is "in love" with a rock star and plasters his posters all over her walls.
Even if this is an actual relationship and you have waited 7 years for this person, its time to move on. For a relationship to work, the love/lust has to be a mutual thing. Its obvious that this is not either to the other person.
My advice is crush on this other person all you want, but look for a real relationship. Either ask the crush out and see how he feels about you, or forget him all together and start looking for a guy who cares about you as much as you care about him.
Time to end the fantasy. :)
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Okay so i just got the droid eris and im totally confused, it dosent come with a manual because their trying to "go green" so i needed some help. Does anyone know how to delete a contact on your contact list and how to delete missed calls and text messages? oh and how too go from the 3g network to 1x and could possibly give me a very detailed way of how to do it? thank you soo much! :)
P.S and if you had any tips to save more of the battery life that would be a big help thank you soo much! (link)
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It was taking forever for this site to open so I didn't wait around. However, this is the phones manual according to Verizon.
http://member.america.htc.com/download/Web_materials/Manual/DROID_ERIS_Verizon/DROID_ERIS_Verizon_English_UM_11_5.pdf
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Ok, so (Male, 18) I just got off the phone with my girlfriend after an hour-long argument that was about nothing more than my leaving her house to go home and finish a four page English paper and do some college stuff that needed to be finished.
I was over there just hanging out, cooking some bars with her and I suddenly found out that I had to finish some college things before 5 o'clock and, in addition, i had to revise an English assignment and my math assignment.
We had plans to be together all day, but my teacher bumped the deadline up to tomorrow during school today, so i changed plans a little so i would probably leave around 6 or so, that way I'd have time to finish it. When I told her this, it just about ruined both of our days right there, but she managed to get over it until my dad called and reminded me about some College things I forgot about that I HAD TO GET DONE, and my dad was mad at me for forgetting it in the first place...
I really didn't want to leave. first of all, I like spending time with her, and secondly, I knew it would make her really mad. I was hesitant to leave, and just about let it wait until tomorrow but I decided since my dad was already angry, and since i already had other things to finish that it would be ok to leave. Was That Such a Bad Thing to Do?
after I got home, i finished everything and expected a little understanding from her during our nightly talk on the phone. But No. All i got was her crabbing about how i cant ever remember anything and how im home at the "snap of my dad's fingers" 'all the time'... I can put up with it for about 45 minutes, but i got tired of telling her that I had multiple things to do, and asking her to understand my situation here. She made me mad in the end and I hung up on her while she was going off on how i don't have any priorities straight for the umpteenth time.
I know i'm forgetful, and I know my dad makes things a bit ridiculous sometimes. But I had things to do and I feel like she should be able to understand and let me finish things when they have to be done. this isn't the first time this has happened. She always gets mad at me for little things like leaving for home at any time exept right before my curfew, or forgetting things like her plans for the week and which days she'll be busy. It's like its too much work for her to tell me some things twice sometimes. are there any medical conditions that make a person so touchy for little things like this? In addition, when we both leave for college, im sure Ill just be more busy with things, it seems like everythings just going to get worse if these things keep up.
I'm worried because I really love her, I know i probably sound really mad at her now, but she's my girlfriend for almost 2 years now and I'd do just about anything for her if it made her happy. If i could pay to make my memory perfect, or to make my life with nothing but her in it, I'd do it in a heartbeat.
How can I tell her i have to leave or do things other than be with her? What can I say to her after she gets mad with me like this? a lot of the time when she's mad at me she doesn't want to talk or be with me, she just wants to argue and avoid me, so how am I supposed to cheer her up or let her know how much I love her? (link)
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You need to have a long discussion with her. Have the talk at the beginning of the time together, be ready for pouting, arguing etc. Don't leave it until right before its time for you to go home.
Do it when neither of you are already mad about something. Communication is the key to any successful relationship as is really listening.
She sounds a little spoiled, well, maybe a lot spoiled. You are at a point in your life where shes still very important, but she can no longer be the total focus of all your attention. She has to grow up or you will grow apart.
So, you need to discuss how while you love her, and she IS a priority in your life, she isn't your ONLY priority.
Your dad may be a big pain in the butt a lot of the time. That doesn't matter. You live at his house, he may be paying for your college education. You owe him some respect. She has to understand that and not interfere or be offended by it.
It sounds to me as if you have your priorities very straight. They may not be the same priorities she has, but they are right for you.
School work, college things all are important for your future, and possibly hers, right? YOU are the one to set your priorities. Not her. She needs to understand that.
What it all boils down to is this. Not every single thing you do in life has to be done with her permission. If you need to get home to get things done, she needs to be happy with the time you took to spend with her and accept the fact that you can make your own decisions. Same holds true with her and things she needs to do. You accept it and that's that. I'm not saying she can't say she wishes you could stay longer, but arguing the point does no good and wastes time that could be spent talking about better things.
For remembering, get a day planner or even plain old calender would work. Something you can keep with you or toss in your car. When you have to do something, write it down. If you think it will help, have her help you with it.
Best of luck. Talk. :)
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You're welcome!
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