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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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what are the ideal calf and thigh measurements?

There aren't any. Just like there isn't any ideal bust size.

so i love my gf very much i am a lesbian and her roomates 3 yr old is very attached to her he is a brat and gets whatever he wants he doesnt even sleep in his own bed i love kids but somethin bout this kid drives me nuts. she has said to me before or other ppl hes like my own son and she cares about him a lot i feel like im jealous of this kid but im really not but its tot he point when shes gotta babysit the little boy on early days i dont even wanna stay cuz he gets in her bed when i stay and shes all cuddled with him and ignores me in the bed and i said its cool hes more important to you she says think what you want what should i do?

Seems to me like you're jealous. You even said it yourself & then tried to deny it. Face it, you're jealous of a 3 year old.

Your girlfriend loves him as if he were her own, and there is an obvious attachment that she has back with him. You can't make her choose between you & the kid because her choice may be one you dislike.

I think you need to learn to accept this. You're jealous of a child, and you're letting a child get in the way of your relationship. My boyfriend's niece is kinda bratty, but she isn't ruining my relationship. Get over it & quick because if you keep up the jealousy thing, your girlfriend is going to ditch you.

I am 5"1 17 and 113-112 lbs. I want to be 108. By going on the special K diet, however, will I gain weight on it because I am not per say, fat. Is this a diet for heavy people?

Thanks !!

I think to lose those 4-5lbs, Special K might work, but you should really just try eating healthy & drinking lots of water. Exercise works too.

whenever im with my gf we always makeout and stuff, but we never go any further. I know shes had sex with one guy and done alot of other stuff with other guys but weve never done anything and its not like we just starting going out. Its not that im asking her to hav sex, but she wont even give me a bj or hj. what can i say or do to get her to 'go further' without saying like can u give me a blowjob?

You can't.

If she doesn't want to go that far with you yet, or at all, then that's that. You can't make her go further than what she's comfortable with.

You need to have a talk with her & ask her what she's willing to do, what she isn't willing to do, if she's ready, etc.

You can't make her do something she doesn't want to do though, so I suggest you stop trying.

Hey everyone :D
So I recently discovered a band called Alexisonfire.. and I'm in love with the singer of the group, his voice is amazing... Well, I was wondering if anyone knew wonderful bands with his type of vocals? I"d appreciate it sooo much... Thanks in advance!

A Day To Remember.
Emery.
Saosin.
The Almost.

I'd have to say that Emery is probably the most like Alexisonfire, so you might like them the best.

im a 13 year old boy who want a job so i can save up in my bank and travel around autralia im wodering where jobs are around melbourne after school hours

You probably won't find much work. Because of your age, and the way that the economy is, it'll be hard to find a job. Sorry.

Okay so will someone please explain what exactly happens when you lose your virginity? i am very comfortable with my body and i have hooked up with people but never all the way yet. i know about hymen sort of but where is it excatly? when i feel around it seems like i don't have one or am not a virgin. how can i tell? help?

If you haven't had vaginal intercourse (where a penis goes inside the vagina), you're a virgin. If you have had sex, then you're not a virgin anymore.

Everyone has different views on virginity though so you'll get a different answer no matter who you ask.

19/female

urrrgh i'm in a bad bad situation :(
i've been at my current work for about a year now. me and this girl carissa who i work with got really close. she just turned 23. well she's always been trying to hook me up with her brother whose 20. he's not cute at all. not my type. we're into different things. she wont stop talking about him though and one day he came into our work and then later carissa told me that he asked who i was because he thought i was hot and wanted to talk to me and so on. well she wont quit on us 3 hanging out. i'm not that outgoing when i first meet people- especially a guy who i know thinks i'm hot. that just makes it more awkward. well i worked with her today and she was like lets all go shopping or to dinner. next tuesday is taco tuesday- lets plan on going then? and i was like uhm okay, i dont think i have anything going on. i feel really bad. she was like unless you and my brother just want to hangout but that might be awkward the first time. i'm thining HELLLO not interested in your brother like that. i can't tell her that though, i feel so rude. i'm a nice person so i'm trying to just go with the flow but i absolutely do NOT want to go to dinner with her and her brother next week. its going to be so dang awkward. and i cant just keep making up lies either on why i wouldnt be able to go. what do i do? she was like and even if you two don't hit it off you can still be friends. and yes that would be cool or whatever, but i don't even want to try to be in a relationship with him. he's just not my type, i know that. i'm stuck ..

You need to tell her straight up. Just be like "Hey, I'm glad you're trying to help your brother find someone nice, and I'm flattered that he thinks I'm attractive, but I just don't see him that way and I would really like it if you stopped pushing him on me."

There is no other way to tell her. If you don't, she'll keep on with it and it'll make you even more annoyed. Just tell her the truth. I'm sure she'll see that you're not trying to be rude, just that you're trying to be truthful.

umm okay so i looove my boyfriends hair when its medium length...he always cuts it so short though and i hate it short ( i dont tell him i hate it short because i dont wanna hurt his feelings) but i just say i like it better medium length...how can i get him to keep it medium length and not cut it? thanks

There really isn't anything that you can do. He has every right to cut his hair & if he likes having it short, then he can have it short.

I guess you could try & compromise with him, but you really can't make him keep it at any length. It's his hair & he'll do what he wants with it. Sorry.

I want these boots but I don't know what brand they are. They say UGG but they're way too cheap. Here's the link: http://www.wearmi.com/Products.aspx?pid=907082038330814

Those are definitely UGGs. If you read it, you'll see that it says $140 but it's crossed off.

They're on sale which is why they're so cheap.

I'm looking to get a new iPod sometime soon (possibly for Christmas) and I've been researching the different kinds they have out right now but am indecisive about which one to get.

I currently have a 4 GB 2nd generation iPod nano, which holds around 1000 songs. This worked great for me back in 2007 when I bought it, but I'm now up to 2000 songs and counting on my library and it won't let me upload anymore, I have to be selective about what I put on there.

So I have a lot of music, and probably get around 5 new songs every few weeks so its getting up there.

Any recommendations?
Is the iPod touch really all its cracked up to be? The 64 GB holds around 14,000 songs.
Or maybe the iPod Classic? Do any of you have one? I go running with my iPod, so do you find that it is annoying to run with? Same for the iPod Touch...?
I'm a little hesitant about the iPod Nano, they update those the most frequently so it would probably be outdated very soon. Then the 16 GB holds 8000 songs..which sounds like a lot but hey, two years ago I thought 1000 was a lot.

So basically what do you all suggest? If you have and iPod Touch or Classic, can you run with it? Was it worth the buy? I want something that holds a TON of music, but isn't too bulky.

Thanks! Lots of different suggestions would be great. =]

There's an iPod classic that is 160GB. It holds roughly around 40,000 songs, so that should be enough.

It's about $250, but that's fairly decent considering it holds so much. You can check it out here:

http://www.apple.com/ipodclassic/

I am mexican, a little dark, brown eyes, and a little chunky. I want something to go with my features that isnt all babyish or skanky. Something comfy. Thanks! F/13

Most Halloween costumes these days are skanky. Maybe get together with a friend & dress up as something that goes together?

I'm not really sure what to be for Halloween myself, so I'm really out of ideas.

today i was shopping somewhere with my friends and we were eating at moes,there were 3 other guys in there (hot guys) and we were like tlking about them. then one of them came up to me and said
him-"one of my friends has a thing for you"
me-"me????"
him-"yeah, he wants to fuck u"

then we talked to them for a while and im 15 they were 19 and one was 17.and then when they were leaving they passed us in their car and honked and threw a piece of paper out the window that had their #s on it. and it said "whenever u want"......should i call them??????????????? because i really want to hook up wit one of them and like everyone is all like "they are too old for you!"

I don't think you should call either of them. Obviously you should be flattered that they find you attractive, but you're jail bait & doing anything with them can get you both in serious trouble. The 19 year old is considered an adult, and you are a minor so I would stay away from him if I were you.

You should also stay away from the 17 year old though because he's turning 18 soon & he'll be off-limits after that. Date a 16 year old or something. Your friends are right when they say that those boys are too old for you. Stay away. You could do without the trouble & so could they.

where do really hot guys hang out usually?????????????????????????????????????????

There isn't a specific place. There isn't a Hotties Hangout or anything. Hot guys can be found anywhere. The mall, the club, a skatepark, the movies, etc.

Go places and you'll find them.

so last year, my friend was in a car accident, and someone close to her died in it. she was in a lot of pain, physically, and was in hospital for a while. she had to be weaned off the painkillers, because she got so addicited to them, and it was really scary, but now she's back to normal. then fo the past two weeks shes been really distant. also she's been taking theese blue capsules. they are a light blue and i'm putting a link to an image of a similar looking pill, but it's a tiny bit darker:
http://images.medscape.com/pi/features/drugdirectory/octupdate/UPJ03950.jpg
it had the word 'ROCHE' on it and another word which i think started with an 'X'. i'm probably worrying over nothing, because she's really smart, but i'm worried she's taking too much, cause i see her take it every day, and i know she got it from a friend, not the doctors. can anyone figure out what it is, and is it addictive. im not going to the teachers, EVER. and her dad just isnt there at all. she's pretty much alone, but she's an amazing person, and i would hate for her to be in trouble.

Your friend may just be insecure about herself. Is she average size or is she big? Xenical Roche is a weight loss drug. She may just be taking those but acting distant because she's scared of what you guys may think.

It's normal for you to be worried. I think that if she's taking these, she's got some serious confidence issues, and could even be developing an eating disorder because most people who do will go to extremes to lose weight. Talk to her about it & let her know that if she needs anything, you're always there for her.

I use to love the Disney Channel and could sit for hours watching it. On the weekends I would be glued to that television! When I was little I watched things like The Care Bears, My Little Pony, and The Many Adventures of Winnie the Pooh but later I watched The Proud Family, That's So Raven, and Even Stevens (Shia LaBeouf is awesome). Now, I can't stand to watch that stuff! Especially with the Jonas brothers and Hannah Montana / Miley Cyrus. I can't even STAND to watch The Suite Life of Zack & Cody!

I'm 14 though and, like I'm saying, I use to LOVE Disney. Why don't I any more? My friends like it...

You grew out of it. It's completely normal. I used to watch shows like Pepper Ann and Even Stevens, and Lizzie McGuire. Stuff like that. I have watched The Suite Life of Zack & Cody, but I stopped watching when they switched to the boat. I do watch Wizards of Waverly Place & Sonny With A Chance though, and I'm 18.

Either way, it's completely normal to outgrow things. It'll happen with clothes, a certain style, bands, etc. Your friends will catch up eventually but it's all fine for you not to watch it. Why don't you try watching Degrassi or something. Maybe that show will be more your speed.

16/f

what do i wear to a concert? i know it's dumb, but it's my first real concert, and i want something nice but not trashy. i live in the UK, so something with in a 16 yr old's price range, and that's avalible here. also does anyone know the Set they are playing now? thanks!!!

You can either wear a dress, or jeans/t shirt or something. You don't have to be dressed super fancy to go to a concert.

As far as their set, I'm not sure which one they're using for the GK tour right now, but I do know that with each tour they tend to switch it up.

Maybe try looking it up on their website or their MySpace or something. Maybe even look on AbsolutePunk.net. You can look on the forums.

im a 15 yr old girl and i find my self being really attracted to boys and girls and it really freaks me out when i am around a girl im attracted to because i know im not suppose to fell that way but i do

I don't think you are.

You're 15. Most 15 year old girls are curious when it comes to same sex relationships, and just mess around to experiment. Chances are that you may be bi-curious. You won't know that until you experience a relationship with both. If you feel the same way about girls as you do boys (sexually, emotionally, etc) then you're probably bi. If you come to terms with yourself & decide you only like girls then you're a lesbian but if you like both, you're bi-sexual.

Don't put a label on yourself just yet. Experiment & find yourself a little more before you declare to be anything.

so when i turn 14 in january i wont to get a saturday job but not sure what jobs are for 14 year olds has anyone got any ideas ?

There aren't any.

Most grocery stores won't hire anyone under 16. You're very lucky if they hire at 15. Restaurants like McDonald's or diners hire around 16 or 17. And most other places don't hire til 18.

You probably won't find very many places that are willing to hire a 14 year old because of labor laws, etc. Just babysit on the weekends or rake leaves or something. You're not gonna find a normal job for a few more years.

Which is better? Which is more common?

Circumcision is very common, and most men you'll meet will be circumcised. I haven't met many men who weren't, but there are guys who haven't been circumcised.

I would say that being circumcised is better, but that's a personal choice between the parents so it's really up to you.

I would do a little research on both.

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