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am i a lesbian
im a 15 yr old girl and i find my self being really attracted to boys and girls and it really freaks me out when i am around a girl im attracted to because i know im not suppose to fell that way but i do
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You are still young, you'd be surprised how many girls go through this. But you'll been fine. Just try not to think about girls in that way, and don't stress about it. You still like boys so your not a lesbian. If anything you would be bisexual, and then it really is completely up to you if you ever act on those feelings of attraction or not. Don't worry, your still growing and changing. Don't try and label your self right now. If you have any more questions or whatever feel free to message me, I'll do my best to help you <3
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I don't think you are.
You're 15. Most 15 year old girls are curious when it comes to same sex relationships, and just mess around to experiment. Chances are that you may be bi-curious. You won't know that until you experience a relationship with both. If you feel the same way about girls as you do boys (sexually, emotionally, etc) then you're probably bi. If you come to terms with yourself & decide you only like girls then you're a lesbian but if you like both, you're bi-sexual.
Don't put a label on yourself just yet. Experiment & find yourself a little more before you declare to be anything.
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
At your present age I would be hesitant to place a label on your sexuality. At this age both boys and girls are still trying to figure out their sexuality. To label yourself as a Lesbian or even bi-curious would not only be wrong but self defeating at this time. To even put this in the category of a phase that most young people go through would not be right either.
There are a number of reasons for sexual attraction to someone of our own sex at this age. First and foremost is the fact it is safer and easier to relieve the sexual tension brought on by the changing hormones your body is producing. Parents think nothing of two children of the same sex being behind closed doors, sleeping together, even in the same bed, particularly females.
I have known women that have been bi all through college, then gone straight heterosexual afterwards. Reason it was easier and sex was more available if you were bi; it was also safer.
My advice: Don’t put a label on your sexuality at this time. Just enjoy learning about who you are sexually. When you are more adult if you still want to put a label on your sexuality then do so, but for now just enjoy being you.
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There is no such thing as how you're "supposed" to feel when it comes to attraction.
That being said, prejudice is a real thing, I'd keep it to myself until I figured it out if I were you. Meaning don't tell your parents you're bi until you've actually started dating a girl.
It sucks to be labeled, so keep private information private and spend some time thinking about it.
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You are probably bi courious but I could be wrong. there is nothing wrong with it though when i was your age even younger than you i was bi courios so. you just want to experiment. you dont have to worry about telling anyone if you dont want to. wait a couple years and see how you feel later on.
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