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my gf isn't doing
whenever im with my gf we always makeout and stuff, but we never go any further. I know shes had sex with one guy and done alot of other stuff with other guys but weve never done anything and its not like we just starting going out. Its not that im asking her to hav sex, but she wont even give me a bj or hj. what can i say or do to get her to 'go further' without saying like can u give me a blowjob?
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Why not jsut be honest with her? Just talk to her and ask her if she wants to take the relationship a little bit further. If she gives you a reason then you should respect it but if not then talking about maybe bringing the relationship to a new level.
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You can't.
If she doesn't want to go that far with you yet, or at all, then that's that. You can't make her go further than what she's comfortable with.
You need to have a talk with her & ask her what she's willing to do, what she isn't willing to do, if she's ready, etc.
You can't make her do something she doesn't want to do though, so I suggest you stop trying.
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It's hard to tell without actually knowing her...she could be shy, she could be wanting to wait, she could be wanting you to make the first move...Really, unless you think she'd be comfortable with you like moving her hand so she does,(which most girls would hate) the only thing you can do is talk about it. Because really, if you're not mature to talk about it, you shouldn't be doing it anyway.
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You can't
maybe she really likes you? doesn't want to rush things scared that doing something right now could ruin your relationship. the worst thing you can do is make her feel prepressured into having sex or doing anything she isn't ready for. just because she did those things with another guy doesnt mean she is ready with you he may have forced her in some sort.
being forced is the same as rape. weather she or you see it that way and she may have done it willingly but she probably said she wasnt ready or felt pressured into doing it. if you really care about this girl dont hurt her.
stick to your hand for a little bit and i heard doing that before people go on a date or something it really helps.
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You can't 'get' her to go further.
You have to ask her what she her comfort level with sexual activity is. You have to listen to what she tells you when she tells you what she thinks and how she feels about doing anything more physically intimate then you already are.
I know, I know, we all want this shit to 'just happen' but that isn't the way it works between mature, consenting adults. In a mature and healthy relationship, you talk things through first.
If you can't be mature enough, and respectful enough to have a serious talk with a girl about what you both want, and your values and views on sex, then frankly, no girl should be doing anything sexual with you until you can.
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