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she's pushing her brother on me.
19/female
urrrgh i'm in a bad bad situation :(
i've been at my current work for about a year now. me and this girl carissa who i work with got really close. she just turned 23. well she's always been trying to hook me up with her brother whose 20. he's not cute at all. not my type. we're into different things. she wont stop talking about him though and one day he came into our work and then later carissa told me that he asked who i was because he thought i was hot and wanted to talk to me and so on. well she wont quit on us 3 hanging out. i'm not that outgoing when i first meet people- especially a guy who i know thinks i'm hot. that just makes it more awkward. well i worked with her today and she was like lets all go shopping or to dinner. next tuesday is taco tuesday- lets plan on going then? and i was like uhm okay, i dont think i have anything going on. i feel really bad. she was like unless you and my brother just want to hangout but that might be awkward the first time. i'm thining HELLLO not interested in your brother like that. i can't tell her that though, i feel so rude. i'm a nice person so i'm trying to just go with the flow but i absolutely do NOT want to go to dinner with her and her brother next week. its going to be so dang awkward. and i cant just keep making up lies either on why i wouldnt be able to go. what do i do? she was like and even if you two don't hit it off you can still be friends. and yes that would be cool or whatever, but i don't even want to try to be in a relationship with him. he's just not my type, i know that. i'm stuck ..
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Find a guy that likes you, you like him, or make one up. Talk about him to her. Everyday. Talk about how much you like him. On and on and on and on. And maybe tell her that you have known him for a long long time. You have liked him for forever...maybe this way she can tell that her brother has no chance...Tell her little stories of how you and this guy have been talking and the times you have hung out. This should make her calm down a little. If she doesn't seem to be calm, don't lose hope. When you three go to dinner, text one of your guy friends and tell them to call you, talk to him and act like its the guy. tell him you will call him back you gotta go Then act all excited and constantly talk about him after. You could be straight forward too about it and tell her you are not looking to be in a relationship with her brother. But that's a really hard thing to do without hurting anyone's feeling, so I would talk about some guy. :D..goodluck, and i hope this works.
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okay. so what i think you should do is tell your co-worker that you really aren't looking to be in with someone in a relationship and you appreciate her trying to hook you up with her brother and all. especially thinking that you were good enough for her brother. but you just rather be nothing but friends.
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You need to tell her straight up. Just be like "Hey, I'm glad you're trying to help your brother find someone nice, and I'm flattered that he thinks I'm attractive, but I just don't see him that way and I would really like it if you stopped pushing him on me."
There is no other way to tell her. If you don't, she'll keep on with it and it'll make you even more annoyed. Just tell her the truth. I'm sure she'll see that you're not trying to be rude, just that you're trying to be truthful.
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wow dont you just hate that!well to be honest i wouldnt tell her that your not interested in her brother i would probibly tell the brother himself once you get a chance or even when you guys go out just show no interest in him.its not like youv been going out or anything so if you tell him from the start then hell understand but if you tell the sister shell get all ofended then tell the brother some over exaggerated story and then theyll both be angry at you.but if you tell the bro first and make him understand then hell talk to the sister and tell her not to fuss
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