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So My boyfriend and I have been going through a hard time right now due to him cheating and us fighting all the time because I lost trust in him and he is doing nothing to gainit back. Anyways we were fooling around in bed last night and he started going "down there" I told him I didnt want to have sex at the moment he got mad at me right away and stormed off. When I went to talk to him he went on and on about how he doesnt feel loved anymore. I told him the reason I didnt want to or couldnt have sex was I, getting me monthly. He didnt even give me a chance earlier to explain that to him....I wasnt intending we stop fooling around just couldnt have sex but I could of done other but he didnt give me a chance. He just got mad and said whatever I dont like your shitty attitude and went back to bed and rolled over. I was quite upset but I am tired as it was after midnight and I have to be up by 5am for work so I fell asleep. Awhile later I slowly woke up to the bed shaking....he was laying there masturbating beside me and getting mad and sighing because i wasnt doing anything. I was so hurt by the way he acted earlier with such disrespect how could he think I would at all be interested in "taking care" of him hours later....this was around 3am! He started trying to force me to do it but I just pulled away and told him that his attitude towards me earlier hurt me and I dont think he is being too respectful now as to expect me to take care of him I am not just a skank I am supposed to be his love.....and there was no emotion, no apology nothing. Anyways he got the hint got pissed off again and said I should find another guy cause hes not for me.....I fell back asleep. We didnt talk much this morning he glared at me a few times trying to act tough and like nothing was bothering him. I was so tired and had enough I just got ready for work and got my son ready as well.
So what Im wondering about is how should I take his actions? Do I have a right to be upset? Please I need help.....I feel like he thinks of me more as a sex object for his needs more than anything. He is always talking/flirting/texting other girls and so on...he seems to be never satisfied with just me. Ive even caught him on dating sites this is why I dont trust him and I am finding it hard being close to him and with him acting this way it makes me feel unwanted and unloved. Please help! (link)
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well I am sorry to hear that you are dating a man like this. He has absolutely no respect for you. It makes me mad that he would pressure and try to force you to do that stuff. I had an ex who was the same way, but he never cheated on me. It is a big problem when you are in a relationship with someone and you find them on dating sites and flirting with other girls. That is untrustworthy and not tolerable. I think you have no right to trust him. I know every relationship has problems..but these kinds of problems are dangerous to yourself and your son. This man will make you feel less of yourself, and will be a bad role model for your son. Please I advise you to get out of this relationship ASAP. It is easier said than done, but do it for yourself, yourself comes before anyone else, what comes before yourself though is family, and that is your son. Would you want him to have this man a father figure for your son? Maybe your son still see's his father..I don't know the whole story, I can't assume. but my advise for you is to get out. He is making excuses and saying he feels unloved to make you feel guilty and give in to that guilt..my ex pulled that trick on me everytime. He would try to make me feel bad for things when in reality it was his fault. he was a manipulative bastard. Once I saw how manipulative he could be and made me feel I left. I know I deserve better. No one deserves to be treated this way.
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I just started my new school , and I've been seeing this boy when I'm in the hallways going to another class. I think he is really cute. How do i talk to him ? I never talked/introduce myself to a boy before. Any advice or help ! Please. BOYSS cann you answer to ! Thank-You ! You may say this is childish but to me its not . So can you not say that , cause I do have feelings , noo we never talked or sayed nothing to each other just looked into each other eyes. (link)
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hmm, well have you tried facebook or myspace? maybe he has one and thats best to start talking to him there, but that is if you know his name..if you don't know his name you can try looking around and asking friends if they know him and if not well i use this method and it's really stupid haha i went up to this kid and i thought he was reall cute and he always wore this really nice striped sweater so i went up to him and said "hey i like your sweater, i noticed you like to wear it a lot" and he said thanks and so i just asked him "whats you name? or what class you going to?" and then you can start conversation from there, try to comment him on something, like do you know anything about him that you can use that to start a convo? do you know if he is in any school teams? well i hope this helped a bit.
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ok so like about 4 months ago i REALLY liked this guy and we kind of had a thing but then he hooked up with my friend so i was hurt. but then he apoligized so i was like whatever. Then my other friend used him ( this is why i was over him) to get back at her ex. so i laughed becuase it was really funny the way it went down. ANYWAYS so weve been talking agian for about 2 months now and hes been flirting ALOT but i've never said anything back all i say is haah aww thanks or something like that but deep down inside i stil like him a litte. But tonight he asked me to homecoming and its a long story but I ended up saying no but we were chill bout it and we just keep talking like this never happend. so what i'm trying to ask is did I do the right thing like I feel sad inside becuase I did want to go with him but it would've been awk cause I wouldnt have none anyone except my best friend becuase they go to a diff school. but anyways like why do i still like him after all this? im not a person to be like yeah i'll go to homecoming with you im a very shy and conservative person idont know i feel sad and confused =[ help thanks (link)
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okay, so i know exactly how you feel, i think it might be lust, i have liked a guy for awhile, he is so cute and all, but he is just a jerk, like this guy that you are talking about sounds like a jerk and a player, i think if you went out with him to homecoming it would have been awkward and also i don't think you would have gotten much out of it, if you guys ever date i think things wouldn't last that long, he seems like a guy that just likes to flirt A LOT, i think it was the best for you to not go with him, you shouldn't put yourself in that situation, but if you don't mind having a little fling with him, then go ahead, some people want that. him going around with all your friends sounds like a player. anyways, i hope i helped a bit!
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ok im 15/F
i might be in love with my best friend!!!
i mean ive been straight for a while but it just came to me that i love her. I had a dream bout her one night went to school saw her and fell in love with her. Its wierd. What should i do. Should i say something or i dont know!!! (link)
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wow the same thing happened to me. i fell in love with my bestfriend. but i know for a fact she loves loves men. lol. so i couldn't tell her. but for me i got over her cuz my mom didn't like her so she made us stop being friends. now a year later my mom has more trust in me to let me hang out with her all the time. i got over my love for her but sometimes it sneaks up on me. i just think you should be happy you love your bestfriend but don't tell her. i'm sorry it's tough. but if your gay or bisexual. it's best to be careful to who you fall in love with. it's hard because you have no idea on who you'll fall in love with..haha wow this was a long time ago so you must have solved this by now. but umm, i just think you enjoy the time with her being a friend. appreciate her company..and that's the most you can do. sorry if i didn't help.
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me and my boyfriend have been going out for two years and two months now. we were best friends we were okay. but heres the problem he has friends good im glad he does but he hangs out with them EVERY DAY! if we hang out and i leave at 11 he goes to his friends house. sometimes theres girls there and the girls there are for his friends. ok. he says that he only loves me blah blah blah my problem is that he turned into one of them. everyone knows that guys act different when there with their friends well my boyfriend is with them alll the time and he constanly acts liket them. his friends are very protective secretive. so if i asked my boyfriend where he got free tickets to go mini golfing he says "dont worry about it" hmm that pisses me off and if i argue about it that he shouldnt be so secretive he complains that i need to know everything. he tells me to shutup and he ALWAYS wants to go to his friends house. he says he would always rather hang with me. ?? the other night i argued with him how he needs to stop being so disrepectful and he just doesnt see how he is being one he just argues back and says how im always being a bitch. i told him id break up if it continues he just keeps doing it. i asked if he could go one day without talking to them or hanging out with them he says no. i dont know what to do to get my boyfriend back. is it too late? am i really being the bitch? should i end it? why? how? if i end it i need help. i love him so much its just constant arguing now. if i was answering this id say break up, but i dont want to. just help me please. (link)
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okay. so i really don't feel like your the bitch. everyone has their own opinion on things and i feel like i will mostly agree with yours. I think people do change and there's a chance that he is like his friends. If he keeps constantly changing his mind about whether to hang out with you..i feel like that means he prefers to hang out with his friends over you. it's hard to hear and he will always say no matter what that he likes to hang out with you more than his friends. what i think is that he is probably getting tired and bored of the relationship. probably watching his friends with other girls isn't a good example too. but of course you can't force somebody to change. later on he'll probably change again and show his girlfriend more attention (this is saying if you guys break up, because he can move on and so can you)..but the best thing i think is that if there is constant fighting and you and he is not happy..then why should you be together? i know it's tough. but come on, life shouldn't be limited. other fish in the sea right? i really think long relationships are for older people like probably age 25. that's what i think. or whoever is ready. i think the best thing is to explore other people. but i don't mean like being a slut. you learn something new out of every relationship. you can try working things out but if things don't change then what's the point if your not happy? i'm sorry if this isn't good advice. i try.
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So I was watching that movie today ^ And Joel made the best point ever that I've been trying to put into words for myself for the longest time. He was writing in his journal and asked himself "Why is it that I fall in love with every girl that shows me the slightest bit of attention?" This statement is true for me as well, -except for me, its boys, but you get the idea. So I've been wondering the same thing,but when it comes down to it I just honestly don't know. So I'm kind of hoping you guys know the answer? I'm stumped, but it happens to me often. Does anyone know why? Or is this just the poetic version of a pathetic question hopeless romantics ask themselves everyday? How do I change? Ah.. thanks. (link)
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i think it happens to everyone. it sure happens to me. i think it happens because we are in a state of lonliness. you just want a little company and affection and when that one boy gives that to you, you just automatically like them and think about them. but then later on you notice you don't really like them. you just like the ATTENTION they give you. i have no idea how to make yourself change. i am in the middle of doing that myself. just tell yourself that before you jump into conclusions of liking someone...just wait a while and you will see if your truly like that person or you just like the attention they give you. i hope i kinda helped.
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i love edie sedgwick and i want to quote her for my yearbook,
know any good ones she said? (link)
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your the boss applesauce.
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19/female
urrrgh i'm in a bad bad situation :(
i've been at my current work for about a year now. me and this girl carissa who i work with got really close. she just turned 23. well she's always been trying to hook me up with her brother whose 20. he's not cute at all. not my type. we're into different things. she wont stop talking about him though and one day he came into our work and then later carissa told me that he asked who i was because he thought i was hot and wanted to talk to me and so on. well she wont quit on us 3 hanging out. i'm not that outgoing when i first meet people- especially a guy who i know thinks i'm hot. that just makes it more awkward. well i worked with her today and she was like lets all go shopping or to dinner. next tuesday is taco tuesday- lets plan on going then? and i was like uhm okay, i dont think i have anything going on. i feel really bad. she was like unless you and my brother just want to hangout but that might be awkward the first time. i'm thining HELLLO not interested in your brother like that. i can't tell her that though, i feel so rude. i'm a nice person so i'm trying to just go with the flow but i absolutely do NOT want to go to dinner with her and her brother next week. its going to be so dang awkward. and i cant just keep making up lies either on why i wouldnt be able to go. what do i do? she was like and even if you two don't hit it off you can still be friends. and yes that would be cool or whatever, but i don't even want to try to be in a relationship with him. he's just not my type, i know that. i'm stuck .. (link)
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okay. so what i think you should do is tell your co-worker that you really aren't looking to be in with someone in a relationship and you appreciate her trying to hook you up with her brother and all. especially thinking that you were good enough for her brother. but you just rather be nothing but friends.
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This guy I'd been dating had a birthday party on Saturday. I got wasted and made out with his roommate for 3 hours. My best friend had a crush on his roommate. Now pretty much everyone hates me. Any ideas for damage control on this one? (link)
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okay, so of course no one is going to forgive you right away. if its just a crush, your best friend will get over it sooner or later, things like this happens to everyone. you should also maybe lay on the down low. if the boy you have been dating is still with you, then show him that your trying by maybe not drinking around him and showing him you really care by doing some of the things he wanted you to do but you never did. (only if he is very important to you)..mostly when people are drunk they show their true feelings and thoughts..so maybe deep down your not in love with this guy, but i understand if you want to still be with him. i know your probably told him you were sorry and everything else that everyone says. and if you dont normally do this stuff, then let him know. it was a first time mistake. i learned from it, but i dont want to lose you. and about your bestfriend, if she really is your best friend, then in the end she will get over it. tell her that you had no intention of ruining your friendship and that you understand that things might not be the same but maybe you can rebuild your friendship and trust slowly. its going to be hard, no one likes to lose friends or boyfriends over these stupid reasons of drinking. i have been through it too. but your going to have to wait it out. it will take some time. all you need is hope and patience. any questions?
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15/f
Alright, so this boy I like was flirting with me in 2nd hour like crazy, and so I teased him and gave him a hug and all that, and he grabs my arm to keep me from giving hugs etc. etc. and my friend says "Quit flirting, you can do better than him."
Well I told my mom about it all and she says I gotta be careful or people will call me a slut. (I've not even had my first kiss yet though so that's impossible...)
So..... it's not like this happens everyday, the hugging thing I mean. So, am I still ok as long as this doesn't go on all the time or is my image already not very good?
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haha wow..i think your mom needs to search up the definition for slut..definently hugging is not a slut. everyone hugs. family members hug, good friends hug..hugging is e friendly gesture..nothing more...now sleeping with different boy ever week is a slut..so dont worry..keep passing hugs around!
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i really like this guy but he still has feelings for his ex. he doesntknow i like him. we spend a lot of time together and get along great. and he talks to me differently then he does with others. i mean i always thought he likes me until he randomly told me that he likes his ex ( we talk about feelings a lot)
i dont really wanna tell him i like him, i just wanna get him to like me. we've only known eachother for about a month. he gets a long great with girls so im deffinetely not the only girl he hangs out with. hes like a gay best friend but not gay haha. how can i get him to like me ?? i really like him alot. (hes been broken up with his ex for 2 years now but still likes her :/, she has a bf ) (link)
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hmmm, well i know the way you feel. i feel the same way about my guy friend. i like him but i feel like he is like a gay best friend but not gay at all. i love him...but anyways back to you, i think you should def, tell him the way you feel, because its obvious he likes you and he talks about his ex girlfriend to see the way you react to it. thats how guys know if you like them or something, its stupid yeah but anyways just tell him, "hey i just wanted to let you know that i have feelings for you, and i want to know if you feel the same way"..dont let this chance go cuz you will regret it. i regret it. so take risks. you will see that its much easier to find out than just always wonder "what if.." and be stuck with pain..so just tell him, i am sure things will end out good. but if not, just know that once you find out they dont like you its easier to accept than just always think that "what happens if he likes me?" all the time, then it will be harder in the end to get over him. i hope i helped a little..let me know :)
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Im a 14 year old girl who has a major crush on her friend who happens to be a cute n funny guy. We hang out in class and i told him i liked him i even asked my sis to ask him if he likes me he said no but continues to flirt, hug, and make me laugh. No matter what i do i cant get over him. I dont know what to do. (link)
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aw, i have the same situation..for me, i tried to move on by just trying to distance myself from the guy, but i notice that i missed him and yeah it will be really tough first but you just have to tell him the truth about how you truly feel. tell him that you have feelings for him and that you know that he doesnt feel the same for you but just say that its hard to move on and that maybe you need some space for awhile so you can feel a little better...and maybe he continues to flirt and hug you and stuff because he might do the same to every other girl..watch him if he does that to other girls..if not maybe he does like you. maybe he doesn't know it yet until you actually distance yourself from him. we always want what we cant have..and it sucks..but if you really want him and you dont care if your going to risk yourself (because you might get hurt) then go after him and dont give up :)..i hope i helped a little..
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Basically, when I was in fifth grade I began self mutilation. It's been on and off ever since then. I'm a sophmore now. When I was in sixth grade I was at my worst, I cut every day. I cut over everything, anything that somewhat upset me. Eventually one of my friends found out, told everyone and someone went to my school guidance office and they then called my parents and what not. My parents would try, they truly would. They put me in counseling but I just could not open up to them because I truly have no trust in those people.
In seventh grade, I barely ever cut. I think I did maybe about, 5 times at most. In the summer going into eighth grade I cut myself one time. During the school year I didn't cut a single time, but I did however get involved with smoking weed. Only on occasion however. Once or twice, not too bad I guess. During January of this year (2008) I was sent to the hospital for OD'ing. Suicide has always been in the picture, since the beginning of cutting.. I have had numerous attempts at suicide. But for the first time, my parents actually took notice and I spent the night in the hospital.
In ninth grade, I attempted to OD I believe twice, but I didn't let anyone know. I just wanted out. I'm no longer suicidal, in fact death scares the shit out of me. But I have begun cutting again.
I don't want to get help from strangers, my parents, friends or family. I want to get better myself because each time I would receive help from someone else, it did nothing. That last time I cut myself before I fell back into the habit was the summer of eighth grade, going into ninth. The last time cutting since I've fallen back in, less than an hour ago.
I can't help it, I truly don't know what to do. I need to stop, and I recognize that. Self mutilation doesn't solve anything, it makes things harder. I know the first step is to admit, blah blah blah. But that's not true. I need to stop, and I need to now. But I can guarantee if I don't get some sort of ways to not do it, it's going to keep happening. (link)
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hmm this is tough, i have been through self mutilation before too, and its hard to stop..so i understand, now what got me to stop?..well it was by me expressing myself in different ways..maybe you dont have to talk it out with councelers or anything, maybe writing a journal or writing poetry or writing about the way you feel. because isnt the reason for self mutilation is to let your feelings out?..or to just feel numb?..or maybe i am wrong, i am so sorry if i havent helped. i have had this problem too, and worse but its all the same. therapists helped me out a lot but not everything works out for people. yeah its good that you want to do this by yourself..so maybe try one of the things that i suggested, see maybe if it works. whenever i felt sad i would take sleeping pills so i can hopefully forget once i wake up..sometimes i still do it now..but we will both get through this..nothing can tear us apart. and you have to start loving yourself, because another reason why i would do self mutilation is because i always hated myself and got angry at myself whenever i got upset, even when it wasnt even my fault...anyways i have to stop. sorry, hope i helped a little. :)
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So i have a problem. theres this guy who used to like me a few years ago, and i rejected him many times. Now a few years later, we don't talk at all anymore, infact things are pretty awkward between us and we just ignore eachoter. But randomly i decided i like him now, actually for a while, but we don't talk at all and things are still awkward. and the very least i want us to be friends. how do i make that happen??
plzzz helppp!
just to give you an idea : iam slightly shy and awkward, he is not but i have resently learned he is scared to make the first move bcz hes scared of rejection....
okayy plzzz help mee! (link)
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aww..reading this makes me a little sad cuz i have a situation like this....but actually really different. anyways, i think what you should do is that maybe you guys have a myspace or facebook or email? something? so you should write him something like "hey i havent spoken to you in awhile, look i want to actually talk to you face to face about something"..(its easier writing this than face to face)..so hopefully you guys meet up face to face and tell him that your sorry for the rejetions that you gave him and you do want to go out with him. and tell him that you hope that your not too late. and that your really serious abou this..(but you have to really be serious about this because you dont want to end up putting his hopes up)..or maybe you should tell him that you want you guys to be friends again and tell him how you feel and that you miss him, because i bet you do. and tell him that maybe while you guys are rebuilding your friendship you can take the next level :)..i hope i helped a bit..i sometimes onfuse myself when i give out advice..i hope i didnt confuse you :) good luck, tell me how it goes okay?
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Expressing myself through a computer screen Is very hard to do.So sharing info with random people is something i have never done in my life.But im just screaming for help and I have to be heard in one way or another.And im not here to be told that im just overreacting or that i just have to never give up because i've heard it all before and my pain runs so much deeper then that.So listen and just try to spare me the tough love and just help me by giving me the best advice possibly because that it what i really need right now.
This litte feeling that takes over me has been happening since I was a tyke. I mean i felt like my family has always teamed up on me.I guess you can call me the black sheep of my family.I mean my childhooh has been pretty rough but its not about that.The problem is that I feel like im always beening smothered.Like I can never breath in fresh air.When i was younger i used to live in this house that was huge..but sadly it burned to the ground in a huge house fire.So now i live in this box..literally.I feel like in going crazy.The house is over crowded by immature siblings and grown ups.My mom is 40 and so is my dad and those two argue like five year old kids.Im 17 years old and i still cover my ears everytime they go at.Im just so over the whole thing.Being here doesnt feel like a home and im just really ready to live.I mean what parents would want their kids to be around all this screaming and cursing.Im very disappointed in the both of them.Problem #2.The only person that i really felt close to was my twin sister.Its like I was born with my own best friend.From dressing alike to laughing at each others jokes..she was my rib.But no..when she got her so-called boyfriend things changed big time.She start saying things to me like how i couldnt keep a boyfriend becuase no one liked me and how i had no friends.Things that will scar my heart for life.Things she would have never said to me.And she really put me down when she got a job before me.I gratuated in may of 09 and have been looking for a job to help pay for college out of pocket.Im just so sick of being left out.As for friends..My life asnt been anything but a big competion with me.Why does frinedship have to be about jealousy.I can honestly say I never had true blue friends.Now a day everybody just compete's with everyone.No one's honest anymore.I just wanna go to college and start my life.But since I have no money..I have to work for it.Please dont tell me that there's finacial aid becuase i have recieved that but still its nott enough.Yes..I have applied for scholarships and grants.And no..mom and dad cant help becuase their just as selfish as the next person.All they can think about is buying the next hottest car becuase one of their co-workers have it.I need to find myself spiritually but cant never stay focused do to the negative things people fill my head with.I feel like cyring everyday.I just wanna break out of the walls and start my life they I want to. What can I do..? Please you guys..I feel so alone in this world. (link)
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well i would like to say i understand how you feel..but i havent gone through all the problems you have gone through but yes my sister/bestfriend has hurt me a lot, and i understand how you can feel alone...looking at you and your parents, you two are very different, they care about tangible luxaries and you are just looking to live. you should do some meditation or buddhism, if you want to find yourself spiritually. my oldest sister does buddhism and it does help relieve stress and mental pain. and about your sister getting a job before you, some people are luckier than others..but think of this, there is definently a better job out there and you will be the one getting it in the end. look you can try discussing to your family about this but i am not saying that they will definently understand..your parents seem to be just like my dad...he thinks that just because i have a home over my head and some food means that i should be happy. no, things dont work that way..and you may look healthy on the outside but you can be mentally ill on the inside..so i just hope you are able to find some piece of mind with all of this..and im sure you will go through with this..life is about going through obstacles and showing that you are strong enough to not be torn apart. dont let your family break you down, just think of soo much you can accomplish. and you are not alone..so many people go through this everyday..and some are luckier..but i hope i helped a little..just look at everyday a day closer to you finally living :)
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I do this exercise routine pretty much everyday..
1) 25 sit-ups.
2) 25 "backward" sit-ups. (You know..its like a sit-up but with ur legs moving up and down instead of stomach)
3) 20 of this waist exercise
4) 35 of another waist exercise
5) 15 lunges for each leg
6) 15 squats
7) The plank. I do that 30 seconds twice.
8) I lift 5 lb weights on each arm 20 times.
9) 10 more times of just lifting the 5 lb weight.
Then I'm done..
It get's quite annoying doing this every night..but I feel the need to =/ I don't know why. I'm not fat or anything. I used to be which is why I started exercising in the first place.I just do it every night now. But, I know it's a lot. I just want some advice on whether I should cut down how much I do or what?
Everytime I try to limit myself to 6 days a week..I feel like I'm going to get fat again. I probably have some kind of problem lol I don't know :( Help?!
Thankyou. (link)
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okay...well, i had anorexia..and i felt the same way..i did excercise every night because i felt like i needed to..and when i tried cutting down i would still back out of it and do excercise every night..so yes i did get scared that i would get fat..but if ou have symptons of having huge fear of getting fat, not eating a little bi of food cuz you think you will gain weight..then there might be a problem...so just go on google and search the symptoms of anorexia...good luck :)
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15/f
i like this boy who is a swimmer and he is a year older than me and he is really hot but the problem is, we have never once talked before. i'm pretty sure he doesn't even know who i am. i asked him to be my friend on facebook randomly, he goes to my school. he is not very social, and he has a twin brother who i hear is his best friend. sometimes i see him at lunch, he sits a table away from me with an asain boy (also a swimmer), and they barley talk. he is really shy. its really weird, we look at eachother sometimes and make eye contact, but thats all. we've never said hi. the people i sit with at lunch dont know i like him. i really want to say hi and talk to him or something but i dont know if he'll think im weird or something or i don't know. will he? is that weird to do? since we totally dont know eachother? were not in any classes together. i also wanna talk to him on facebook chat or something but i don't know what to say. any ideas? i saw him going into art one time and i'm in art too so i could be like hey i saw you holding a sketchbook, do you like art? but i don't know if that's weird to like randomly say. help please!!! anything will help. (link)
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well you should def. write on his wall saying "hey i see you around school, you swim right?"..and then see if he responds..if he doesnt then dont worry, just go up to him and just say hi..confidence is everything..even if your not you can totally act like you are..so just have a nice smile on your face and act fun..if he doesnt respond to that, then he is a jerk..but you seem like a nice girl, so im sure all will go well :)..good luck, haha i am 15 years old too..and i have my own share of problems with boys..hope i helped a little
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and i'm not exaggerating, there's nothing there- i have hips, started my period, etc. and my chest is completely flat as of a 10-year-olds. im 110 lbs, almost 5'6, and i'm really starting to wonder if i will ever get them. is it possible i'll just stay flat-chested the rest of my life and have the chest of a man? as you can imagine i'm really starting to hate and feel completely self-conscious about my body, even though i wear padded bras, etc. i can't do that my entire life and i'm starting to be really really concerned because i've been waiting for them to grow for about 6 years now (some of my friends started developing as early as age 9.) now every single girl my age has them and as much as people tell me i'm "just a late bloomer" and i "still have time" well guess what? i have a woman's body (hips and all), but absolutely no chest what-so-ever. every. single. girl. i. have. ever. seen. or. met. has. boobs. my. age. not only that, but all other signs of puberty are there. so how can i accept myself like this or continue to wait it out? my mom started developing when she was in junior high, and i'm in TENTH, yes tenth grade. i can't even go swimming because guys and girls will plainly see my non-existant chest and it will be it's completely repulsive. please help if you have any advice at all i would really appreciate it :(
thank you
p.s.: (sorry if this is really long), and please don't give me answers if you're gunna say something like "you're only 15 stop being so god damn impatient", it's easy to say coming from someone who's not in my position, believe me. when you're surrounded by people who all have something you don't and are supposed to have, it's a bit destructive on your self esteem. (link)
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well yeah i get it, it does ruin your self esteem. but you still have time, i mean you got until your 18. everyone is different in their unique way. maybe your boobs wont grow, but hey you got your other parts of your body like your hips and your butt...boobs arent everything. but im sure you will get something :)
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I like this guy at school, and he likes me, he asked me out at the start of the year like 2nd day of school and i said no because im not the most confident person around guys. I gues is how i would put it. He told me a couple of weeks ago he still has feelings for me and that he loves me. Then he asked me what i thought of him i told him i do like him to and yeh from then on we got closer. He is now my boyfriend. Im a shy kind of person and im happy to admit that but it gets the better of me. The other day after we said goodbye and hugged, he kissed me, i froze, and kind of stepped back. I didnt expect him to kiss me. the next night he asked me whether i think of him differently because of what happened but i dont. i love him just as much. But he asked me why i stepped back. i answered "i wasn't expecting it, i gues." he didnt mind. but since then we hug and stuff but we dont kiss. I Havent kissed any one ever before and it kinda freaks me out. He always askes me if we could kiss. I always say yes but i chicken out when it happens at the last minute. I dont know why. It gets really awkward. I want to kiss him but ive never kissed someone before and i just chicken out :( hellpppp... (link)
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well maybe you should tell your boyfriend how you never kissed before..i know that when i first kissed i was so nervous because i dont want to kiss bad haha...but if your boyfriend is understanding, then he will get it. just take baby steps, maybe start a nice kiss on the cheek and move up from there. and when you are kissing him think about the time you were happiest together..that helps you get in the mood of just wanting to grab him and kiss him :) good luck
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