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Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind..
So I was watching that movie today ^ And Joel made the best point ever that I've been trying to put into words for myself for the longest time. He was writing in his journal and asked himself "Why is it that I fall in love with every girl that shows me the slightest bit of attention?" This statement is true for me as well, -except for me, its boys, but you get the idea. So I've been wondering the same thing,but when it comes down to it I just honestly don't know. So I'm kind of hoping you guys know the answer? I'm stumped, but it happens to me often. Does anyone know why? Or is this just the poetic version of a pathetic question hopeless romantics ask themselves everyday? How do I change? Ah.. thanks.
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i think it happens to everyone. it sure happens to me. i think it happens because we are in a state of lonliness. you just want a little company and affection and when that one boy gives that to you, you just automatically like them and think about them. but then later on you notice you don't really like them. you just like the ATTENTION they give you. i have no idea how to make yourself change. i am in the middle of doing that myself. just tell yourself that before you jump into conclusions of liking someone...just wait a while and you will see if your truly like that person or you just like the attention they give you. i hope i kinda helped.
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Hay love...I been through this before I got so wrap up in to the movies and the books and I just kept wanting it so bad that I started looking for it sometimes not knowing that I was...lol so what you need to do is take your time and come back to reality do what im doing let time math out your love life... investment(take control)pre-up <how ever that is spell...lol( don't give anything up) and settle(when you feel something more give a little more) just keep your mind and eyes open
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I do the exact same thing as you.
And the reason that I think I do it is because, there aren't that many guys that pay attention to me, so when 1 random guy pays attention to me then I emdidiately think I've fallen for him.
But you have to ask yourself, do I really like the guy, or is it just because of the attention he's giving me?
Most of the time it'll turn out to be just because of the attention, so you just have to forget about it and move on.
Good luck
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Lack of experience and low self worth.
It's basically one, or both, of those two things.
A lack of experience means you don't understand exactly what qualifies a person as a partner for you. You don't have a lot of dealbreakers, or things you've learned are unattrative to you in a person, even if that person is still a good one, just not for you rommantically.
You don't know what you want yet, so you don't know what you DON'T want yet. It's a good thing, in some ways, to not have a whole bunch of silly standards, but it also means you don't think too seriously if you are actually interested in them, when they start showing interest in you.
The other bit is low self worth. If you don't believe, deep down, that you are lovable and desirable, whenever someone shows you, even for a second, that you are, you'll latch right on to them! Because you don't believe that anyone can you see that way, you feel soooo lucky that one person does, that you invest completely in that one person, instead of realizing that MANY people could feel that way about you. That you are worthy of love, and that you are in a position to choose from the many people you might find attrative, rather then have to be so grateful for being chossen.
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