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How far is too far? (PDA/flirting)
15/f
Alright, so this boy I like was flirting with me in 2nd hour like crazy, and so I teased him and gave him a hug and all that, and he grabs my arm to keep me from giving hugs etc. etc. and my friend says "Quit flirting, you can do better than him."
Well I told my mom about it all and she says I gotta be careful or people will call me a slut. (I've not even had my first kiss yet though so that's impossible...)
So..... it's not like this happens everyday, the hugging thing I mean. So, am I still ok as long as this doesn't go on all the time or is my image already not very good?
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Your mother's definition of a slut is someone who hugs boys a lot?
Then I must've been the biggest whore in middle school & high school, holy shit.
No, a slut is someone who sleeps around. You haven't even had your first kiss. There's no way you could possibly be a slut, you're just being friendly.
Do you like the guy? If you do, tell your friends to fuck off. It's not like they have to like him or date him. If they don't think the way he looks, too bad. As long as you like him, that's all that matters. Keep hugging him. You're far from being a slut sweetie, trust me.
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It's okay to hug the guy you like, but remember to be very careful about how far you take things. I don't really think you should listen to your friend because if you like the guy, you like the guy and even though she's your friend, her opinion doesn't matter as much as your does. I don't want to say "Don't listen to your mom" but I do sorta disagree with what she's telling you. Hugging doesn't make you a slut. Now, if your in dark corners making out all of the time, then yeah... listen to your mom. Otherwise, have fun! :)
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haha thats ridiculous! your not a slut. believe me. hugging is normal. and your friend prob said that because shes jealous of the attention you were getting from this boy.
haha your just a young girl who is coming into her own, and is discovering guys. this is so normal. dont listen to your mom. she was being ridiculous and is probly a little scared that your growing up and starting to like boys.
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haha wow..i think your mom needs to search up the definition for slut..definently hugging is not a slut. everyone hugs. family members hug, good friends hug..hugging is e friendly gesture..nothing more...now sleeping with different boy ever week is a slut..so dont worry..keep passing hugs around!
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Don't worry, I give hugs all the time, everyone loves hugs, I hug girls and guys. Though when I/my friends hug guys people assume were going out, which is annoying... anyways it's fine, hugging people just shows your affectionate, your defo not a slut or anything.
Don't listen to people like that, if you just like him as a friend - then hugging if fine because you hug your friends.
But if you do like him and want things to progress don't go to far, talk to him. 15 is an alright age for hugging and kissing, but don't push it.
Your image will be fine, don't overdue it, people in my school act like that often enough and it just puts people off, so just be youself and don't worry.
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If someone calls you a slut for hugging a guy, tell them to go a dig a hole.
That's ridiculous. A slut is a girl who sleeps with numerous guys that she's not even going out with.
Your image is fine. Hugging is not bad. Flirting is not bad.
I mean the only thing that can affect your image is if ya'll just have a full on make out session in the middle of class.
Flirting/hugging is FAR from being a slut.
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