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I am 14 years old and i am 3 months pregnant...as if that isn't a big enough problem i have another big one. I am pregnant but not with my current boyfriend. How do I tell him that im pregnant? (link)
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You are going to have to tell your parents that you are pregnant first. It'll be scary, but obviously, they're going to have to be told eventually. They can help you figure out how to go about telling your ex-boyfriend what he needs to know. You should probably talk to a counselor (even if it's not at school to help you figure it out). If I were you, I would put the baby up for adoption. I know that that's a huge decision to make but trust me when I say that you are not ready to be a parent. No 14-year old is. After that, you're gonna have to get yourself together to make sure that this doesn't happen again.
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My boyfriend's parents are really strict Christians, to the point where some of their rules are ridiculous. I respect that, though, so I don't complain.
However, there is one thing they do that is driving me crazy. My boyfriend's brother has five kids. Him and his wife live on the property, so the kids are always at his parent's house, so they watch them a lot.
Sometimes when the kids act up, they hit them. I understand maybe spanking here and there, but even then I'm a little iffy, but they take it way beyond that. His dad will hit them in the head for the smallest things. Usually he won't hit them very hard, but I feel like he shouldn't even be doing that at all. I'm afraid it can cause some kind of damage since they're still growing and everything. I haven't said anything yet because I don't want to cause problems, and any time someone says they have a problem with something he does, he'll pull some quote out of the bible to "justify" it. What should I do?
Another problem I have with them is they treat one kid way better than the others. There are two girls and three boys, and one of the boys had open heart surgery when he was a baby, but they still give him much better treatment than the others. He's around 6 or 7 maybe, but acts like a baby. He throws fits when he doesn't get his way, and pouts. I've never seen him get in any kind of trouble like the others, and they always claim he's the best, when honestly I think he behaves the worst. My boyfriend's mom even admits she spoils him, but she isn't doing anything to try to stop. So, basically, the other kids act up they get smacked in the head, but he always gets his way. What can I do about this, too?
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I really hate to say it but I really think that you need to call Child Protective Services. They can investigate the situation with the information that you've given them and you should be able to report it anonymously. Whether or not that father believes it or not, what he is doing IS ABUSE, and it WILL affect those kids well into adulthood. Unfortunately, I doubt that anything would change even if you did say or do something on your own. Don't feel guilty for calling CPS-- you are helping those kids, trust me.
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My little nephew is the cutest thing ever. He's really adorable. His mom has been buying him baby dolls to play with though and I don't know if that is right. I don't want to say anything if it's okay for boys to play with dolls but I keep thinking that the dolls are more of a little girl toy, you know? Aren't boys suppose to play with cars and stuff? I just don't want him to grow up and be teased and stuff for having dolls, you know? What do you think? (link)
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Okay, first off let me say that I am a preschool teacher and that this situation comes up in my classroom all of the time. Having that said, I can tell you that it is absolutely 100% okay for little boys to play with dolls, whether they have blonde hair or not. The idea that it is not okay comes from an insecurity in adults that stems from old-fashioned gender roles and traditions. Whether a child is a boy or a girl, they can gain a lot from dramatic play (i.e. playing with dolls) because it helps them understand the adult world through imitation (like feeding a baby doll), express themselves through play, develop creativity and imagination, and promotes abstract thought. In every preschool or say care center that you visit there should be a dramatic play area with these kinds of toys for either sex of child, because it is an important area for a child to experience.
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I have a 5 year-old daughter studying ballet and dreaming of going pro, her brother is 2.5 years old and she wants him to learn ballet. I also want him to learn, but have a husband that thinks it's gay... Any advice on any side? (link)
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First off, I think that you should ask your son if he's interested. Have him try it out and see how he likes it. I'd say that after a few weeks of trying it out, if he doesn't like it, then pull him out of the class. If he likes it, great! Activities such as ballet are really good for kids because they help develop self-confidence and self-discipline. Ballet is also good for gross motor (large muscle) development in young children.
As far as what your husband thinks... I'm sorry, but that sort of attitude is a huge pet-peeve of mine. Say your son were a teenager and wanted to study ballet. If your husband displayed that sort of behavior about your son's interests, it wouldn't be good for your son's confidence or the relationship between the two of them. I think it'd be a very good idea for you to talk to your husband about this because he should realize how destructive those sort of comments can be. Besides, if your son does turn out to be gay, it's gonna happen whether or not he learns ballet as an almost three-year-old.
Most importantly, you should realize that even if your son did announce that he was gay as an adult, it does not mean that you would love him any less. He's your son, and you should support him in any situation.
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I have a two year old son who is going on 3. He wont listen to me for anything. i try and talk to him calmly and explain what he did wrong, why he is in trouble, why he cant do this or that. he just doesnt listen to me at all. I ask him to stop doing something he still does I get up and tell him no he screams and will hit him self. I put him to bed and he just wont go to bed he gets up. I tell him to not open the front door he does anyways. I know this is a lot of two year olds but what do I do. I have raised him my self and i was young. I dont want to yell at him or pat his hand. I just want him to listen to me a little bit. thank you for your help. (link)
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It's kind of hard to give you a detailed answer without being there because the details are pretty important in these situations (i.e: what exactly did he do, what he is doing, what you are doing). The best advice I can give you is to be firm (use a firm tone but don't yell. You have to take control of the situation without showing frustration or freaking out, because if you do, the behavior will get worse. Also, if you tell your son, for example, that if he opens the front door, he will have to "take a break" (a.k.a "time out"), then do it. Id he gets up, you have to keep putting him back in the spot he has to sit in until he stays, and again DON'T LET ON THAT YOU'RE FRUSTRATED! It's really hard I know, but if you're consistent, it'll pay off, I promise. I work with fifteen two-year-old kids each day, so I know how frustrating this kind of stuff can be. Good luck!
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im a senior in high school and im not sure what i really should do. I want to join a sport team and get a job to make money, but at the same time i wanna be free and hang out with my friends and family so if i get a job i wouldnt have a fun time with friends and i want to enjoy since im a senior so i rather work after i graduate, but i need money to buy a car and other things i need or wants and same with sports i might miss out something and i might get too tired to do my homework or study so im really confused what should i do? if i get a job/sport/school i wouldnt have time for anything i want to have fun before i step into a real world =[ (link)
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It kind of depends on your situation and why you want to get a job or join a team. If it's because you want some work experience before you step out into the "real world," that's great. Speaking from personal experience, though... I would wait om the job thing if I were you. You have the rest of your life to work... enjoy your time with your friends and family while you still can because you're going to miss it later.
There isn't really a simple solution to this one because it really depends on what is more important to you: having money to buy things that you want to having free time to be with your friends and family. You're gonna have to weigh the pros and cons of both sides before you make a decision, and unfortunately, I can't help you out with that as much as I would like to.
Good luck!
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I've been having these really bad headaches that lasts a week sometimes a week and a half at a time no matter what kind of pain meds I take what should I do? (link)
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I had the same problem a few weeks ago, but I think I solved it. It's hard to diagnose it because there are so many different causes of headaches. Think about this:
*Are you drinking enough water?
*Are you getting enough exercise?
*Are you spending too much time indoors?
*Are you spending too many hours in front of a computer or television screen?
*Have you been under a lot of stress?
*Do you think you might getting your period? (if you are a female).
*Are you eating enough?
There are a lot of factors that could trigger a headache, so you need to be aware of that first. Pain medication helps to an extent, but if the headache keeps coming back, it's probably a sign that your body needs something that you aren't supplying, and that's important. If after considering all of this and you are still having problems with headaches, you should see a doctor.
You also might be dealing with are chronic migraines, and if so, a doctor can prescribe something to help you with that.
Hope you feel better soon!
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Sorry for the extreme length, haha :(
I have these really cool parents...they don't really yell a lot and I can joke around with them all the time and they give me lots of space
But lately a lot of bad things have been happening. The dryer doesn't work, our dog got hit for the second time and is now paralyzed from the hips down, our shower is not draining properly, and we don't have any money to top it all off. And also, on my part, over the weekend I had a 103 fever and I'm still sick, a lot of my friends have been mad at me for no reason, and the guy I've liked for a really long time just got a girlfriend.
I know all of this is really stressful, and especially to my parents. But lately they've been taking all they're frustration out on me and it's really beginning to get to me. I've just been acting like my normal self around them, but they take every little mistake I make as a HUGE problem, and they scream at me for it. Like if I tell my little sister to please clean something up while I'm out somewhere, and she says she'll do it, but when I get back she's sitting there watching TV and she never did anything, and I yell at her (but I don't scream or anything, nothing like that). So my mom will FLIP OUT at me and start saying the way I treat her is disgusting and threatens to call off all the plans I have and everything. And that's only one example. Like if I don't put my dish in the dishwasher, screaming. If I don't do my homework, screaming. If I'm on the computer too long, screaming. Etc etc etc.
And the other night was my very first homecoming dance (I'm a freshman) and I had my two best friends over getting ready with me. My mom asked what time the dance was, and I said "It's at 7" and my mom gives me this glare and says "You SAID it was at 8" and I said "Well I made a mistake...it's really at 7" and she said "so I assume it ends at 9:30?" and I said "No, 10:30". And then she just went off at me about how was I supposed to know that? and all that. And as she walked off she was just like "You're welcome" to me.
And if that wasn't bad enough, awhile later my little sister came upstairs and said it was dinner time, and I said I wasn't hungry. So she left, and then ten minutes later she came back upstairs in tears and said "Mom is really upset! She made everything look all nice for you and now she's disappointed" and I said "Why should I make her feel better? She's been screaming at me all week!"
So THEN, my dad screamed from downstairs for me to come down, so I came down (My poor friends were sitting in my room just staring at me) and he brought me into the dining room and just SCREAMED at me. He was like "You had BETTER knock off your FUCKING attitude (my parents never swear at me) or there's going to be a lot of trouble! Mom prepared a whole dinner and made it all nice because she wanted it to be a SPECIAL NIGHT for YOU! She was going to go pick you up at 10:30 and everything and she just wants to make you happy but you're a little brat and you just need things your way!" And I ran back upstairs in tears and locked myself in the bathroom. My parents made me CRY homecoming night in front of my best friends. I was so devastated. And the worst part, my friends got really mad at me that night and they didn't want me to help them get ready. I still feel guilty about that whole stupid dinner thing, too.
I'm just so upset and almost depressed about everything because this is basically one of the worst weeks of my life, everything is going wrong. I just don't want to be around anyone, ESPECIALLY my family (but if I try to get away from them for too long, I get yelled at). I just go in my room and lock my door because I don't want to be talked to or yelled at. It's the worst thing ever.
So I don't know what to do about my parents. Making peace with them would lift a huge weight off my shoulders. But I'm afraid to talk things out with them because I know I'll be yelled at and I'll end up crying. I'm pretty sensitive and I cry easily. I really miss my old parents. I feel like I don't even know them. And I'm really the only one being yelled at. My two little sisters aren't being yelled at at all.
So any advice? Should I just sit it out or talk to them about it? I really don't know
Any help will be appreciated, especially because of the length. Sorry again, and thanks (link)
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After reading this, I feel stressed out, too! It sucks that your relationship with your parents took such a bad turn, but I'm pretty sure that you can get it back on track, especially since they weren't always that way.
What I really think would be the best way for you to handle this is to go in your room, get out a notebook and a pencil and write everything that you feel in a letter. Tell them about how you know that things are really stressful and that it's hard on them, but that you really miss the way that your relationship used to be and you want it back. Explain that you don't mean to "give them attitude." You should realize that you probably did hurt your mom's feelings when you wouldn't come down after she worked to make a nice dinner for you... just acknowledge that in the letter. And last but not least, tell them that when things get stressful for all of you, you want to stay patient with one another and help each other out if you can, and if you can't do that, work something out where you can give each other some space when you need it. Just be sincere with whatever you're saying, make sure that you effectively express your feelings, and take into consideration what they might be feeling. You seem like a really smart chick, and I have no doubt that you'll be able to work this out. :) Good luck!
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where can i get a playboy miss may necklace?? (for a sort of low price?) (link)
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Ummm...Ebay?
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Im a 17 year old girl and i just started talking to this guy in my class that i have never talked to before, hes extremely attractive but ive heard hes not the best person in the world, like really full of himself, anyways i didnt like him or have a crush on him but he kept talking to me and i was blowing it off cause of the bad things i heard of him, but he honestly didnt seem as bad as people had said. so the next day my friend said she had recieved texts from him that night asking her if i had a boyfriend and a bunch of other questions about me. i tend to way over think situations like this and get myself worried over nothing but does this mean he likes me...should i go for it...i always thought a guy like him was way out of my leage cause hes really good-looking and i dont view myself as gorgeous. But i just want advice to what i should do, approach him or just let it go.
Thanks for the help =) (link)
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You should probably just hang out with him as friends for awhile and go from there. Wait awhile and see how that goes before you rush into anything. If he seems like a cool guy and he treats you well while you are friends, then go for it! :)
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I am a female minor of 16 who had an online relationship with a man 8 years my senior behind my family's back. I had done this once before but with a different individual and i no longer have contact with the first person. I met him at a hotel room 3 times and although we didn't have sexual intercourse i thought i was pregnant somehow and my period was late with strong feelings of nausea. I told my mom all of this and although she was terribly devastated she proceeded to take me to the doctor and tests were done. I am not pregnant and have no STI's, and now my mother and father and i don't know what to do. Only they and the man i was involved with know. I want things to go back to how they were before they knew, but i understand that it isn't that simple. I would very much appreciate if someone could offer me solid advice on what I should do now. I want to earn back their trust if i can and help them feel better and more relaxed. I am ashamed of my action but i want to do something, anything to help them feel better. I have not contacted the man since telling my father, whom i told a week after my mother. I believe that the man was a good man but I don't want to contact him any time soon, at the very least until i am out of college, so like 6 to 10 years from now. I believe my parents will press charges against him. please and thank you so much. (link)
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There is a reason that the statutory rape law exists. At sixteen, you aren't at a level of maturity where you should be in a relationship with someone who's so much older than you. Men who are this much older than you don't necessarily know or care about where you are at emotionally and this guy sounds like he's taking advantage of you. What I would suggest is just thinking hard about what made you want to hook up with someone so much older than you and talk to one of your parents about it. (Was it because you thought it would be exiting to be with someone older/because you thought that he cared about you and you liked that someone was showing you that much attention...etc.) You should really listen to your parents on this one because they really are looking out for you.
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I have a nine month old daughter and i'm 19. I am married to the father of my baby. When we got married 11 months ago i told him that i wouldn't marry him unless he stopped smoking weed. since then, he has stopped and has done many good things, such as get his GED and be a great dad and show a desire to go to school. recently however he told me that he didn't see a problem with it, and that it wouldn't hurt anything if he smoked weed 4 times a month. I told him that it would hurt me, and he said well if you don't love me enough to let me do it then i guess we can't be together. I need to know if I am being too strict and i just need to deal with it, or if I do need to leave him. Please help me. (link)
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I'm sorry that you got into that situation because it is really hard to deal with it. It seems to me that this guy is way to immature to be married with a kid (I'm really sorry if that offends you, but it's my opinion). It's great that he is going to school, but it seems to me that if he were really serious about getting his life in order, he wouldn't be smoking week when he was a baby at home. I'm sure a lot of people will disagree with me on how big of an issue weed is, but coming from someone who has worked with very young kids for awhile, it's never good to expose kids to that sort of thing. What really bothers me about it, though, is that he doesn't seem to be bothered by the fact that it bothers you. Marriage is a huge commitment, and if he can't even try to work this out with you and show some value in what you're saying, then he had no business getting married in the first place. Anyway, I really hope that it works out for you and that regardless of what you decide to do, you'll be happy. Lots of luck! :)
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answer honestly.
Why would a boy stare and stare and stare and stare some more at you, and when you finally turn to look at him he smiles a bit, makes a funny face, and looks away? Then, he keeps glancing at you the rest the period. And, according to your friend, this happens alot? (link)
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Find a way to talk to him and see what happens! =)
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so there is this boy in the year above me in school an i really really like him he knows i like him an we sometimes speek on msn but usually if one of my friends has been added into the convo but i wont to talk to him on msn myself so i was wodering what are some good things to say to him that will make him like me an make a interesting convo. thanks (link)
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I hate to say it but there isn't a magic word or sentence that you can say to make a guy like you. You should just be yourself (and I realize that this is such a cliche), and as long as you speak with confidence, it doesn't matter so much what you say. Good luck! :)
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There is a huge grocery store where I shop and one of the kids who brings in baskets from the parking lot always gives me a contemptuous look. I walk with a limp and he is like that with people who are handicapped. I called about him last year and spoke with a district manager who assured me he would take care of the problem. When I called back, his attitude with me had changed and he acted like I was the culprit. I thought that was very odd. He said I had to face the kid and identify him face to face. I did not want to do that but I gave a complete description of him. A year later, he is still working there. What should I do? (link)
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It's hard having a handicap--others don't understand it. My little sister has worn hearing aids since she was 4 years old and a lot of people have given her the same sort of treatment (especially kids). It's really hard, but the best thing that you can do is probably to just ignore it. Just try to stay patient and be glad that you're not as ignorant. Good luck!
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so im a sophmore in highschool and have never done anything at all risky. i never had a oy friends pr hooked up or got drunk or anything. and im finding out that all of my friends have and it makes me really sad. i hate feeling left out and unexperienced. what do i do? (link)
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It sucks feeling left out, but honestly, you don't want to do things that you'll regret later just because your friends are all doing it. most of them will still respect you anyway if you're cool about it.
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i've got a first date tonight and a painful pimple on my lip line, any ideas on what to do about it? it hasn't turned into a white head yet but i'm sure it will by the end of the night! (link)
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Okay, assuming that Daintree was wrong about it being herpes...
you can't really make it go away overnight, but are the few things that I would suggest would be to go to a drugstore or wherever you can get skin care products and get a bottle or tube of benzoyl peroxide or salicylic acid...the concentrated stuff. Apply it twice daily or whatever the bottle says you should do. Another thing I've heard that helps is to put a dab of toothpaste on it overnight to dry it out so that it'll scab over and heal faster. Good luck!
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i wanna know how to get a boyfriend because i am sicj=k of not having one and all my freinds have at least one i was going to have one but this boy was to chickened to ask me but he did go out with one of my bestfriends now i have moved schools i am in middle school and i wanna know how to capture a boyfriend plz help and show me the rules/ guidelines to get one and boys it would be helpful to tell me what you look for in girls and what are turn offs thanx and peace out (link)
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Based on my experience, the most attractive thing about a person is their confidence level. If you're really shy and your body language suggests that your don't feel comfortable with yourself, it's a lot harder for a guy to feel like he can talk to you. It is hard to appear confident, especially when you're around someone you like, but that's the best advice I can give you. Just talk and try to stay calm when you do so, and smile!
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Alright here it goes.
I know that it's only the 27th of September and i usualy get my period around the end of the month but i am worried that i will not have it. But say i didn't have my period this month, does that nessacrely mean that i'm becoming pregnant?
Please help as soon as possible. (link)
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First off, let me just say that I, like a lot of girls, am really irregular when it comes to my menstruation cycle. I probably only get my period about 4 times a year. If this is the first time that this has happened to you, then I'd try to take that into consideration of you are still very young. If not, then the only way to know for sure is to take a pregnancy test, and even if that one comes out negative, take another one in a week or so just to make sure. Planned Parenthood does them for free.
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if a boy ejaculated, say, on your lower stomach (like above pubic hair line) is it likely to get pregnant? also, say i had semen on my hand before but it dried out and then i quickly touched down there for like a second, should i be worried? i am wondering whether sperm can like swim towards the vagina when it lands somewhere like the stomach of thigh. (link)
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I highly doubt that you're gonna get pregnant from touching yourself with it on your hand. If it was on your lower stomach, the answer is definitely no.
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