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i need help!!!
I have a two year old son who is going on 3. He wont listen to me for anything. i try and talk to him calmly and explain what he did wrong, why he is in trouble, why he cant do this or that. he just doesnt listen to me at all. I ask him to stop doing something he still does I get up and tell him no he screams and will hit him self. I put him to bed and he just wont go to bed he gets up. I tell him to not open the front door he does anyways. I know this is a lot of two year olds but what do I do. I have raised him my self and i was young. I dont want to yell at him or pat his hand. I just want him to listen to me a little bit. thank you for your help.
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It's kind of hard to give you a detailed answer without being there because the details are pretty important in these situations (i.e: what exactly did he do, what he is doing, what you are doing). The best advice I can give you is to be firm (use a firm tone but don't yell. You have to take control of the situation without showing frustration or freaking out, because if you do, the behavior will get worse. Also, if you tell your son, for example, that if he opens the front door, he will have to "take a break" (a.k.a "time out"), then do it. Id he gets up, you have to keep putting him back in the spot he has to sit in until he stays, and again DON'T LET ON THAT YOU'RE FRUSTRATED! It's really hard I know, but if you're consistent, it'll pay off, I promise. I work with fifteen two-year-old kids each day, so I know how frustrating this kind of stuff can be. Good luck!
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I dont ahve a 2 year old but my best friend just got out of this stage with her daughter and she used to put her daughter in time out for 2 minutes and when his 2 minutes are up she would have her explain why she was in time out and if she did the same thing again she would go back for a minute longer and do the same process all over again up to 5 minutes. The best part about this is, 2 minutes isnt very long to us but to a toddler its FOREVER. Hopefully this will help :)
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what if you try to give him less attention. like he could be seeking attention from you.im actually not a mother but i am a teacher and i do work with kids quite alot.
Try to yell at him less because the more you yell at him the less effective it will get. have you tried to calm approach?like calmly go up to him and say no sweety you cant do that and then give him a look,like a threatning look like one that he will know if he doesnt do what hes told hell get in big trouble.
try to even say no give him a stern look then walk away,come back after a few minutes if hes done what you dont want him to do then you grab him and put him in the naughty corner,or use the toy box technique.if hes naughty then you take away a toy that he really likes. be like since your being naughty and havent listened to me im taking this until iv seen youv behaved then take the toy and make sure that hes seen you take it. as much as he cries and yell you ignore and pay no attention to him at all no matter how much he screams and hits because thats just attention seeking...i think thats the best idea...hope this helps i mean you can even take these ideas and alter then to suit you, i mean if he wont stay in the naughty corner then put him in his room and say hes nnot allowed to play he can only come out when hes ready to listen to you etc...hope this helped
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