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Woke up to Boyfriend masterbating after we had a fight
So My boyfriend and I have been going through a hard time right now due to him cheating and us fighting all the time because I lost trust in him and he is doing nothing to gainit back. Anyways we were fooling around in bed last night and he started going "down there" I told him I didnt want to have sex at the moment he got mad at me right away and stormed off. When I went to talk to him he went on and on about how he doesnt feel loved anymore. I told him the reason I didnt want to or couldnt have sex was I, getting me monthly. He didnt even give me a chance earlier to explain that to him....I wasnt intending we stop fooling around just couldnt have sex but I could of done other but he didnt give me a chance. He just got mad and said whatever I dont like your shitty attitude and went back to bed and rolled over. I was quite upset but I am tired as it was after midnight and I have to be up by 5am for work so I fell asleep. Awhile later I slowly woke up to the bed shaking....he was laying there masturbating beside me and getting mad and sighing because i wasnt doing anything. I was so hurt by the way he acted earlier with such disrespect how could he think I would at all be interested in "taking care" of him hours later....this was around 3am! He started trying to force me to do it but I just pulled away and told him that his attitude towards me earlier hurt me and I dont think he is being too respectful now as to expect me to take care of him I am not just a skank I am supposed to be his love.....and there was no emotion, no apology nothing. Anyways he got the hint got pissed off again and said I should find another guy cause hes not for me.....I fell back asleep. We didnt talk much this morning he glared at me a few times trying to act tough and like nothing was bothering him. I was so tired and had enough I just got ready for work and got my son ready as well.
So what Im wondering about is how should I take his actions? Do I have a right to be upset? Please I need help.....I feel like he thinks of me more as a sex object for his needs more than anything. He is always talking/flirting/texting other girls and so on...he seems to be never satisfied with just me. Ive even caught him on dating sites this is why I dont trust him and I am finding it hard being close to him and with him acting this way it makes me feel unwanted and unloved. Please help!
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First, take responsibility for still being with a guy who cheated on you. Short of leaving him, which is what you should do if you have any dignity, your complaints are rather empty.
"I feel like he thinks of me more as a sex object"
Clue alert! Men see women primarily as sex objects while women see men as economic objects. It's the way of the world, it's the way nature makes us, deal with it!
Okay, about the masturbation: married people do it all the time. Nothing wrong with it. Generally speaking, as long as the guy isn't screwing around on you and is attending to your sexual needs then his masturbating is not an issue.
Now about your relationship: it seems like neither of you has enough empathy, knowledge of how relationships work or personal maturity to make this work. He shouldn't have forced you to give him a handy or demanded you have sex with him while you were on your period. By the same token, though, men have high sex drives and if you don't do something about that he will seek people who will, you know what I'm saying? You could have ratcheted up your hotness factor by OFFERING to use your hand on him since you weren't available for intercourse. But you were so self centered that thought never crossed your mind.
My advice: end this farce that is your relationship, learn from your mistakes, grow up, find another guy and treat him well.
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well I am sorry to hear that you are dating a man like this. He has absolutely no respect for you. It makes me mad that he would pressure and try to force you to do that stuff. I had an ex who was the same way, but he never cheated on me. It is a big problem when you are in a relationship with someone and you find them on dating sites and flirting with other girls. That is untrustworthy and not tolerable. I think you have no right to trust him. I know every relationship has problems..but these kinds of problems are dangerous to yourself and your son. This man will make you feel less of yourself, and will be a bad role model for your son. Please I advise you to get out of this relationship ASAP. It is easier said than done, but do it for yourself, yourself comes before anyone else, what comes before yourself though is family, and that is your son. Would you want him to have this man a father figure for your son? Maybe your son still see's his father..I don't know the whole story, I can't assume. but my advise for you is to get out. He is making excuses and saying he feels unloved to make you feel guilty and give in to that guilt..my ex pulled that trick on me everytime. He would try to make me feel bad for things when in reality it was his fault. he was a manipulative bastard. Once I saw how manipulative he could be and made me feel I left. I know I deserve better. No one deserves to be treated this way.
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