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am i the bitch?
me and my boyfriend have been going out for two years and two months now. we were best friends we were okay. but heres the problem he has friends good im glad he does but he hangs out with them EVERY DAY! if we hang out and i leave at 11 he goes to his friends house. sometimes theres girls there and the girls there are for his friends. ok. he says that he only loves me blah blah blah my problem is that he turned into one of them. everyone knows that guys act different when there with their friends well my boyfriend is with them alll the time and he constanly acts liket them. his friends are very protective secretive. so if i asked my boyfriend where he got free tickets to go mini golfing he says "dont worry about it" hmm that pisses me off and if i argue about it that he shouldnt be so secretive he complains that i need to know everything. he tells me to shutup and he ALWAYS wants to go to his friends house. he says he would always rather hang with me. ?? the other night i argued with him how he needs to stop being so disrepectful and he just doesnt see how he is being one he just argues back and says how im always being a bitch. i told him id break up if it continues he just keeps doing it. i asked if he could go one day without talking to them or hanging out with them he says no. i dont know what to do to get my boyfriend back. is it too late? am i really being the bitch? should i end it? why? how? if i end it i need help. i love him so much its just constant arguing now. if i was answering this id say break up, but i dont want to. just help me please.
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Relationships come with sacrifices, Along with these sacrifices are things we don't always want to give up but it is part of commitment. If your boyfriend is not willing to cut down the amount of time he spends with his buddies, Then as long as this continues I can promise you, You will both have arguments and along with arguments come tension, trust issues, stress and a load of other problems. If your boyfriend is being secretive then obviously that gives you a damn good reason not to trust him. Without trust...There is no relationship. Everyone undergoes problems and fights in a relationship but telling someone to "shut up" is not a nice way of handling a situation nor a mature way of communicating. If your boyfriend isn't willing to commit to your relationship, Then maybe that tells you that you should find someone else more suitable for you.
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okay. so i really don't feel like your the bitch. everyone has their own opinion on things and i feel like i will mostly agree with yours. I think people do change and there's a chance that he is like his friends. If he keeps constantly changing his mind about whether to hang out with you..i feel like that means he prefers to hang out with his friends over you. it's hard to hear and he will always say no matter what that he likes to hang out with you more than his friends. what i think is that he is probably getting tired and bored of the relationship. probably watching his friends with other girls isn't a good example too. but of course you can't force somebody to change. later on he'll probably change again and show his girlfriend more attention (this is saying if you guys break up, because he can move on and so can you)..but the best thing i think is that if there is constant fighting and you and he is not happy..then why should you be together? i know it's tough. but come on, life shouldn't be limited. other fish in the sea right? i really think long relationships are for older people like probably age 25. that's what i think. or whoever is ready. i think the best thing is to explore other people. but i don't mean like being a slut. you learn something new out of every relationship. you can try working things out but if things don't change then what's the point if your not happy? i'm sorry if this isn't good advice. i try.
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ok, this boy is obviously causing you a lot of trouble in ur head, believe me, I've had that probolem, and not too long ago either. but, I think that it's the right thing to do to break up with him, let him down easy since you're afraid to do this. because a harsh break-up, you might have second thoughts about you being too hard or something, i don't how to explain it, but that is a feeling, I've a had it a few weeks ago. and, no, ur definately NOT a bitch!
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