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Hi! I'm fifteen, 5'5" & 155 lbs. Now, I know I'm overweight and I've lost 35 lbs so far. I feel alot better about myself, but I want to get to around 125-135. I also suffer from chronic migranes.

Now, since I've lost all this weight, my migranes have gotten MUCH more frequent & intense. I also have gotten sick a lot more (nothing too serious, but I got more cold this year alone than I did my whole life). I thought this was because of my diet (I don't eat like i used to.. which was beyond disgusting gluttony.. but that's another story for another day!), and still i get plenty of nutrients & take a vitamin everyday, but, I don't know.

Could my semi-drastic weight loss have caused this, or is it something else? I'll ask my doctor when I go again, but that's not for a few months.

thanks in advance =)

Congratulations on losing what you have lost so far and good for you for wanting to lose even more and be more successful. I am not a doctor so I can't tell you for sure, but it's possible that the drastic weight loss could have caused it. Your body went through a major change and the reduced amount of bodyfat in a short amount of time could have made it harder for your body to maintain homeostasis. Your doctor will know for sure, but it makes sense to me. Keep going on the path you're going and just be careful. If something hurts or doesn't feel right, skip it and save yourself for a day when you are better.

hey boys, do you like it when a girl is a tomboy? would you rather have a girl who loves to watch the game with you and can talk about football actually understanding it, or a total girly girl who loves shopping and other girlish things?

Combo definitely. Good balance between the two is awesome. Just like most girls like a guy who is both macho and sensitive at the same time.

i saw eraserhead and thought it was badass...it has inspired me to start watching more good under the radar movies...where should i start? i'm thinking of watching dead or alive next...throw your suggestions and reviews at me!!! thanks in advance :)

You want a real good under the radar movie? "Bad Lieutenant" with Harvey Keitel. AWESOME movie. About a corrupt cop and it's pretty graphic but an excellent film.

okay well im sick of sucking in all the time. i want to lose my little gut. it isnt really that big but i want to be skinny like i used to be. now dont tell me to diet & excersize. please try to be specific. i could probably lose 5-9 lbs. thanks!! [:

What else do you want people to tell you? That there's a magic pill that wipes away fat instantly? Well there isn't and the only thing you can do is diet and exercise like the rest of us mere mortals and just have something that is a great virtue to have.....Patience.

15/f. i'm 5'3" and weight about 105 or maybe just a few pounds more. i know that on some days i don't eat enough but then on some days i just splurge and eat a whole lot of junk food. i can't seem to stick to eating healthy. also if i eat just a little more than usual then the next day my stomach will be a little bigger than the day before. what can i do to prevent this? i already do about 150 cruches and 100 bicycles a day and then run on my treadmill for 30 mintures about 2-3 times a week at like 5.5-5 mph.

here is a basic meal for a day:

BREAKFAST: one quaker breakfast bar in strawberry (about 130 calories)

LUNCH: a turkey and low fat cheese sandwhich on white bread (i think wheat bread tastes gross), one dole fruit cup in peaches, and one quaker chewy bar. with a water bottle

DINNER: whatever my parents make. normally like 3 chicken fingers, with white rice and milk.

i try to drink about 3 water bottles a day..but sometimes i only drink 2.

what can i do to still eat healthy but also not have a "fat day" the next day where my stomach is a little bigger than before.

You're not eating enough and when you are eating you basically are eating garbage. Too much white flour, not enough protein or good carbs. Grilled chicken, pasta, potatoes, whole grain breads (Get used to the taste), fish, cheese, milk, yogurt, nuts. fruits and veggies for a start. You're not going to get anywhere meaningful with the diet you have now, sorry to say. You need to eat cleaner. Plain and simple.

Whats the best way to lose weight? I'm 13, 5'0 and 135 lbs.

Slowly.

ok well when i was little like 10 i shaved my arms. and i'm 16/female now. and now the hair on my arms is dark. it botherd me some and i wish i'd never did it.now it does bother me.and now other people notice too. its not the fact that i care what other people think but i just dont think i can do anything about it. is their anyway not to make my dark colored anymore? thanks alot.

Shave them, get them waxed or wear long sleeves. I don't see why you would go through the trouble of actually dying your arm hair when you can just get rid of the hair in 2 minutes.

ok i've been trying to cut back for the past 2 weeks. i wouldn't really say it was an actual DIET per say, but i guess it is. for breakfast i've been having a bowl of special k & for lunch i've been having a mix of things. usually gram crackers carrots dole peaches apple/apple sauce & yoplay yogurt. i mix those things up each day. i have a bottle of water with it also. for dinner, i try cutting back. i eat whatever my parents make, because i don't want to waste food. so lets say they make steak & potatos. i'll have a small piece of steak and 1 sweet potato. stuff like that. even if they have bbq and fries. ill take the bbq without the roll and a few fries. i've cut out my snacks & have not aten past 7 pm. also, i'm on an ankle injury so i can't play sports. i've been running/walking/jogging about 30 minutes 5 days a week. will this do it!? or will i have to work harder. also, how do i avoid talking about it at lunch. we sit at 1 big table & they always make comments like "oh yeah shes dieting again". it really bothers me because i don't want anyone to talk about it. also-i am a female [obviously] im 5'9 & i weigh around 140. am i being ridiculous?? i just want to lose stomach weight. any help is appreciated.

thanks!!

Some points:

-You aren't going to lose stomach fat exclusively and when you start losing fat; the stomach is probably going to be the last to go. Sorry.

-You are eating like a bird and not giving yourself enough calories. You need to eat more. A lot more. More protein...stop eating graham crackers and apple sauce for lunch, start eating grilled chicken and some pasta instead.

-Don't pay attention to what everyone says, it's your body.

-Nobody can tell you if your exercise is going to "do it" because everyone is different and what works for you or me may not work for someone else.

-When steak and potatoes are made...do the opposite of what you are doing- eat more steak and less potato.

-Even if you were eating enough, you aren't cutting away bodyfat without cutting away those french fries.

-You're pretty tall for a female so you're going to carry more weight, I think you're just fine where you are from how you sound and you're just stressing over a few vanity pounds or inches. Everyone does it, it's not a bad thing..just don't make it seem so urgent or you will fail because you will expect too much.

-If you really want to lose weight...it isn't a passing fad you do for a few weeks then forget. It's a lifelong commitment.

my boyfriend always checks other girls out on the street, it really bugs me and am scared its cuz he's lookin for someone better? should i be worried? please let me know and do all guys do this , he tells me he loves me but im not so sure cuz it bothers me :( help~

He's human isn't he? I can see if it bugs you if he makes it so very obvious while he's in front of you, but if you just glance in his direction and he's just checking a girl out and trying to hide it from you then smack him on the back of the head and tell him don't do it lol.

You do it too with guys..whether you know it or not. Relax..we're all human.

why is ephedrine bad for you? Is it illegal? my aunt takes diet pills with ephedrine in it and I don't see the harm in taking them but everyone says it's bad for you.

Ephedrine is legal. Ephedra is illegal, though it may be brought back onto the market.

It's bad because it raises your heart rate and it is taken by the wrong people who have no business taking it. It's for advanced bodybuilders and such, just like steroids are. Steer clear and avoid using it.

I promised my boyfriend I would get him a Rolex for Christmas, since he is buying me a new iPod Nano and a bunch of other stuff. eBay doesn't have any that I like. Is there another site like eBay were I can get one for under $50? Thanks.

$50 for a real Rolex? Try adding two more zeros to that figure. No I am not kidding.

ohkay. so like a lot of people i would like to become famous, but before i become famous i would like to be a model for a store catalog magazine thing. haha.[like Kohl's and alla that junk] i live in Chicago. i heard that you go up to the manager and say something about modeling, but wouldnt it be weird going up to them and them being like "oh we dont do that" sorry if this sounds confusing! lol.

also anything else i should know.

thank yoU! =]

It's good you want to do it, but someone needs to give you a reality check. Just as much as you can become a model, there is equal or better chance that you will not and if it doesn't work out then you just have to accept it. Hopefully I am wrong and you are able to fulfill your dream.

Hey, growing up I thought I was going to be the starting centerfielder for the NY Mets. Not happening now lol.

16 f. chicago, il
if i have sex with a 24 yr old male.. and im not unwilling either (i know. i'm horrible.)
what would the police do to him if neone found out?
thanks

I would be a lot more scared of your father getting a hold of him before the "Po Po" come knocking if it happens. Everyone researched the statute for you. Obviously it's illegal...if you're found out, he goes to the bookings. (Jail)

Eating 1000-1300 calories a day, exercising moderately, and drinking plenty of water, how much weight can I expect to lose every week?

15/f/5'5"/160lbs

My suggestion- up it to 1500 calories, exercise harder and drink water even when you aren't thirsty and if your metabolism is good then expect 2-3 lbs per week. Anything more is just water weight.

15/m

i've been running 3 miles a day for about 3 months now. but now that its over ive gone down to 1 mile a day, to give my body a rest. so now i have all this energy, but my face has always remained...chubby? and i dont find it attractive, also i'm 50 german 50 italian, so it deffinitely cannot be genetics. So any way to define my face more?

You're telling us that you honestly think Germans and Italians can't have faces that aren't skinny?...............

Wow...have you ever seen Paul Sorvino? lol

Hey I know this may sound stupid but why is it that guys don't usually put their photos on their advice column?

Maybe the guys can answer this?

I put mine up usually, sometimes I put a different picture up that isn't me just for a change.

Ijust need to know if you have an ingrown toenail that is swollen, painful, and red but no pus do I need to go to the dr. if so what do they look for before they take it out. I have had this problem for three months it is worse on one than the other foot. I have tried all sorts of remedies but nothing works. PLEASE HELP

I have a problem with these, I feel your pain. Mine got so bad that a corner of the nail was almost sticking out of the skin. Yes it was disgusting. I had to go to the doc because it was bad, he gave me a local Lanacane shot in my toe which totally deadened all the nerves and i watched him rip underneath the nail and cut half the nail off my toe and I didn't feel a thing...until the shot wore off a few hours after I got home lol.

Go to the doctor, I ignored mine for a while and it got really bad and infected.

I went to watch some bands play tonight - and I made the mistake of attending the after party.

It ended up being between 15-20 people in one side of this duplex. When we originally decided to go, no one had alcohol and it was getting too late to buy anything. However, when I got there they had a few mostly empty bottles, but they were nearly empty from before. I don't think a single person there got drunk.

There was a noise complaint~

The police showed up, someone answered the door - then slammed it in the officers face. The person then proceeded to lock the doors, turn all the lights off, close the curtains and get everyone upstairs.

A 15 year old girl had to leave due to curfew, and since neither she or I drank, I decided to walk her out and see what the cop situation was outside. The police came up to us and the three officers asked us a few questions. They asked if we had been drinking in there - we said "no", they asked if we had been smoking pot in there - we said "no", they asked who owned the house, we gave them as much of an answer as we could - since they were already running the address trying to find the owner.

Then they asked how many people were in there, we said we didn't know most of the people in there, and we hadn't been there long. But we thought 7 or 8 people were still in there.

They ran the plates of all the cars parked outside, and they claimed to have seen a person holding a beer while they were looking through the windows. They took our word for it that we didn't drink, and they let us go without a breathalizer or a search. They just ran our ID's.

The cops eventually got inside of the house by contacting the owner of the house and getting permission to enter.

After that semi-long story, we get to the question:

Since kids were drinking inside (some/all of which were minors by a year or two.) but I wasn't. I left and gave the police all the compliance they asked for. Since i'm 18, and I was there - even though I didn't drink at all - Is there anything the police can do to me at this point?

Whoever the real Einstein was who slammed the door in the cop's face has the best shot of losing their wiseass attitude. Like they were going to really fool the cops or think they wouldn't find probable cause or permission to enter so everyone goes running upstairs and hides LOL. The fact the the officer saw someone who in his judgment appeared to be a minor drinking alcohol gave him enough suspicion to be able to investigate the situation. Same situation would have occured if everyone was inside and an officer walking by smells the odor of marijuana coming from a house, now he has probable cause to enter property and arrest someone without a warrant or permission- it's called the Plain View doctrine. I also love how people say "They claim" they saw someone doing this and that. It would have been a whole lot better for whoever that was to just be polite and obedient to the officer. Every officer has something called "Discretion" which is the selective enforcement/non-enforcement of a law, such as when you get pulled over and the officer determines on certain circumstances on the situation that he isn't going to issue a summons or make an arrest. Same thing goes for something like this, everyone stood a much better shot of being able to just walk away if they were polite and didn't slam the door in the officer's face, he may have exercised discretion and just told everyone to go home...or he could have taken action, every officer is different and it's his choice.

Also for people who answered..if you think you can't be arrested for underage drinking you are sorely mistaken. All a summons (Ticket) is is an act of discretion by an officer to issue the ticket instead of arresting someone...in other words a summons is "in lieu" of an arrest. Depending on the crime the officer has 3 choices- Enforce by summons, Enforce by arrest or just let it go. And the server of an alcoholic beverage to a minor charge goes to the owner of the property.

The officer determined you weren't drinking and you complied with him so you were let go...to answer your question- You're pretty much in the clear, it is highly unlikely any sanction will occur with you. I am not a police officer so I can of course be wrong about that.

i have smoked pot a couple of time....and cigerettes. my mom and dad know about the cigerettes...but not the pot. do i need to talk to someone about my problem....or should it phase?

Good luck when you want to apply for a great job one day, especially if you hypothetically want to be a police officer and the question comes up if you had done any drugs in your past. Shows that you have poor judgment. You can kiss a lot of good jobs goodbye especially if you're caught with drugs and it's on your record. It may not occur to you now, but in the future when it comes time to be responsible and look for a career; little "harmless" things like this in your past come back to bite you in the ass.

I am very confused about my political standpoint, but it is something that i need to decide on. How do i know if i am a republican or democrat? Are democrats the same as liberals? Are republicans conservative? How do I determine which one I am.

Without letting my own biased views enter into it, I'll give you a simple explanation.

If you believe in social reform, taking everyone's money who actually works to give it to lazy people and taxing the living hell out of people, you're probably a liberal Demo-rat...oops sorry I mean "Democrat"....or would "Communist" be a more fitting term? :-P

If you believe in more of a free market system and a system where you think that you have the right to keep more of the money that YOU earned and not give a lot of it to the government to aid people who are too lazy to work for themselves and you don't believe in reforming everything and making sure that pieces of shit criminals like child molesters have "Rights" then you are probably a conservative Republican.

Yea...it was "kind of" intentional ;-)

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