Yes, all guys are pretty much idiots in the 8th grade and several years after. Sometimes a few of them turn human by college. Most of the guys who would say such garbage will die virgins and are saying that to impress one another and fake some sort of coolness. Funny thing is, it is the girls that have ALL the power when it comes to sex and most everything else. We hold all the cards and they are bumbling babbling idiots who pray everynight they won't be discovered for the meek fragile small-weiners they are. Ignore all 8th grade boys and wait untill you have at least a pool of 100 guys to choose from, before you pay any attention to them at all. Chances are there is one boy in 100 even worth listening to at this point in your life. Next time they chant some stupid line out about "we will deny", remind them that they have nothing you want and that they are the ones who will have to spend every moment of their pitiful lives trying to figure out what it takes to please and attract a woman. You ARE the prize my dear and have nothing to fear.

WOW! You took the time to re-examine not just my answer, but more importantly your own thoughts. That takes guts and shows integrity. Hats off to you my dear!

Most are overused and lame. Be creative and make up your own based on your preferences. Yeah thanks for the 2 rating. It takes effort to do something yourself, and clearly you are not into that.

Stupid.

I did a lot of the housework at your age. It did not really ruin my life. I hated it, sure. How many hours a day are we talking about here? If your parents are lazy and messy that is gross, but it is their business. If you have an hour of chores a day, it is not excessive. Do you do all the laundry, dishes, cooking, bills, work for income, etc. ? I doubt you do more than an hour a day. Deal with it. You have three more years and then guess what? You can move out and work your butt off for at least eight hours a day for minimum wage for a boss that does not care if you live or die. Then you can use your hard-earned paycheck to live in a crappy apartment you share with a messy roommate and do all the cooking and cleaning. Too harsh? Maybe. Maybe not. It is reality for many young people. You are not the parent and you do not have two kids. Quit being so cocky and go do your chores...Hee-Hee.

You looked at his texting behind his back. That was not your right to do no matter what you think justified it. He has a right to vent to his best guy friend about how he feels he is being treated with you when you are in a bad mood. Guys are not going to tell each other that their feelings are hurt, that is not in keeping with macho-male-speak. What communicates that man to man, is saying you are acting like a bitch. If you don't like being called a bitch, don't act like one. We all have mood swings, but it does not give you the right to treat someone badly. If you needed to be alone because of your mood, then you should have stayed home and sulked alone. The fact that you chose to have sex is not his fault. If you want to be with a guy that always thinks you are a sweet princess and not a bitch, you have two options: 1. Be one 2. Find a guy with no balls
Most of us are jerks from time to time whether we are female or male. Own it and apologize and he will respect you more. Then, grow up and stop snooping around on his phone and having text fights. I can't think of a much sillier waste of time, expect maybe watching American Idol.

Love is a word that only grows and becomes closer to what it actually means as we grow to realize that none of us are truly easily loved or loving. Just the word Love contains expectations and obligations that hardly ever fit the situation and persons involved. Take the word Love out of the picture and what do you have left? Sometimes it is friendship, sex, commitment, flattery, abuse, convenience, sympathy, fear, or confusion. Forget what you thought about the word and start paying attention to what it means from the one saying it. It means different things to different people. He might say "I love you" when he means, "I own you." She might say, "I love you" when she means, "I am lonely." Don't seek to end confusion with one person by creating it with another. You need to find clarity and know where the you and your ex stand before seeking to move on or you will regret it. Leaping blindly, because you are afraid to see the current situation will only land you in a worse place. You can't be open to both guys equally. Your heart is tugging you in one direction more than another right now....be honest about which it is and stick with that.

She's a troubled teen, not Cat Woman, so I doubt she overpowered and seduced your otherwise innocent teen son, unless she is several years older than him...the ages were not specified. Her mom just died...that is going to take a lot longer than five weeks to get over, and if you knew she also had drugs/booze problems, then it should not be a surprise that she would turn to those as well as another teen for comfort. Most likely you made an emotional decision and not a thought out one, when you took her in, and when you kicked her out. This is not about fairness. Life is not fair. Humans are not fair. This is about doing right by your deceased best friend and her daughter, without wronging your own family in the process. Perhaps you wanted to do the right thing, but expected everything including this broken hearted girl to fall easily into place. Now that she has done pretty much what anyone including you could have betted on her doing, you got your moral excuse to kick her back out of your life. Did you lose the weight before or after you kicked her out? Maybe that is your answer.

Your dad is as much to blame for the situation, because he is enabling your mom's addiction. They are both responsible for the well-being and environment of the family. They are the adults. You have been on an emotional rollercoaster and had your heart broken repeatedly. Her promises are no good. Yet, you always have hope that just this once, this time, she will make good on one. She won't. Accept that she is choosing her addiction over the family. So is your dad. You CAN turn her in and unless you really think your dad will kill you, I would. I have had to turn in someone in a similar situation. Yes, they were enraged and said very hateful things. Yes, they got into trouble. Yes, they got the help they needed, and eventually got totally clean and sober. Now this person has a real life and those that they love are no longer being hurt and put in danger. Doing the right thing is hardly ever the easy thing. Only you can make this decision, but you deserve help and support. I want you to at least talk to an adult teacher or counselor you trust about your feelings and fears. You can't do it alone and you won't be able to fix this. It is not your responsibility to correct the mistakes of adults who have abused their power over your childhood. I know you love them, but you deserve more than this. Love yourself and them enough to be different from them. You know when to ask for help. They don't. That is why you will save the only one you have the power and responsibility to save....yourself. You can only help her if you do not enable her by continuing to protect her...that is the "easy way out" like your dad is taking, but it is not the true way out into a healthy new life. The disease of the addicted thrives in the dark, the secrecy, the veil of those who conceal the parasite. Bring it to the light. The light will hurt the eyes because they were used to darkness, the eyes will curse the day and hate the reflection they see. They will hate what they have become in the darkness. They will see finally see what has been their comfort at night, was really a parasite eating them alive. It will hurt to detach the gripping jaws of the addiction, and it will leave scars. But, the parasite will shrivel up and squirm back into its cave. Then the released will either walk in the sunlight or return to the dark cave and the parasite. It is a disease, but it is also a choice. Once the parasite is not hidden and protected, your mom will have a chance to rid herself of the monster that is alcoholism and really be able to choose for herself. She needs help from professionals. If this is something you are strong enough to do, make that call for her. Turn her in.

You do have the right to have fun and be single. You do not have the right to have your cake and eat it, too. This means that when you are ready, years from now, to be in a more committed relationship, it won't be appropriate to grind on other guys. Now for the present situation, any guy who goes around punching other guys is not for you. Violence is not acceptable and it is not a romantic gesture or cute jealous guy thing. He is seriously demented. You will enjoy being single and playing the field for now and should be wary of possesive guys, which is absolutely abnormal at any age, but more disturbing at such a young age. Your friend can like whomever she pleases, but so can you. There is no such thing as calling dibbs, on human beings. She needs to be mature enough to realize that, but she may not be there yet. You will eventually want some wonderful guy all to yourself and not want to share him with other girls. This will be when you begin to see the value of commitment and monogamy. We are all basically selfish and want it all, but eventually to have anything wonderful, we have to make a choice. Enjoy your freedom.

Tell her you regret not getting to know her better and that you would like to spend some time with her before she leaves. Simple and sweet. No need to scare her away with high drama. Part of your shyness is not realizing that you can get to know someone and have feelings in baby steps. Quit thinking it has to be all or nothing big steps. Take it slow, but proceed. Shyness is about too much self-consciousness. Shyness is too much focus on yourself. Focus on the one you are with and the shyness dissipates. Suddenly you are free from self-criticism because you are busy actually listening and getting to know another human being. You probably are more afraid of failure and regretting that you blew it, more than you actually are in love. I know you are going to have a hard time with that realization but put your pride aside for a moment and let it reach your heart. You need to get past yourself to get into another person's reality. Love is not about you and your feelings. It is about seeing the beauty of another person's soul...just her. Not because you can or cannot have her, but because you respect and admire something in her that makes her unique. If you have not done this yet, you don't love her, just the idea of gaining her approval. Whether or not you get to have a real relationship with this girl, you can use this advice to get past your shyness and open up the possibilities of love with many women in your lifetime. You can do this.

I highly suggest you seek counseling for this. It is not healthy for you to be obsessed with this person or any other. Love is not about possession. You need to back off of this whole situation and do some soul searching. There is an emptiness inside that cannot be filled by another person. You tried to do this. You think that she will end your lonliness. She won't and she can't. This is why you are suicidal, also. Thinking that it is going to be your way or no way at all. You wanted to control her, the whole situation, and now death. It is not your time to die. It is your time to break free from the misery and lonliness by finding someone that will always love you unconditionally and never leave...this person is YOU. I want you to talk to someone, a counselor to help you get in touch with your feelings...the ones you have not talked about and are reluctant to admit. You are not alone, and you will find real love. Love that is about respecting and allowing each other the space to be individuals and still connect. Start today a new journey, toward self healing, and get into the school counselor's office. You will need support and they should be able to provide you with a headstart towards your total well-being.

So, what have you learned from this little experience? Do you enjoy being lied to? No. Neither does anyone else. Be upfront and clear next time, and you won't get in this mess. Guys do not like it when girls try to confuse them. Believe me, they are confused enough without our making it worse for them! Guys do like women who are brave and honest enough to approach them and straight up tell them what we want. What Jeremy told Charisse is most likely the truth, so start being real and he may start asking for your number. Don't call him again. Next time you like a guy, give him your phone number. Guys like a girl to make the first move, but not girls who totally bug them. When you see Jeremy next time say "Sorry about the miscommunication. I got a little silly. I do that around cute guys." Then smile and walk away. He will probably be flattered and like that you are calm and confident. Don't feel that way? Fake it! Just because you are nervous, does not mean you have to act like it that moment. Learn to control yourself and you will have a much happier outcome next time. This is a lot for you at such a young age, so read this a few times and let it sink in. It will save you years of frustration.

Good advice already from BEY especially, so I will just add this...
You acted from your feelings which were powerful enough to get you into this situation, but now it is time for your head to catch up. No more playing around, or you are just the other woman and will end up feeling worse. Tell him that it was not smart for you to do what you did with him being attached and that from now on, unless he leaves his girlfriend for you, it will just have to be left alone. If he really wants you, he would dump his girlfriend for you. Otherwise, you are just going to be used. Give both of you the chance to do the right thing. The girlfriend deserves to know where she stands, but ONLY from him. Don't tell her or anyone that might tell her out of spite. Dangerous Curves Ahead. Slow Down. Proceed With Caution.

Unfortunately we cannot make it okay for her. She has things in her life we cannot control and it is not up to you to save or rescue her from things beyond your power. However, just knowing she has you on her side cheering for her and encouraging her might make it easier for her to get through the adult drama. Life is wonderful, but not all the time. We all go through real crap at sometime in our lives, and friends help by sticking with us and holding our hand when we need, or just being there to listen. You don't have to fix anything to be a friend. Just let her know you care and are not leaving her.

I am sure you have talked to those of the male gender when you were not nervous about liking them, right? Practice talking to guys you are not interested in first. That way, you have nothing to lose. In most ways, talking to a guy is easier than talking to girls. Why? Because, guys are not going to read as much into everything you say and are much more simple creatures linguistically. Just say what ever you want, guys are not as judgemental in this area, because they are not great conversationalists themselves. They have low standards when speaking! Ever hear a group of guys talking? Most of the words are just grunts. When you do talk with a guy you like, just keep it simple and real. Don't be phony or act dumb. Be yourself and smile!

My guess is shin splints which can come from exercising without proper shoes and should go away in a couple days. If pain continues or worsens or there is any bruising or swelling, see a doctor immediately. Check out the link below to find out more about shin splints and if you think you might have them.

http://www.medicinenet.com/shin_splints/article.htm

The pill causes your body to think it is already pregnant through hormonal signals and this can cause some initial weight gain, as pregnancy will cause the body to store fat more efficiently to be able to support a second growing life. However, a few pounds you may gain can be managed and lost with a little extra exercise and better diet. The alternative to being on birth-control might be really getting pregnant, and that will put on tons more weight than being on the pill would have, not to mention the unwanted pregnancy and decisions you would have to face from that point. I have not know of any to make you lose weight, but birth control and the use of medication is serious stuff that puts chemicals in your body and should not be done for weight control. Your doctor will advise you better when you talk to her or him about your specific needs and concerns. Make an appointment with your doctor or see one at your local clinic for more information and the right plan for you.

Part of you is not in the moment with your own boyfriend because you think you are missing out on being with someone else or the possibility of life without him being better. This does not mean you want to leave your guy, it just means you need to think about why you are together and if it is truly what you want. Are you just settling for now? We cannot trick our hearts into wanting what we don't really want. Another possible answer is that you are the type of person who thinks she does not deserve to be happy. This is serious if that is the case. You need to quit that thinking or you will always second guess yourself and not let yourself enjoy the moment. Think about both possibilities and give yourself permission to explore what you want and why you deserve it.

Everything is subjective and what feels good to you may not to someone else. Keep exploring in this area as you would any other. We grow and change, our tastes in music, food, friends, etc. change, so why shouldn't our sexual desires? The body as well as the universe seeks balance. When you orgasm your body releases sexual tension. It is the tension that is pleasurable, building to climax and the actual orgasm which is mind blowing, also seems to create the most harmonious peaceful state of mind. We are made up of chemicals and these sexual chemicals that build and release are playing that cat and mouse game of nervous system homeostasis...that balancing act. This is why it seems to feel better, be more of a release when you go a few more days inbetween, creating more tension.

Raise your standards girl! I am not just talking about picking a different sort of guy (that is obvious), but defining a new set of standards for yourself. The men you attract and will be attracted to will not vary much unless you begin to soul search and make decisions first to change your own heart and mind about who you are. What kind of woman are you? Where are you going in life? What is your ideal relationship like? Would the man of your dreams take a second glance at you now, or would he pass you by? Spend more time figuring yourself out, and less time being the dry hump girl. YOU know that you can do better, and it starts now.

"Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person they are almost indistinguishable. To say something you value deeply to another and to have him or her value it equally by listening to it carefully and apppreciatively is the most universal way of exchanging social interest or demonstrating affection." David Augsburger, CARING ENOUGH TO HEAR AND BE HEARD.


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http://www.coolnurse.com/

http://www.4woman.gov/violence/

http://www.childhelpusa.org/about/programs-and-services/childhelp-national-child-abuse-hotline-1-800-4-a-child

drug/alcohol abuse help go here: http://www.4drugabuse.com/addiction-treatment.html

http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/1800-273-TALK(8255)
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is a 24-hour, toll-free suicide prevention service available to anyone in suicidal crisis. If you need help, please dial 1-800-273-TALK (8255). You will be routed to the closest possible crisis center in your area. With over 120 crisis centers across the country, our mission is to provide immediate assistance to anyone seeking mental health services. Call for yourself, or someone you care about. Your call is free and confidential. -----------------------------------

http://www.kidscrisis.com/

http://www.teenadviceonline.org/gethelp/numbers.html

You can call the National Sexual Assault Hotline, operated by RAINN, 24 hours a day, free & confidential. 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

For info. on birth control etc.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/

The Girls and Boys Town National Hotline is the only hotline that children and parents can call with any problem at any time:
Open 24-hours a day, every day at 1-800-448-3000

Spanish-speaking counselors available; translation services for 100+ languages

TTY line available for the hearing-impaired at 1-800-448-1833

Counselors can help find services and agencies in the callers' local community

Help at the End of the Line
Callers talk to highly-trained, professional counselors who listen and give "right now" answers. They're sympathetic people who have expertise dealing with these and other problems:

depression

suicide

running away

parenting problems

relationship concerns

physical, sexual, and emotional abuse

chemical dependency

mental health

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Toll Free
Operated by Father Flanagan's Boys' Home, hotline services are free of charge to every parent and child in all 50 states, the District of Columbia, U.S. territories, and Canada.

Toll-Free: 1-800-448-3000

http://www.sex-ed101.org/links.html

http://www.anorexicweb.com/anorexicweb.html

Report Child Abuse
Childhelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline
1-800-4-A-CHILD TDD: 1-800-2-A-CHILD



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All our motivations stem from two: Love or Fear. When in turmoil or indecision, ask yourself from which of these you are acting. If you want an honest response outside of yourself, you need to first be honest within yourself. Bless you on your journey!

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