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the ex or the new?
I am a 15 year old girl. My boyfriend and i broke up after a long time a few weeks ago. I really do love him and he told me "i used to love you." I messed up because i really hurt him and now I dont know it he is just saying he doesn't love me or if he really doesn't. There is this other boy who is really cute and he likes me. All of my friends are telling me it will help if I go out with him but I still love my ex. what do i do? should i keep waiting for my ex.. he calls me everynight and he always wants to talk... or should i forget about him and go for the new boy?
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if you and your ex have been together for along time and you still love your him, it will NOT help you at all if you go out with the new guy. it will just make you want your ex more, plus its not fair for the new guy. i'd say give it a little more time and see how things with your ex go.
gooood luck
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Go for who you really love/like. Don't go with someone just cos they like you. In this case, the feeling has to be mutual.
I know you must be thinking, yes in time to come I'd be able to adapt and slowly grow to love the new cute boy. Yes this works only if you don't have anyone else in your heart.
But for now, in this case, you have to go with who you really like. Your ex obviously misses you. So do choose wisely and listen to your feelings.
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Love is a word that only grows and becomes closer to what it actually means as we grow to realize that none of us are truly easily loved or loving. Just the word Love contains expectations and obligations that hardly ever fit the situation and persons involved. Take the word Love out of the picture and what do you have left? Sometimes it is friendship, sex, commitment, flattery, abuse, convenience, sympathy, fear, or confusion. Forget what you thought about the word and start paying attention to what it means from the one saying it. It means different things to different people. He might say "I love you" when he means, "I own you." She might say, "I love you" when she means, "I am lonely." Don't seek to end confusion with one person by creating it with another. You need to find clarity and know where the you and your ex stand before seeking to move on or you will regret it. Leaping blindly, because you are afraid to see the current situation will only land you in a worse place. You can't be open to both guys equally. Your heart is tugging you in one direction more than another right now....be honest about which it is and stick with that.
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i say go w/ ur heart... i know its hard to forget an x... but who cares what other people think, if you like him stay with him... try to win him back.. it will just hurt him more if you go out w/ the new guy... basically i say if you still "love" ur x then go back to him... its too hard on urself to go against love... trust me
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well,never leave the one you love for the one you like..
and you might just end up leading the new guy on..
alright?
hope it helps.
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if he's calling that means he is still interested. ask him directly, "do you love me or not, because i won't wait forever." if he says no then go out with the other kid. maybe you'll succeed in making your ex jealous but dont do it for that reason alone because it isn't fair to the other boy. teenagers always think they know what love is but in truth its too hard to tell. give the other boy a try. it'll be good for you. good luck.
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You say your ex calls you and always wants to talk he is still in love with you if he really loves you becasue real love doesn't fade that quick. I thin you should sit down and tell him that you still love him and that you are sorry from your heart for what you did and you stillw ant to be with him and that you don't want t o be alone tell him that you want to know if you still stand a chance with each other or does he just want to be close friends because if that is the case you can move on.
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it wouldnt be fare to the new boy. you still love your ex and have feelings, and it just wouldnt be fare to date him now. wait another couple weeks, and if you want to get over your ex, dont pick up when he calls, or if you do pick up, say you have to go after a couple mins. but if you wanna try to get back together, ask your ex why he keeps calling if he doesnt love you.. that might lead to something good or bad.. hope i helped!<3
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