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boyfriend..
ok im 13/f.
i need some honest help here.
ive been with my boyfriend for 4 months and i really like him..i thought i loved him at one point but i realized that i just really really like him.
so anyway.
things were going amazingly until about 2 weeks ago.
we were perfect,and everyone told us that.
i loved him so much.
but then when i was in a play at my school,and i fell for one of the stage crew guys.
ive been hanging with him and his friends alot lately.
last night we had a dance at our school and my boyfriend wasnt there but he told me i could dance w/ other guys because he trusted me.
so i grinded and slow danced with this guy and his friends.
i wanted to kiss him so badly but i couldnt because i would never cheat on my boyfriend.
i dont know wht to do.
o and i broke up with my bf a couple days because he was getting really mad at threatening my guy friends bcuz they were talking to me alot.
but then we got back together and i dont no wht to do.
he got mad at my friend [not the one i like but one of my other guy friends] last night and punched him in the face.
i kinda wanna dump him and go out with him.
oh and one more problem.
my friend [not my best friend but more then a just hi hi how ya doin friend] went out with him for a day and she still likes him and was mad when i grinded with him.
i need help.
and i kinda wanna b single so i can flirt and play around with other guys.
btw-i AM NOT a slut.
im just the kind of girl who has alot of guy friends.
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LMFAO wow....
iight chica this is crazii but okay...
First you 13 and got your whole life ahead of you i know millions of people have prolly already told you that but it's the truth, no matter what you think guys will come and go faster then friends.
Okay you went out partied a lil, had fun, and now you feelin' the playa who you grinded up on, well that happens a lot its just the intensity of dancing, you might not really like him the way you think you do, so give that some time.
Make sure he likes you first....
Your man, well if he trusts you to dance with other niggaz in a dance, but he cant trust you talking to them when you arent standing up sex'n them, well then homeboy has a problem.
Yo 'friend' ask her if you went out with this niggaz what would she do honestly, if she says i would hit you, then be like oh well then just hit me now becuz we feelin' eachother..
Now dont forget my first words you are to young to be tied down if you feel for another playa just tell ya boy its not working out its to serious of a relationship and you want out for the moment....
hope i helped holla
.Da One'n Only.
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You do have the right to have fun and be single. You do not have the right to have your cake and eat it, too. This means that when you are ready, years from now, to be in a more committed relationship, it won't be appropriate to grind on other guys. Now for the present situation, any guy who goes around punching other guys is not for you. Violence is not acceptable and it is not a romantic gesture or cute jealous guy thing. He is seriously demented. You will enjoy being single and playing the field for now and should be wary of possesive guys, which is absolutely abnormal at any age, but more disturbing at such a young age. Your friend can like whomever she pleases, but so can you. There is no such thing as calling dibbs, on human beings. She needs to be mature enough to realize that, but she may not be there yet. You will eventually want some wonderful guy all to yourself and not want to share him with other girls. This will be when you begin to see the value of commitment and monogamy. We are all basically selfish and want it all, but eventually to have anything wonderful, we have to make a choice. Enjoy your freedom.
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this is a complicated situation.
but sweetheart you are only 13. if you want to be single & have fun, then do it. don't let a boyfriend tie you down. you have so much of your life to live. there are so many more guys out there, and you don't need to hold on to someone if you don't have feelings for them.
it's okay to like someone else.
at your age, your going to go through so many guys, its not even funny.
just let him down easy & have fun.
being single is ALWAYS the best route to take. i know from experience.
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Okay, the boyfriend is not a good person for you to be with. He is controlling and he wants more of a commitment from you than you want to give him. Break up with him.
The second guy, stagehand guy, you should feel free to pursue him. If your other friend who likes him wants to be with him, then she is welcome also to try. But if he wanted to be with her, then he would have been slow dancing with her, not you. She needs to take responsibility for her own wishes and realize that she can either want something and pursue it or want something and watch someone else get it. She can't want it and keep everyone else from getting it - not an option. If she went out with him for a day, then they broke up and they haven't gotten back together, then there's a reason they're not together, it's not your fault, and she needs to face reality. It she's really your friend, she won't be mad that you're seeing what other options you have.
Bottom line, though, is you need to get rid of this guy who punches other people in the face. Break up with him in a public place if you're afraid he would do that to you as well.
Good luck.
Sabine
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break up with him then and just "talk" to other people because you can talk to as many people you want, because technically its not going out, its just talking about going out...get waht im saying?
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