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okay.. so im 15/f and my boyfriend 17/m got into a fight last night. see we have been together for a little over 5 months. we have only got into 3 big fights, counting this one.
last night we went to the movies, and then we hung out at his place. i was in a sad/bad mood so i didnt really talk to him all that much, but i got over it and we started talking, then had sex. Well, he has this game on his phone that i like to play.
&& his birthday is next month, and i was going to have a surprise party for him, i told his best friend, so i looked at his texting to see if his friend told him anything about it. and i saw that his friend asked if he was with me and my bf said yea, shes being the usal bitch. i mean, i didnt do anything to called a "bitch". i told him i wanted to go home and on the way home i was crying and stuff. then i got home and we got into a texting fight, and i told him i would never call him any names like that, and then today he was saying how i dont appreciate the things he does for me. and i said im sorry that you called me a bitch and i had sex with you. and he said that he told his friend that before we did anything.
well really theres more to it then that, but i cried all night and today.. am i over reacting?.. i mean i never had a boyfriend that does the things my boyfriend does for me. hes so sweet, and i do notice the things he does for me. i might not show how i love him, but i do, im just really scared of getting hurt like i did in the past... what should i do to show him that im sorry?... or should i even be sorry?
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I kinda think that the person below me is wrong saying that you were basically the wrong one in this looking in his texts. I mean you guys have been together for awhile so it shouldn't be a big deal if you look at eachothers things, especially since you guys care/love eachother and have nothing to hide from eachother. Saying it was wrong of you to do that is like saying that you looked at his texts and found out he was cheating on you, yet 'it was his personal shit and you shouldn't have been looking.' I think you have a right to be upset and you shouldn't apologize because being called a bitch by someone you really care about behind your back hurts and makes you wonder what else they're saying behind your back. I just think that you should have a 'feel good' talk about it, or a calm talk, and try to settle things. Tell me how things goooo <3
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You looked at his texting behind his back. That was not your right to do no matter what you think justified it. He has a right to vent to his best guy friend about how he feels he is being treated with you when you are in a bad mood. Guys are not going to tell each other that their feelings are hurt, that is not in keeping with macho-male-speak. What communicates that man to man, is saying you are acting like a bitch. If you don't like being called a bitch, don't act like one. We all have mood swings, but it does not give you the right to treat someone badly. If you needed to be alone because of your mood, then you should have stayed home and sulked alone. The fact that you chose to have sex is not his fault. If you want to be with a guy that always thinks you are a sweet princess and not a bitch, you have two options: 1. Be one 2. Find a guy with no balls
Most of us are jerks from time to time whether we are female or male. Own it and apologize and he will respect you more. Then, grow up and stop snooping around on his phone and having text fights. I can't think of a much sillier waste of time, expect maybe watching American Idol.
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he should appologize... he has no right to call you a bitch behind ur back espically if he said "usual" because that means that hes been thinking that for a while... he needs to have told you how you were acting and confronted you about you "acting like a bitch" and not his friend so he needs to appologize and talk to you aobut it... then you can appologize and say hey im sorry for acting that way if you thought i was ill try to not do that again.. but it really hurt when you said that about me because i think the exact opposite of you..... so maybe just talk to him about that... but he should appologize first/ be chasing after you...
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It seems you're staying with him because of fear of getting hurt but clearly being with him is hurting you too. You don't deserve that.
He shouldn't have said what he did and the fact that he has managed to turn the situation around to make you feel bad is appalling.
He may treat you well sometimes, but sometimes isn't enough. You haven't done anything wrong and he should be the one to apologise, not you.
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You shouldn't be sorry. He's the one who hurt YOU. If he was a good boyfriend, he wouldn't be saying bad things about you. It sort of sounds like he's using you for sex. I mean, if he was saying that you were a bitch BEFORE you had sex, doesn't that kind of say something?
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honesly i dont think your overreacting. if hes that loyal of a bf he wood of never called u a bitch. everyone has theree good and bad days. if u find urself getting moody wit him try to calm down
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