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the last chance
ok there is this girl at my school who i used to date, but it did not really go all that well, i was too shy. first of all i do not know how to overcome that, and second, ever since we broke up i have realized more and more how much i love her and want her, even though we rarely talk. she is also leaving at the end of this school year, i want to tell her that i love her, but it sounds so stupid.
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Gabrielle: Nothing you say is stupid. You cannot hold in your feelings. You need to tell her how you feel immediatley. Don't tell her at the end of the year, she'll be gone and you won't be able to have the relationship that you can have if you tell her now. And if you tell her then, she might have a boyfriend and then what. If you don;t get your feelings returned, than don't sweat it. You can have another girl.
DANIELLE: First of all, no love is stupid. I suggest you tell her you love her before she leaves or you will have to live with the fact that you didn't for the rest of your life. If she is smart, she'll accept your love because any boy would have to be sweet and kind to pour his heart out to this advice column. I wish you the best of luck.
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Tell her you regret not getting to know her better and that you would like to spend some time with her before she leaves. Simple and sweet. No need to scare her away with high drama. Part of your shyness is not realizing that you can get to know someone and have feelings in baby steps. Quit thinking it has to be all or nothing big steps. Take it slow, but proceed. Shyness is about too much self-consciousness. Shyness is too much focus on yourself. Focus on the one you are with and the shyness dissipates. Suddenly you are free from self-criticism because you are busy actually listening and getting to know another human being. You probably are more afraid of failure and regretting that you blew it, more than you actually are in love. I know you are going to have a hard time with that realization but put your pride aside for a moment and let it reach your heart. You need to get past yourself to get into another person's reality. Love is not about you and your feelings. It is about seeing the beauty of another person's soul...just her. Not because you can or cannot have her, but because you respect and admire something in her that makes her unique. If you have not done this yet, you don't love her, just the idea of gaining her approval. Whether or not you get to have a real relationship with this girl, you can use this advice to get past your shyness and open up the possibilities of love with many women in your lifetime. You can do this.
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hey, well about the relationship that didn`t work out, you need to do something about it. you either a) try to forget about it and move on or b) make something of it. if you picked a), its probably easiest to start talking to other girls. since she is leaving at the end of the year, since your shy this option might be the better choice for you. that way once it gets towards the end of the year and closer to her leaving, you will have other girls to talk to and who knows maybe even a relationship. talking to other girls frequently will help you forget about the girl and having a relationship with definately help you forget about that girl. stuck thinking of ways to meet girls? there are lots. myspace, facebook, other friend`s friends, school, and clubs. if you picked b), you`ll surely have to start talking to her and eventually admit to her your strong feelings for her. since you said that you are shy, i think option a) might be the better choice. anyways with this option, you will have to build a pretty good and solid friendship with her. after you do that and talk to her frequently, you`ll have to tell her how much you care for her. don`t do this too early in the friendship, or you will seem stalkerish and creepy. you dont want that to be the impression left on her -- now do you? go with your gut instinct. i wish you the best of luck :].
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