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The Question
im taking monistat for a yeats infection....but why do you have to use it at night?
The Answer
The medicine will leak out too quickly to be effective if you use it during the day when you are active and moving around. The medicine needs to sit where it is, and you only stay still enough while asleep for it to work.
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i heard that if you count the days from your period and have sex on a specific day then you cannot get pregnant because there is no egg in there to fertilise...if so how do you do this?
thanx
The Answer
There is something called the rhythm method that can help a women figure out if she is LESS LIKELY or more likely to get pregnant at a given time in the month.
It's not perfect, at all, you can still get pregnant even if the method tells you that you are less likely too at that time.
Relying on the rhythm method is a damn good way to get pregnant.
Basically: It sucks. Use condoms.
Only condoms protect you from pregnancy and almost all STD's. There are no other easy solutions that are as reliable. Use condoms and the pill to be extra safe.
Google 'rhythm method contraception' will give you more details. I won't tell you how to use this method here because THIS METHOD IS INEFFECTIVE. USE CONDOMS.
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The Question
Prom is coming up in a few months!
I figured since I have, what seems to be, a pretty good idea, that I should ask this early to avoid any last minute rushing.
I would like a really big prom dress; but I don't want the hassel of dancing a whole pooof length away from my date.
Are there any stores that make big poofy prom dresses, with a re-movable poof? Like maybe it is a nice dress with a detachable poofskirt?
Thank You!
The Answer
What you are looking for is called a petticoat.
Most full-length dresses I've seen in recent years have built in petticoats (if you are looking for a cock-tail length, you'll probably have an easier time). Now, you can certainly search high and low online or in stores for a dress with a seperate petticoat, I imagine they do exist out there, but I think these are basically your opitions:
Be prepared to pay top dollar (I would suspect you would be looking at $600 and up for both pieces) for a dress and petticoat combination.
Be prepared to pay a tidy ammount to a very competant seamstress to remove the built-in petticoat of the dress you like and make it removeable.
Have the dress custom made for you.
Best of luck.
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The Question
how do i become high maintenance?
The Answer
Why would you want to? That is a bit like asking 'How do I become a vicious bitch who treats people poorly?'
Really, its quite simple:
Demand everything, your way, when you want it, all the time.
Ignore other people's feelings, timelines and needs.
Treat people cruelly for your own pleasure and entertainment. Gossip about them and hate them when they no longer entertain you.
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Well to start off i'm 17/M and my girlfriend is 16/F
About 6 months ago we met online and we liked each other from the start. Around four months later we figured out a way to meet..Which was really hard because I live in Virginia and she lives in Connecticut. So we met at a hockey game for her birthday..Well we really loved each other in person so we decided to go out and figure out a way to make this work for us. Around a month later, during Christmas break, my dad let me take a train to CT to spend a few days with her. Her family liked me and we had the best time ever. The problem is..I had hopes of going to college in CT so I could be closer to her and the distance would no longer be a problem. Well my dad says he wants me to go to a community college down here for a year or two then transfer to a 4-year college, and he said that is the only way he would help me pay for it. Well I would do anything to be closer to her and go to college in CT but my dad said i would have to pay for room-and-board, the out of state tuition, and food, and all the other expenses i would have. I'm not sure how i would be able to do all that on my own..but i would do anything for this girl because i love her so much. And she says she doesn't think she would be able to handle a long distance relationship for another year. Please help me..I don't know what to do and i can't lose her, we're so perfect together and I've never loved anyone like i love her.
The Answer
Man, don't do it.
I have done the post-secondary thing, in Canada, where it is cheeper, and I still could not have done it without my parents assitance unless I went into DEEP DEBT.
That is the ONLY way you will manage this without parental assitance: lots of loans and a few scholarships (hopefully).
I know that you simply can't believe it right now, but the debt you will have to accept in order to do this will haunt you far longer then your broken heart. The risk you are thinking of taking could seriously mess you up for decades in the future.
Save your pennies for train fare, and see if she is willing to give it a try. If not, it wasn't meant to be.
Maybe your dad is being an ass, but he is your dad and it's his money: He's allowed to be an ass and your allowed to going tens of thousands of dollars into debt in order to chase your chickee, I just wouldn't suggest it.
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hi Razhie...i think you can help me...you are experienced, and seem like a person that gives good advice overall
so heres the problem:
yes i have an advicenators column, and so does my sister. I recently just found out that she has found a guy on this site (advicenators) that has a column too. I think she might like him...maybe, because she asked him a question..."if he had a screen name, and if he did, then what is it?" She does not know i know, and i am really worried that she will do something, or try to get to know him well. To be honest, i dont trust him, or anyone on a website for that matter. i cant tell her i know...she will kill me (not litterally) Please help me!!!!! I dont know what to do...
ps
she is 15, and so am i. and i no she would not drink, do drugs, or anything sexual(if that has ANYTHING to do with the question, or helpful to you personally in any way)
The Answer
Have a talk with her.
There really is nothing else you can do but sit around and worry about it. I'm not going to advise you to hover over her shoulder or spy on her and go through her files obviously... so unless you are willing to sit around and just hope she brings this up, you are going to have to bite the bullet and say "Look, I saw this and it was totally wrong of me. I'm not going to do it agian (you better mean this part) but what I saw worried me. Would you please talk to me about it?"
Giving her a chance to confide in you what her feelings are first, rather then jumping into an online safetly lecture will probably make it more positive.
Now, if you can get that far without her screaming and storming out (and I think if you stay calm and say something very close to that you will) you can tell her how you feel about it. Do this part as simply and as straightforward as you can: Practice in advance and keep it down to as few as words as possible. That makes your message clear and understandable and doesn't leave as much to argue with. If you can keep your concerns down to five setences, you are doing well.
As a guide, I suppose, here would be my five sentences if I were in your shoes:
"There are a lot of people online and some you can trust but a lot you can't so when I see you reach out to some stranger online it makes me afriad. I know you are smart and have good values, but we all make mistakes, and if you ever make one I only want to know so that I can help you. I don't want to control who you talk too, I just want you to know that this worries me and I don't think it's a very safe thing to do. I know you might be angry with me now, but I'm being really honest with you and I hope you'll be honest with me even though I screwed up, so that we can always take care of eachother."
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Ohhkay. Where to start. I'm confused. It really would be great to get some older opinions on this question. My topic is: teenage love. What does everyone think of it? Because all my friends, or a fair few, will have a boyfriend who they keep for a week or a month or two and they'll be from day one, "head over heels in love". Now, I for one think that's ridiculous! They're 15/16 year olds and, in particular examples, they'll have a week or two, maybe a month of I love You after they met about 2 days previously - or online or something, and then it stops. I for one think that love can't be anything more than infatuation, but I think this has become the image of teenage love. Now I started going out with my boyfriend 11 months ago and I knew I didn't love him at the start. It was like a 15 year old crush on both parts. I didn't admit to myself I loved him until about 5 months had passed. And even then I didn't say it verbally. Now, at 11 months I feel like I can talk about it freely with him and we've never been closer; I really can't see the end right now, even though everything inevitably ends. But my parents seem to think that it won't last and I'm being ridiculous, wanting to see him so much. They say it won't last, although compared to my friends, me and my boyfriend are practically an old aged married couple - they say its ridiculous that tennagers can possibly even contemplate the meaning of the word 'love'. They also say that what I have is hardly a commitment or any kind of dedication even though I feel completely commited , which I will admit came with time (about a month or two, even more so now). I just want to know - is this true? Have any of you ever experienced or seen 'teen love' do anything but crash and burn compared to the relationships people have when slightly older? Do you think that for some people, like me, it could last? Or is it, in your opinion also, likely to end and be forgotten about? Do you think there is more of a sense of commitment when you're more mature or an equal amount?
Thankyou! Your feedback is
VERY MUCH appreciated
Faye.
The Answer
I wont say I don't 'believe' in teenage love. Thats a bit like saying I don't believe in tabby cats... but I have to say I have never seen it last in any recent generation, and will be shocked when/if I do.
You kind of nailed it in your question: The 'Feelings' of commitment and affection are there, in you, and maybe even just as much so in your flaky friends! The feelings are REAL, but the maturity, self-knowledge, emotional intelligence (which comes with experience) and the basic ABILITY to stay together in a relationship is lacking.
Your teens is a time for independent thinking and acting, biologically, that is what you are wired for. 'Love' even in adults, has trouble triumphing over what teenagers inevitably face: huge differences and developing life goals, major transitions in values and in workplace, living arrangements, education and maybe even geographically!
With all those factors and more, and the inexperience with dealing with them, odds are against healthy, maintainable 'love'. It's just not damn likely. Feelings might be real, but the follow-through on those feelings, is almost impossible.
My advice to you: Enjoy what you have. Live in such a way that no matter if you celebrate your 50th anniversary with this guy, or with someone else, or no one at all, you can look back, smile, and be proud of yourself.
And LISTEN to your parents. Even when you disagree, at least listen to them. They might be seeing something you can't, and balancing your relationship and the rest of your life is important.
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Long story but trying to put in a short story
I’ve been in love with my friend for nearly 8 years. She is my best friend and I told her how I felt 3 years ago. She didn’t say anything but shock. I ask her "why do you seem ok with my feelings toward you?” she didn’t reply back at the note. Last year it was still bugging me why she seem ok with it. I ask her in a chat room when she was online. She was fine with it but doesn’t feel the same way. She is unsure of her sexuality.
I try to get over her as my sisters friend was hooking me up with her brother. I met him but not my type. I told her about it and she was jealous. she said in the chat room "I don’t know if I should be happy for you or pissed" "I guess time will tell for the both of us"
after she said that I ask her what was her deal. She said she was jealous of my last two boyfriends and didn’t like the fact someone making someone hook with someone they don’t know. I wrote her a note and gave it to her and ask her "do you like me more than a friend?” she didn’t reply back for 3 weeks. I went up to her face to face (took me a while to do it) and ask her she didn’t say anything till I ask the third time. She shook her head no. and I said? "That’s all I want to know?"
I don’t know if she likes me or not. I mean when I met her she began to lean on me, lean her head on my shoulder when we sat together at the movies or whatever and holding my arm too. Now she hardly does it anymore right after I ask her that question "do u like me more than a friend?" she had a lot of crushes on some boys in high school
so I don’t think she will like me back.
We still hang out and have a good time but I still have feelings for her. I never thought she would like me back but I never thought she will be jealous. She said she was being over protective but in the email before the talk she said she was jealous!!??
What should I do?
I think I should wait for her to step up because I told her 3 times about my feelings to her. I didn’t mean to but she took so long to explain. I had to step up.
I feel lost and confused and I want to get over her.
The Answer
That is the crux of your problem isn't it:
You want to get over her.
She will do ANYTHING to keep that from happening.
She likes you just enough to try and sabotage you liking anyone else. She likes that you like her. She likes the attention, and the adoration. She likes the drama.
All those things might be lovely for her, but they are toxic for you.
She is jealous, and she behaving in a mean, selfish, vicious little way.
That isn't really 'liking' you at all. That is liking herself and what you do for her and how good you make her feel.
That isn’t enough for you, and it never will be.
Decide in your own mind that she isn't interested, (because she isn't interested in taking this further with you, she is only interested in keeping you interested) and then ignore all her hints, all her arguments and all her small flirting kindnesses.
When you do find someone else you like, be prepared that she will up the ante and start feeling 'confused' about her sexuality again. Ignore it. You deserve better then being jerked around by her again. You need better. Leave her and her petty games behind you. If you can’t do that and maintain the friendship, then don’t maintain the friendship.
A true friend wouldn’t sabotage, lie or manipulate you anyways.
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I have issues with trusting when I get in a relationship. Well I met some one I became so in love with. It was hard cause somewhere down the line I end up being skepticle or looking for things to not trust one. I am in a long distance relationship and have been for two years. But he is incarcerated and I send him money. Well, he has an account of his own in the world. But I talked to thier family member today and they told me he had sent a certain amount of money home to be deposited in his account. But he did not tell me about it. I tell him everything when he ask so for him not to have told me this has totally freaked me out and to hear it from them and not him has really scared me. I do not know what to do, I want to run. But I love him very much!! And some time before this he said he would send me one of the monthly account paper they get and I forgot all about it. And I just happen to think of it. Can some one give me a word of advice on how to handle this.
The Answer
Has it ever occurred to you that you might not have 'trust issues' but have 'untrustworthy boy' issues?
It's amazing how quickly we will assume something is our fault. When in fact, we aren't being treated properly
You are sending, your incarcerated male friend, money, and he is using it and sending it to his family, without telling you. He said he would send you an account paper, and he never did. He is miles away, obviously has had some trouble of illegal behavior sense and is being punished for that and you are sending him money. He could, very easily be taking for a ride. You have no rational reason to trust him.
You don't have trust issue. Your boy is behaving in an untrustworthy manner.
If you insist that he needs that money and you are going to keep sending it to him, at least, for Christ's sake, DEMAND a monthly account before you send him any more money.
And remember sometimes the reason you feel a bad about a situation, is because it's a bad situation. That can be a clue to get away from it.
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Ok, so There's my ex :). He used to love me - I know he did, until he fell out of love with me after around 5 months, and broke up with me. i was heartbroken for a very long time, but managed to egt over it until recently when we've started getting back together again in a very secretive way. He doesn't love me - I know that but he cares about me, and he's always there for me whenever i need him. We're together secretly and its a kind of 'not strings attached relationship', and we do stuff - but I know he also like this other girl. She's perfect in every single way to be honest, and I know he really really wants her - she's practically a 15 yr old pornstar! I think he wants her ina more of a sexual way, and she'd win no contest if it were me or her. Yet I think he cares about me alot more and likes my personality alot better. It doesn't help old feelings have stirred and I now feel very attached to him... so please please, I would love some help on this matter, just to express your opinion on my situation, and I'd love some advice on how just... to sort my feelings out, and how I should go about getting rid of this competition.
Thank you!
The Answer
Get rid of the competition by getting rid of your ex.
When you are with someone, in a no-strings-attached arrangement, who doesn't love you, there will ALWAYS be competition and ALWAYS be the risk that he'll leave you for that competition.
Caring about you is probably not going to keep him with you, not for long anyways.
No-strings-attached relationships can work, but only if both people want the same thing. If he just wants your friend ship and some random hook-ups, and you want a relationship, this is going to blow up in your faces sooner rather then later.
Save yourself, your heart and your dignity and end it with him now. It could only get worse from here.
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how can you tell when a guy SINCERELY likes you or if he's just trying to butter you all up so that he can get what he wants if you know what i mean. we kinda have a history. im 17 hes 18, and a good friend of mine whom ive known since the beginning of the school year. we liked each other, nothing happened, so that fell apart. his ex who is one of my friends found out i liked him and said all he wanted was sex.. but then she changed it to no they had a bad break-up but that he was a good guy and wed be cute together. now he still likes me, has admitted his feelings and were kind of "talking/dating" but i dont know. i said no when he asked me to be his girlfriend over the wknd.... he knows my xbf of 1.5 yrs who i broke up with in november sexually assualted me, and he knows that his best friend played the nice guy card to try to take advantage of me as well, then ditched me and started drama when he couldnt get any, which my guy couldnt stand and wanted to kill him for.. that ordeal basically ruined their friendship. anyway.. i want to think hes not like that.. he says hes not.. and he hasnt tried anything. his other best friend who is a girl and also kind of a friend of mine said shes been hearing that he just wants to go out w/ girls to get sex but she doesnt know if thats true.. but at the beginning of the year she said she knows for a fact hes a virgin. i dont know what to think !?!?! after his friend and my x im convinced that thats all guys are after so i have ZERO trust in them but i just dont know? any signs that i can tell or anything? i just wanna be sure ... x
The Answer
You can't tell for sure. You can only trust your gut, keep your eyes and ears open and learn from your mistakes.
However, you could certainly make things easier on yourself by telling him where you stand on this whole issue up front.
Tell him something like "Look, I like you, but I'm not going to sleep with you. I'm not interested in having a sexual relationship right now and I don't know when I will be. So if you are waiting to get laid, you need to met someone else."
Don't tell him you are thinking about it and don't tell him when you think you'll be ready agian (even if he asks) just tell him a gentle but firm 'This isn't going to happen'.
Remember that even good guys want sex, get arroused and have it on thier minds. They can't really help that. The difference between good guy and snakes is that the good guys are respectful and don't let thier desire for sex posion thier relationship.
You still wont know for sure, but you'll feel stronger and in more control if you lay down the rules firmly before you begin to date.
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*16 female
i've been going out with this one guy for about 5 months now. well hes a virgin and i'm not. we've been close to having sex a few times but he never has a condom. then one day we were talking about doing it and then he kind of chickened out. well i agreed with him we should wait a while. but then i got scared cause all my friends were having sex and they were all saying how they thought they might get pregnant. i didn't want that to happen if me and my boyfriend had sex so i told him i wanted to wait till college or maybe even out of college. and he was more then happy with that decision. but now i want to have sex with him and i've told him that. i want to have sex but i'm scared. he just says okay. i want to have sex with him soo bad. how can i get him in the mood for it again? please help
The Answer
This isn't your decision alone hun.
A lot of people think, wrongly, that when a couple has sex is up to the female. They think that because it is more often the girl who is saying 'No'. That is not right: It's a couple’s decision; both people have to be ready and excited to take this step.
So, you've told him what you wanted: What did he say? Did he say he was ready? Have you had a serious conversation about this were you have both decided on your birth control usage and agreed that you are both ready for this step?
If not, THAT is what you need to do to 'get him in the mood'. That is the mature and adult way of doing this. Sex by seduction, although seemingly glamorous, is a bit dishonest and not very sensible. There needs to be a plan.
Frankly, arousing a teenage male is not exactly a difficult thing. When you guys have both decided to have sex and are comfortable with that decision, it will happen. Talk to him about this again and remember those risks that scared you before, are still there.
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The Question
which one should listen more to ur relationship or friend?
The Answer
The one you choose too listen to.
People are just people. They are not defined by thier relationships with us. Our friends aren't always right and neither are our partners. Everyone has failings, everyone fucks up, everyone can be wrong.
Listen to the one who makes the more convincing argument. Listen to the one your own good sense tells you to listen too.
It isn't about if you should listen to your friend or your partner, it's about what PERSON is the best one to listen to in a given situation.
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so my family just started this heart healthy diet were they give you a list of what your supposed to eat.my mom,dad and sis are all kinda obese but im at my ideal weight!on this diet you follow it for three days then your off for four days then back on for three days and so on.well after three days your suppose to loose 10 pounds.well that might be possible for my fam,but prob not me...right?im 5'0 and i weighed 120 the day i started and after the three days were over i was at 117!is that possible?i want to get at 110 pounds because thats a good wieght for me in my opinion and based on the chart for the suggeted BMI!is this a healthy diet if im loosing 4pounds in three days?i feel fine but and im eating everything on the diet which is a good amount to me?opinions would be lovely!thanx!
The Answer
A diet that even suggests that you should loose 10 pounds in three days is not a safe diet.
Unless this diet has been suggested to your family by a doctor, I would discourage them from using it. They will only gain the weight back unless they make serious lifestyles changes as well. That is why diets don't work.
Encourage your family to speak to a doctor or a nurtritionist and I wouldn't reccomend you participate in this diet. It sounds medically unsound and dangerous. People simply are not supposed to loose that much weight that quickly.
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The Question
my girlfriend gave me a handjob, i came, i fingered her, i touched my penis inbetween the two "pleasures." odds of her pregnant? what are some cheap pregnancy tests.
The Answer
Slim. Very slim. The chance still exists, but it's small.
Pregnancy tests don't work until after she has missed her period by at least three days, so you are just going to have to wait until then.
If this frightens you both this much, you two are not ready to handle sexual activities.
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The Question
Hey, My friend is having a tough time convincing her mother she's still a virgin (she's not).. but the problem is that the boy.. well man.. is 24 and she's 16. But, anyway, that's not the issue at stake. She was thinking about telling the gyno that her hymen was broken by a tampon, not a penis. But I'm not even sure if that's possible. Can it be broken by a tampon? Also, can being fingered break it?
Thanks so much
xo
The Answer
Yes, either are possible, but your friend SHOULD NOT LIE TO A DOCTOR.
You should never, ever, lie to a doctor. They can't tell your parents anything you don’t want told and they need all the information to treat you properly.
Lying to a doctor is stupid, and it's asking for trouble.
Your friend is free to be an irresponsible lying daughter, but being irresponsible and lying to a health care professional is idiotic and could put her in danger. Please tell her so.
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The Question
ok well, whenever i think back to my childhood, it seems like i see myself, as if i were someone looking in on the situation, and not experiencing it. Like when i remember this one specific point of when i broke my leg -at about 5/6 years old, i had a cast on- i see myself walking in a blue t-shirt towards the door. Or at school when i was young, me sitting on the computer, not myself looking at the computer screen. why is this? is it a psycological thing?
The Answer
The idea that our brains (and memories) are somehow completely separate from our bodies is hardwired right into brains and our understanding of the universe... So yeah, is it a psychological thing, but it isn't just you.
Our memories are not precise recreations, only representations of what we’ve experienced in that past. Our brain fills in the blanks, and obviously, the longer you think back on, the more blanks there are to fill in. So don’t worry about it. You aren’t the only one to see your memories this way, and it isn’t a problem.
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i think i might be Schizophrenic. Sometimes when i see something like a kitten, i cant help but to think "kill it!" or stupid stuff. it goes a lot worser then that like, stuff i dont actually feel, but i cant help to think about it. then i try and get rid of the thought but i cant. eventually it will go but it keeps popping into my mind. like my mind keeps thinking it, but i dont want to. like really sick thoughts. also, since a a few years ago, i develop stupid habits like shaking my head, heavy breathes, twitching. if i dont do these things sometimes, its like the feeling you get when you hold your breath for about 5 seconds, you just have to breath, or in my case, twitch etc. Sometimes i can go without doing it, when i dont think about it, but when i do, i have to do it.
Also, sometimes i hear stuff, like high frequency beeps, while im in bed. i normally cant get to bed and lie there for an hour before i do, and during that time is when i hear it.
im just wonderin, is it Schizophrenia? or anything else?
The Answer
It doesn't sounds like schizophrenia, at all. What you are describing would not fall into even the mildest forms of schizophrenia.
But I'm not a doctor. As far as I know, no one here is. If you concerned, see a doctor. Even your family doctor can give you some guidance and help you decide if what you are experiencing is within the range of normal and healthy. If I were a gambling girl, I would bet it is.
We all have dark, fatalistic thoughts and it's certainly not the least bit abnormal for a teenage boy to have obsessive and even twisted thoughts about sex. Not only are your hormones in overdrive, your curiosity will never be so intense again.
If nothing else, speaking with a doctor or counselor will give you some tools to use to combat these thoughts and behaviors. They can likely be defeated by force of will, you simply don't know how. We aren't born knowing how to keep our minds healthy the way we are born knowing to eat when we are hungry.
(Oh, and the noises are completely normal. Even hearing a rush of voices before sleep can be considered normal. Remember that the ear also hosts the balance centers of the body. When you are lying down, and tired, it’s very very normal for the ear to get signals confused. Like children who see monsters in shadows, sounds before sleep should not be taken seriously unless they are extremely persistent or painful.)
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Before re-insertion, I cleaned off, but did not pee. For a little I was ejaculated for about a minute or two. The pee hole remaned dry as no seamen seemed to come up. When I pulled out, it was 20-30 seconds before I came. I finsished myself off with my hand far away from her vagine. Is their still a risk?
The Answer
Yes.
There is always a risk. In this case, a small one, but it still exists.
You ejaculated, and did not urinate, before re-inserting yourself. That means there could still be semen.
More simply: YOU HAD UNPROTECTED SEX. PERIOD.
THERE IS ALWAYS A RISK WHEN YOU HAVE SEX. UNPROTECTED SEX CARRIES A GREATER RISK.
That is a fact of the universe. No amount of washing or urinating or praying will change that.
If you or you partner, are having trouble dealing with and accepting that risk OR if you decide the risk it too great to be taking right now, re-evaluate your sexual practices.
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I had sex once... Pulled out. Once done about 5-10 minutes later after cleaning off the "penis" with water, then drying with a towel... I inserted again. Is their any concern I should have. Made sure that all was squeezed out so their was nothing left in the pee hole as far as sperm goes.
The Answer
Concerned about pregnancy? Yes.
First off: Pulling out is a bad method. People who say it’s 95% effective (I hear that stat a lot) are basically lying to you and ignoring the conditions of that testing. It's typical use it reported to be, at best, about 80% effective. Which means 1 in 5 women who rely on the pull-out method get pregnant within a 12 month period of using this method.
Typical use of condoms and the pill are reported to be 95% and 98% effective respectively.
Also good to know, if you are going to use this bad method, is that doctors have suggested that semen can only be removed from inside the penis by urinating. All your washing and checking is meaningless. You need to urinate to have any chance of flushing out the inside, where the semen actually is.
Should you be worried about STDs? Yep, that too.
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