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TRUST
I have issues with trusting when I get in a relationship. Well I met some one I became so in love with. It was hard cause somewhere down the line I end up being skepticle or looking for things to not trust one. I am in a long distance relationship and have been for two years. But he is incarcerated and I send him money. Well, he has an account of his own in the world. But I talked to thier family member today and they told me he had sent a certain amount of money home to be deposited in his account. But he did not tell me about it. I tell him everything when he ask so for him not to have told me this has totally freaked me out and to hear it from them and not him has really scared me. I do not know what to do, I want to run. But I love him very much!! And some time before this he said he would send me one of the monthly account paper they get and I forgot all about it. And I just happen to think of it. Can some one give me a word of advice on how to handle this.
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Thank you so much for the advice!! I so needed that!!
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Has it ever occurred to you that you might not have 'trust issues' but have 'untrustworthy boy' issues?
It's amazing how quickly we will assume something is our fault. When in fact, we aren't being treated properly
You are sending, your incarcerated male friend, money, and he is using it and sending it to his family, without telling you. He said he would send you an account paper, and he never did. He is miles away, obviously has had some trouble of illegal behavior sense and is being punished for that and you are sending him money. He could, very easily be taking for a ride. You have no rational reason to trust him.
You don't have trust issue. Your boy is behaving in an untrustworthy manner.
If you insist that he needs that money and you are going to keep sending it to him, at least, for Christ's sake, DEMAND a monthly account before you send him any more money.
And remember sometimes the reason you feel a bad about a situation, is because it's a bad situation. That can be a clue to get away from it.
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You should tell him how you feel about the situation. I have trust issues too, but my issues are a little different I can't tell the person I love anything. If you don't tell him then it will get worst.
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