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I'm 17 and female.
So I'm hooked on coffee! Like I'll have a minimum of 5 a day.
However I am trying not to take coffee anymore as the caffeine in it stunts growth (and I wanna grow more!) and can give you cancer and bad teath etc.
What would anyone recoomend for stopping-because I just can't help it! (link)
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Hello,
Well, first, you want to figure out what it is about coffee that you like so much. Is it the caffeine? Or is it just the flavour?
Although some aspects of coffee are bad for you (teeth, caffeiene etc), coffee has alot of benefits. In regards to it's carcenogenic properties, it was listed by the WHO as a "2B" carcinogen. This is in the same league as picked vegetables giving you cancer. Infact, according to the report, working as a hairdresser is more likely to give you cancer than coffee. According to the WHO report, coffee has been linked to bladder cancer. On the flip side, coffee has been associated with a lower risk of prostate cancer and colon cancer.
But it's good that you want to cut down. Too much of something is never good. Once you realise why you are addicted, it's easier to cut down. If it's just the taste of it, you can start off by adding less coffee to your cup/machine. If it's the caffeine, you should maybe try decaff and then slowly ween yourself off.
The key however, is to do it slowly. Keep a diary, and write down when you drink coffee, what time, and strength. Which cup of coffee could you not live without? For me, it's the first of the day. If this is the case, then drink this cup, and drink something else throughout the day. This could be water, milk, or tea (which I will discuss later).
Also, be sure to keep drinking water throughout the day. It's good for you, and will help with cravings.
Then, slowly start to cut down on the number of cups you drink a day.
In regards to an alternative, tea is a great one. It helps to prevent cancer, hydrates you, and is full of antioxidants and other good stuff! There are many websites out there that sell tea, and there are also shops that sell it. It's not as big as coffee in some countries, but in the UK, we drink 165,000,000 cups of the stuff everyday.
Here is a website that specialises in tea. They only ship to the United Kingdom, but at least you can see what they offer, and so you can find what you like. I would recommend an Assam, or an Irish breakfast. They're both strong. Assam is nice and malty, and so closer to coffee:
http://www.empireteaandspice.com/Default.asp
But long story short, ween yourself off slowly. Aim for 2 cups a day. Drink plenty of water. Distract yourself when you get a craving!
Good luck! :)
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MEN ONLY!!!
Hi I'm just wondering, what are the things that women do to their hair, makeup, and clothes they wear that men hate? And why? This just confuses me because I've heard differen opinions but the reasons never been presented.
I want to know so I have the heads up on what I should or should not wear on a date. Thanks for answering!!! (link)
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Hello!
Well, this sort of this is really down to taste. Some guys like a certain type of girl, others like others. It also depends on whether a girl seems comfortable in her own skin. When dressing for a date, wear what you feel comfortable in. Of course, don't go in your most comfortable PJ's but have a balance between comfort and style.
These are some things I don't like:
Fake tan: It just makes a lot of girls look orange.
Skimpy clothing: although a girl should wear what she feels comfortable in, I don't feel attracted to girls that wear next to nothing
Tight clothes: I mean EXTREMELY tight clothes. Whenever I look at someone wearing something really tight, I don't know what it is, but i feel as if I cannot breathe? Like, for them.
Heavy make up: Makes girls look like clowns, and also shows that they're not very comfortable with themselves.
High heels: I'm quite tall. So it's not the height thing that bothers me (it could bother shorter guys): It's just the noise, of them hitting the ground that annoys me! And what's even worse, is when a girl complains about how her feet hurt, because of the shoes she's wearing?
My advice: dress appropriately for your body type, your skin and hair tone, and wear what you think looks good, but is also comfortable. E.g. I went on a date the other week. The girl wore white jeans, white heels, and a tight white tank top sort of thing? It suited her, because she has blonde hair, was slim, and tall. Of course, she had to get changed after a while, as it was more of an outdoors date. But she felt comfortable in her skin, *and* what she wore complimented her body type, skin, and hair tone.
Good luck!
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I'm making a CD for my boyfriend. I have some songs to put on but I'd like some suggestions. So what are some songs that you think would be good to put on his CD? Thanks :) (link)
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I think what's really great, is that with these types of gifts, it really can only be personal music.
Like, songs that you danced to, the song that was playing when you met, the music you both enjoy.
Music is also heavily dependant on taste. I enjoy classical music, dance, jazz, rock etc. But if you put hip hop on my ipod, I would just skip it. But all my friends enjoy hip hop. So it really depends on the person. It's hard for me to tell you what songs to put on.
My advice: think back to moments together, where music was playing. Download the soundtrack of your favorite movie. If he doesn't mind letting you look at his ipod/itunes, see what he listens to most, etc etc etc.
Enjoy! & Good luck! :)
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I am a seventeen year old female and I a 25 year old boyfriend. When we first started dating he didnt ask me my age nor did i ask his. We feel deeply in love and then the age came into play. We've had sex alot and He haseven proposed to me a couple of times. I really really love him. Both our birthdays are in july so i'll be eighteen and he'll be 26. Please tell me what I should do. I don't want anything bad to happen to him because of me. Thanks... (link)
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Hello,
Well technically, he is a sex offender. You are a child (under 18), and he is an adult (over 18). If this was taken to court, it would depend on the Judge you got. Some take the line that this is pedophilia, and will be very strict. Others may believe that it is not so bad, as you are nearly 18, and will *just* declare him a sex offender, and he may still have to serve a term.
I would just like to point out, what 17/18 is way too young to be engaged. 25 is still quite young, but about the right age to start thinking about it. Because you are so young, you are still quite naive. You think that you may be with this person forever. It doesn't work like that. You probably will meet other people.
But it seems as if he is proposing, because he is at that stage in life, and seems to think it's his only option, or else he will be alone. You however, have years before you get to the stage where you start thinking about such things.
My advice is to end the relationship. I know you may feel that he is right for you, but if he is proposing to you while you are a child, and he is an adult, not only is he not thinking about your future (education, career, etc), but he is being rather selfish. And you will find someone else.
It goes without saying, that this is strictly illegal. Even when you are an adult (18), the fact that he had sex with you as a child is very wrong, and still illegal.
It sounds as if he is simply taking advantage.
Apologies if this sounds harsh, and good luck.
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Hi, I'm 19/f && my boyfriend is 19/m
We've been together for about 2 years now;
Before anyone judges, I'M NOT TRYING TO GET PREGNANT; I'M JUST CURIOUS FOR FUTURE REFERENCES.
Welp, when my boyfriend was born, his testicles didn't drop. One was stuck in his stomach or something and he basically had to have surgery; so he only has ONE testicle;
Can he have children? It may be a stupid question; but I've been thinking about my future alot, and I'd really like to have a family once I'm out of college and have a stable job.
Now, another question about me;
My Aunt- Mom's Sister- isn't able to get pregnant; not too sure why; I think it was some type of cancer; idk; but she WILL never be able to have kids;
I'm just wondering if that will affect me any? Im sure it would be easier to answwer if I could tell you what exactly was wrong with her in order not to have children;
But I just feel like with my boyfriends problem & than maybe hereditary issues; we may not be able to have the family I always dreamed of;
so any knowledge, would be great. (link)
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Hello,
Your aunt may have had ovarian cancer. One of the most effective ways to treat it, is to remove the ovaries. Because ovaries are needed to make children, someone who has them removed is unable to have babies. Ovarian cancer can be hereditary. Fortunately, you can go to your doctor, and can usually have a test done if someone in your family has had it before.
In regards to your boyfriend, only one testicle is needed to create sperm, i.e. both testicles create millions of sperm cells. Only one of these sperm cells is needed to fertilize an egg. So pregnancy is still possible.
The best option is you get tests done. Men can get sperm fertility tests done, and women can get similar tests also. Just go to see your doctor.
Good luck :)
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Please do not awnser if you do not have experience with having a house rabbit.
I have had a rabbit for a month now. I pretty much rescued him from a friend who just wasn't taking proper care of him. He was kept in a tiny cage. I built him a C&C cage that even has a little deck and he has plenty of room.
I have had a lot of progress with my bun bonding wise. But, this past week he has almost stopped using his litter box. He was not litter trained when I got him but I immediatly started training him and we made alot of progress. I had him to where he would always pee and mostly poop in his box. He would only sometimes poop on the top level of his cage.
Now he is pooping AND peeing all over the top part of his cage. I have added the second litter box back and I have tried moving his hay away from the box, putting hay in the box and I am quickly loosing patientce with my bun. Can you tell me what I can do to fix this litter training issue?
Oh, and my bunny is now one year old, a male, and I am not sure if he is nutered or not. I have put him on his back to try and see but theres just too much hair everywhere. He is a Holland Lop. (link)
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As someone who has had a pet rabbit, I may be able to help :)
When we first got the rabbit, we used a normal litter tray for cats. The rabbit peed over it, as she backed up into the corner. So we got her a high backed tray. Have you got one? The rabbit finds it much more comfortable, and so are more likely to use it.
Also, you should move the tray to where the rabbit makes it's mess. If you have already done this, just be patient. Don't keep on moving it, just keep it in one place. Hopefully, he will understand eventually.
Also, be sure to thoroughly clean the cage with a pet-safe disinfectant. The smell of urine tells a rabbit, that this is the place to do it's business. If the smell is not there, it will go to the litter tray. Even if you cannot smell it, clean it thoroughly as rabbit noses are sensitive. Also be sure to pick up some of the (freshly) soiled material, and put it in the litter tray, so the rabbit smells where it is supposed to urinate.
Keep plenty of hay, near and on the tray as rabbits will have a nibble as they do what they have to.
Finally, use a good quality litter. I know a friend uses just woodshavings and hay. I prefer a layer of wood shavings, and then a thick layer of non-clumping, wood pellet litter. It's condensed wood dust and is in pellet form. When it is moistened, it turns into like, sand, and is compact. I find this to be more comfortable for the rabbit, then just sitting on cold plastic. I buy my litter from a pet store.
Be sure the litter is non-clumping, as rabbits eat their poo for extra nutrients. If they eat some litter, it can kill them as it blocks their insides.
Note that he may be doing his business everywhere because it is a new cage. He may just be trying to mark out his territory, and this is normal.
Finally, take it to the vet to check if he has been neutered. It will not cost much to check, and will not cost much to do if he has not already had the snip. This will calm him down, and help him to control his movements (downstairs). You really do need to take him to the vet, even just to check if he is okay after being mis-cared for. It's your responsibility as a good pet owner, and while you are there, you can ask the Vet who is of course an expert in such things.
Good luck :)
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I'm a female who is 15 would it hurt if I masturbate and I'm still a virgin (link)
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It may do in the beginning. But the key to masturbation is to take it slowly, and be just play around, for lack of a better term. See what you like, see what you don't, and take it at your own pace.
Don't rush yourself, and use plenty of lubrication. You can buy this online, or in a pharmacy, supermarket, or other shops. Don't use stuff like shampoo, strong lotions etc, as they can burn and infect.
Enjoy! :)
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I took an exam today at university,and all I can think about right now is what my grade will be,can't sleep!It's crazy!How can I just stop thinking about it?thanks!;) (link)
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This is normal. First you need to realise that it is over. Whatever you do now, will not make a difference to your grade. It will just be bad for you.
The key is simple: distract yourself. Go out and enjoy yourself (if it was your last exam), meet friends, cook, eat, read, exercise, play games, listen to music, watch a movie, google stuff. If it wasn't your last exam, and you still need to study, take a short break. Maybe half a day, or even one day, relaxing. Then get back on it, and whenever you think about your grade, stop. Take a 5minute break, and then carry on.
Good luck! :)
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My dog looks like she has ring worm on her nose in just one spot. What creams or treatments can i get on my won with out taking her to vet? From like cvs or something? (link)
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Usually, over the counter medication is not good enough to treat a serious problem.
You must take your dog to the vet', and see what they say. They are medically trained, and are best suited for this. They can prescribe something. This is your *only* option.
Good luck.
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I am a 20 year old female. I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year. And basically he doesn't trust me and there's alot of jealousy in our relationship. I cheated on him once and he can't seem to look past it I'm finding out. He's gone alot and I don't have alot of friends that are girls so when he's gone I go out sometimes and he freaks out. I just read his phone the other day saying to his mom " she's going out again I can't believe her" " no mom she's a slut just like all
The rest noone ever treats me right" I am very committed and love him deeply our relationship is exclusive but now he thinks I cheated on him again because I went out and lied about who I went Out with. Of course he read my phone. Now he wants to break up with me and I'm wondering if it's even worth the fight to keep us together. I really thought he was the one but if there's no trust what is there? (link)
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Surely you must understand why he cannot trust you: not only did you cheat on him, but you also lied. He just seems to think that if you have cheated once before, what is stopping you from doing so again?
But in short, a relationship is based on trust. There is no trust in this relationship. Once trust has gone, it can rarely ever be bought back into a relationship.
My advice: End the relationship, so you can both stop being idiotic and move on with someone else: afresh.
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My boyfriend (m/25) and I (f/24) have been together for five years. I truly believe he's the one. We have stated to one another that we are soulmates. Well we have recently started unprotected sex and I'm not on birth control. I realize its risky and we should be a lot more careful.
However he called me the other day and told me he bought plan b in case just for next time. He asked if it would offend me...I don't see how it would. However I question it now and it kinda of bothers me. I feel if he loves like he says he does than wouldn't we be engaged and wouldn't he want to have kids with me?? I guess I'm confused. Mind you I'm not ready for kids...idk :/ any ideas or advice? (link)
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Why would you be offended if he wanted to use protection?
You may love each other. You may want to be with each other for the rest of your lives. But that doesn't mean you should have kids right *now*. That's irresponsible.
He just wants to be careful. The last thing you want is a herd of children running around at the age of 24 and 25. The key is to carry on getting to know one another, living together, enjoying each other, and then when you feel you are ready for children, then you start to have unprotected sex.
And it should of course be after marriage. I say this, not because I am religious (I am not), or I believe that pre-marital sex is bad (I do not), but because marriage is the ultimate commitment. Legally, and socially that is. To have children before marriage is saying "I am not really that committed to this person, but I am going to have a child with them, regardless. Even though the child will bind us together for the next 18-21 years".
But yes, to use protection is very sensible, and respectable. You should not be offended, but appreciate that you are with someone who possesses common sense.
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ok, to start off, im not sure if it was sex or rape.
i said yes to my boyfriend. he did NOT pressure me into it. later before it, i changed my mind, but i forgot to tell him. so we did and now i feel violated.
was it sex or rape???? (link)
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Hello,
I don't understand the situation. You changed your mind just before it, but you "forgot" to tell him? Like, what, you actually *forgot* to tell him? You did not tell him "no" during, or just before?
If you said yes, and you had sex with him willingly, then it is just sex, not rape.
You cannot say "I said yes, but then just before it happened, I forgot that I didn't want sex, but I had sex, but I didn't tell him". I'm sure if you said "no", he would have stopped. If he didn't, then it's rape. But if you said yes, and then didn't say anything after, then it was not rape.
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I hate this stupid website. I never get anyone to help me anymore. Thanks everyone... (link)
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Hello.
You have to realize that we do not *have* to help you. We help you because we can. If no one answers, it is probably because no one can.
Do you type your question properly? Is it easy to read?
Do you keep asking the same question? If you do, people will get annoyed.
Are you courteous when people answer? Do you rate? Do you thank them?
If you just type a question, with complete disregard for spelling and grammar, as well as other peoples feelings (like this one), no one will answer.
Finally, if you hate the website, you can leave. You did not enter a legally binding contract, obligating you to stay forever. Just don't use the site.
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What is the best credit card to get when you are starting your own small business? I had no IDEA there were so many until I started looking around and it seems like every big card issuer has their own special small business card with different features and fees.
I am so confused! I just need someone to say: "This one rocks! Get THIS one for your new business."
Can anyone do that for me? :)
Thank you in advance. (link)
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This is a tough question. I too have recently set up my own business, and I am looking for a credit card too. What I find, is that there is not one universal card that is perfect for everyone.
What I am going to do, is to go with the Bank that I have my business account, business insurance, and merchant account with. Not only is it easier to have everything with one company, but they also give you discounts.
Of course, this is not ideal for everyone. What I advise you to do is to shop around for cards. Try and find one that gives you the longest period of interest free purchases. Also find one that has (of course) the lowest interest rates.
Also, as a general rule, stick to the big companies. Not only are they more trusted and safer, but they can also afford to give you better deals.
I assume you are from the US. In the United Kingdom, we have a service called "moneysupermarket.com". It compares *everything* for you. Credit Cards, mobile phones, bank loans, insurance, holidays, cars, Literally every service you can buy. I tried to see if there was a US equivalent, but no luck! Which was really surprising! This is what I used to look around.
Finally, search the internet for a business forum. People on there are very friendly, and can suggest deals etc that they have found/used.
Good luck! :)
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Does anyone know how to make smothered pork chops so they turn out nice and moist like they do in a restaurant? I don't know what I am doing wrong but mine are always dry! Help! Before my hubby gives up on me! :) (link)
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Hello,
I have no idea what Smothered Pork Chops are: it sounds quintessentially American! But I did google it: The food network recipe by Tyler Florence has been reviewed 500 times and is rated 5 stars. Here is the link:
http://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/tyler-florence/smothered-pork-chops-recipe/index.html
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i am 24 male from south asia few of my reletives and friend went euorpe in last few years now they are facing so many difficulties there why not people try to work and earn in their homeland and why they try shortcuts. (link)
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I don't know where you are from, but Asia in general is in trouble. China is slowing down, and struggling to maintain growth. India is a complete and utter mess. Inflation is through the roof, and millions go hungry and live in squalid conditions. The government accepts aid from countries such as The United Kingdom, yet splashes money on space programs.
There are a variety of push and pull factors that may attract people to other countries. Probably the most important reason, is that we live in an increasingly Globalized economy. The notion of working and living in the place you were born does not make sense anymore.
There may be a lack of jobs in a certain country, or a lack of freedoms. I am from the United Kingdom of Great Britain. I love my country. In a patriotic, rather than a nationalist way. We have excellent state structures such as the NHS, we have an excellent education system, and we enjoy freedoms and opportunities that many cannot even dream of.
Of course, immigration has a strain of these things. Many are against immigration, others are for limiting it. In the European Union, people can move freely, work freely, and live freely within member countries. This has it's benefits of course, but also drawback.
But in short, travelling for work and other difficulties is not a short cut, but something a last resort, or a means for survival, or a better life. It would be great if we could live with our friends and family, and every country was equal in its rights, but it's not realistic.
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Hi im a 13 year old boy and i was wondering what is considered a big penis i have a 6 inch penis is that big small or medium? please help and dont say im to young to worry or anything like that (link)
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This is above average size. Average size is 5.1 - 5.9 inches. It was once thought that 6.5inches was average. This was based on data collected by the men themselves and so was not credible. A newer study finds that 5.1 - 5.9 inches is average (when erect).
So under this would be small, and over this, large. But it doesn't really matter. I can understand why you may care. From birth, we of the male species have been fascinated by the organ. In the grand scheme of things though, it's trivial.
But yes. You are above average. Congratulations.
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well at school every 1 hates me and wanna die and they buly me talk about me family ect. what do i do to com down or how do get help (link)
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You need to tell someone of authority i.e. a teacher, or your parents. It may seem hard to do this, but it is your only option. The teachers can speak to the children, or your parents can speak to your teachers.
Try and see a school councilor/therapist if your school has one. You can find this out by asking a teacher. They can help you to talk, and discuss these things in confidence.
Good luck.
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I have feelings for my coworker. We are naturally close and bonded at work because we are the two superiors for our shift. We structure a lot together and compliment one another with how we think and manage things. The big boss tried to hook us up once when we first met saying we were perfect for each other but I never said a word and neither did he. Over time our compatibility has become obvious. We laugh and joke and agree on almost everything. We really value each other and there's a lot of respect and trust between us. HOWEVER could be casual to him but for me it makes my heart jump lol. We don't hang outside of work but we do text. Mostly about work and making fun of people at our job.. There's some flirting but I don't want to jump the gun. He's so politically correct that I can't tell if he holds back bc of work or if he just sees me as a cool friend. He sometimes passes by really close to me instead of just waiting for me to move out of his way. I've also felt his hand for a brief moment while handing things to him. Felt like time stopped but for all I know he doesn't even notice. He's also about to transfer schools in the next year so I could See him holding back because of that. He is very cautious and smart about everything he does. Anything I could add to improve your understanding I'd be happy to. Thanks and hope to get some answers :) (link)
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This sounds so nice! It's like something from a book or a movie! Bless you!
Now to the advice. I generally advise people not to date co-workers. If it gets messy, it can be uncomfortable for you both, as well as other colleagues. And also, it's hard to realise how something who is resentful will act, i.e. you break up with him, he gets upset, and spreads lies about you at work.
But it's really up to you. Some places have a strict policy of not dating colleagues. But if your boss tried to get you two together, I doubt that is the policy for your place of work. By the way, what happened with that? Did it not work out, or did it not happen?
Anyway, it's hard for us to tell you whether he likes you. You could be reading way too much into these signals. And even from what you tell us, it's still hard to know. Like you say, it could just be that he thinks of you as a really cool work friend?
I think though, you should ask if he wants to do something. Like, "Have you got plans for the weekend?" him: "Not really (or whatever)" you: "Fancy doing something?" or something along those lines. But where I end "fancy doing something", suggest something. Like, "Do you want to go to the movies? The Dictator is out, as it looks hilarious". This way, he can't get too freaked out, because it *could* be a date, but it *could* also be two friends hanging out. Then, at least you can figure out what he is like out of work? And if he is interested, he will maybe make a move outside of work rather than during work.
But do ask him out. Try and meet and hang out outside of work. Also, if that fails, just tell him how you feel! Worst case: He says he doesn't feel the same. Then you just be friends, and do your job. After all, he is leaving in a while.
Good luck, Hope I helped :)
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There is this guy I see around that I like. We had some moments when we made eye contact and he nods at me or says hi in a really low voice but that its. I wonder if he likes me back. What else could I do to get his attention?
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Hello,
Well, it already seems that he has noticed you, so you don't need to try and get his attention. The next step would be to go and speak to him. If you have facebook, or twitter, add/follow him. Speaking over the internet can be easier than face to face. But also speak to him in person, after you have crossed that first barrier talking online.
Just ask how he is, what he's been up to recently, and talk about school etc. Even if you just say "Hi. How are you?", atleast it gets a dialogue going.
Atleast this way, you can test his reaction, to see whether he likes you. If he does, he will be interested in speaking to you. Maybe he'll even make a move, after he feels confident with speaking to you.
Good Luck :)
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