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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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So my boyfriend and I broke up about 2 months ago after dating for 8 months but knowing each other for 9 years and he started dating someone else shortly after. I knew about him dating someone and it kinda made me jealous to the point where I texted him and I told him I missed him BIG MISTAKE. His gf at the time saw it and was completely immature about it. Anyway we started talking again last week and are back together. However, I don't have facebook but a friend of mine looked on his profile and it still says he's in a relationship with her. Yet we hang out all the time, he calls me on every break, and tells me he loves me and only me and realizes now that im the only one who can truley make him happy. If he was dating her still I don't know when he'd have time to? I'm so confused I don't wanna confront him cause I don't wanna seem like a stalker but it's bugging me not to know!
You are his doormat. You interfered with his new relationship and after 9 years, Sounds like he had someone eles on the side. Considering he moved on so quickly, It's even possible he cheated.
Why are you stalking him? He doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. I apologize, but if he did he wouldn't of gone on to date someone eles. Unfortunately, We cannot stoo someone from cheating and we cannot make someone be in a relationship with someone.
Your best bet is too learn to accept it was over and move on
how do you get your chin to stop twitching?
and what does "stfu" stand for?
Not sure about a twitching chin but stfu means shut the fuck up.
14/f So a couple of weeks ago I got into a fight with one of my "best friends". Now we had been really fighting a lot over the past 2 months and this time she called it quits. I had given up on her in early June after she said some nasty things about me on Twitter and basically confronted me with yelling. This past fight was about how I didn't have enough time for her (lets call her carmen)and my other friend (lets call her Tia) because Tia was moving to Stratford,Ontario and Carmen was going on vacation for the whole summer and I wasn't going to see them for awhile. However, my mom wanted to cut both of them off because Tia would always take Carmen's side and saw nothing wrong with her nasty temper and screaming.So basically whenever Carmen would call I would tell her I was busy but she would hang up on me and that angered me. And on Friday the day Carmen, Tia and I were supposed to hang out, I continously ignored their calls because when I picked up the phone the first time Carmen started screaming at me and accusing me of having no plans all week but I was actually busy. I couldn't hang out with them because I had made prior engagements with other friends. Tia and Carmen continously kept calling me so I blocked the number and Carmen on Twitter. On the car ride to the party with my other friends I got a call from a private number and was Tia and I hung up. They continously harassed me by calling to point where I had to turn my phone off. Then my other friends (let's call them Katie and Elissa) told me Carmen was tweeting some nasty things about me on Twitter and made some nasty vines about me. So Katie called Carmen back twice just annoy Carmen by using a blocked number and Carmen and Tia assumed it was me. So long story short, I am no longer friends with Carmen or Tia and I have no qualms about it because they weren't good friends in the first place AND they stalked me on Twitter. But now 3 weeks later I'm having bizarre dreams about Carmen and Tia where they're both yelling at me or something. What does it mean???
I once heard that our dreams is only our mind helping us cope with problems in our awakening life.
You're ex friends are causing you emotional stress. You must somehow find a way to completely ignore their ignorance and immaturity. Until you find a way to cope, You dreams will be picking up the peices for you. You need to move on and make new friends. Don't think to much on it, What they want IS to piss you off and get a reaction. Otherwise they wouldn't be intentionally harrassing you.
The best way to handle this situation is to ignore them. Don't answer the phone unless you know who it is, If you have to change your number.
They are bullying you, They are not friends. Let your mother become aware of this, She may be able to take legal action into getting a restraining order.
Block them on twitter, Make your entire profile private abd don't accept request from people you do not know.
I once had someone who was harassing me too. I changed my number, email and that was the end of it. Sooner or later she ended up sending letters, I never replied and eventually it stopped.
If it doesn't, Save the proof and go to the police.
I am 14 and my bf is 16 he proposed to me and I said yes but Ian a bit worried about what everyone keeps saying online about it being too young please help.
You are way to young, At 14 and 16 is where you are beginning to experience dating.
Like adviceman
said below, You are legally to young to marry.
Do you both have jobs? Live on your own? Pay your own bills? Do you attend school and live at home with your parents? ...
Clearly and obviously you are no where ready for marriage. I didn't marry till I was 25, Marriage was the last thing on my mind at 14. You are still a kid and until you reach the legal age of 18, You are a minor.
how do I get human feces out of carpet and get rid of the smell?
Try warm water and Dawn dish soap
I kinda love this kid and i think were ready for intercourse.
But i am only 12.
What do you think i should do?
You KINDA love someone?
You are TWELVE years old, Wait. You are young and too young in my opinion.
I met a guy not too long ago, and we hit it off pretty well, especially through our e-mail/texting...there was definitely some flirty flirt going on...we met in person again, and things seemed to go well, and I know I didn't put my foot in my mouth or anything...but it's been awhile now, and he ONLY texts me still, and doesn't seem interested in hanging out in person again...I don't necessarily want an actual phonecall, because I personally HATE talking on the phone, but sheesh, maybe I'm just not that impressive in person? =( Maybe it's just him? I know it may seem like an obvious answer, but I am curious to see if others have had this problem too, and if it ever turned out any differently...
Sounds like he may not be telling you the entire story on his part, Does he have a girlfriend you don't know about? Is he possibly interested in someone eles?.. Talk to him and tell him you don't want to continue a relationship of any kind over a phone. If you want something real then you got to find it. Even if he didn't have a girlfriend which kind of seems like he has someone eles, A phone conversation is NOT a relationship
I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 months now. He comes off too strong, he blatantly cares too much & it's a really bad turn off on the way he acts. He's just too nice, for example... The other week, we were watching a film and he burped really loud, but because it was silent, it made me quite jump and I looked at him and said, " I wish you wouldn't do that!" He was nearly crying saying, I'm really sorry, I'm so sorry. I just looked at him weirdly and said it's fine. But by this, it's pushing me away. I feel as though he's treating me like I'm some sort of Queen that NEEDS to be worshipped, I feel like I've lost respect for him because he's too nice. Some of you will be like, why are you complaining? But it's not that, even when I'm in the wrong, he's apologising too much. I know, even if I did something that really hurt him, like cheated, etc. He would still take me back, repeatedly. Even though I wouldn't. It's really boring me with him, but I do care, even though I feel like my feelings are kind of fading. After the first 2 weeks, he was telling me he loved me & he got upset at the fact I didn't say I loved him, but I don't. We are both 17 and I don't feel like it's the time for all the love to come in. He showers me with many compliments and gifts and I feel it's too much. I've told him this, but it's kind of not got through to him. I know he cares and I adore that, but what can I do? Has anyone got a experience to share with me? Also, another thing. He always asks me if I'm cheating, if I'm going out meeting other guys, but over ans over again. I went really mad, because he always asks me and then he got really upset and started crying saying he was sorry he will never ask me again. I feel as though I'm being suffocated, but if I end it, I look ridiculous... Thank you so much for reading, I appreciate it.
Talk to him, He maybe a bit too attached.
Let him know you care about him but you feel he is being overly sensitive. Assure him that it is okay to relax, He may be afraid to open up too you.
Sounds like he just needs a bit of communication..
I'm a 17 year old teenanger one day when i was with my my boyfriend he put his penis maybe 4 or 5 minut and i told him that it hate and he remove it and then he put his finger and the thing is i never bleed and i want to know if i'm still a vargin or not
Nope
I was sexually abused in the 7th grade and afterwards I found a social website called "yoville" I made an account made a fake avatar and messed around with it. At first it was just a game to take my mind off things but 3 years later I am still on it and it's become an addiction. I've made a fake storyline for my "character" formed friendships tell them about this character's problems. Every day I go on this and waste hours pretending to be a gayy man who has had a troublesome life. I actually feel as if I am him. When in reality I am a female in highschool. I don't know how to stop but I need to. It's taken control of my life. I have lost most of my friends barely leave my room etc. It's taken a toll on my grades. I need advice on how to stop,and move on with my life. Thanks in advance!
Therapy
If you have been sexually abused then you fix the problem by seeking professional help. Lilely you play Yoville because it is an escape for you.
I was abused as a kid into my young adulthood, I was physically and mentally abused. I was too very highly addicted to the computer and spent no less then 12 hours a day on it.
I began therapy, I went out looking for a job, I moved out and enrolled myself into college.
Ask yourself, Is this the life you want? I was isolated, It was so bad it began affecting my social life. I packed up my computer and put it away. Wasn't worth it
i need help on this !
Weel am having trouble forgetting about my ex . we dated two times. The first one i he asked me out (he had asked me out a zilllllion of times) but i said yes without liking him.
Then after we broke up like a week later i realized that i couldnt stop thinking about him ! So a month passed and i decided to go up to him and ask him if he still liked me and he said he did still like me and thay when we broke up that he went to smoking to realse strees and stop thinking about me .. and so we were really happy that second time we got back together but i realize him and my "friend " were flirting alot infront of me so i broke up with him but now i miss him again what should i do ???!
Move on
A guy that is into you will not flirt with friends, It is a bit rude and careless to not only do it but in front of you?..
Maybe he once did like you but unfortunately he sounds like someone who can't entirely committ himself to one person.
It is a bit shitty that your "friend" would flirt with your boyfriend in front of you also. Maybe you should meet someone eles and cut the friend off
Hi, I am a 14 year old girl. I have the iPhone 3GS right now but I would really like to have the 4s. I just have Verizon Mifi JetPack(data usage plan) so if I got a playstation 3 I wouldn't play online because I would use up a lot of the gigabytes but the playstation 3 still sounds like a very cool system to have even without the internet. I was thinking of just waiting for the playstation 4 to come out(ive heard its going to cost for internet on ps4) and go ahead and get me an iPhone 4s. I'm not sure which one because they would both be really cool to have, which one should I buy?
A phone and a PS3 are two completely different ballgames.
It would all depend, What means more to you? What do you use more?
A phone is a phone to me, I don't give a shit if it's a tracphone. If it works and has internet I'm good.
However, I am also a gamer and own PS3, Xbox360 and the Wii... PS3 is awesome yes but are you a gamer? How much would you use the system? How fast will you be bored of it?
When you have them answers then you'll know.
I'm 15 and I love animals my mom said I can have 1 animal of my choice. I've picked three animals and have revised a lot about them I can pick 1 corn snake 2 guinea pig or 3 kitten I know all the information about each animal and how to care for them which One should I choose .. And I have taken into consideration the cost of keeping each animal
I have owned all 3, I would personally go with a kitten. However it all depends on what you feel would be a right fit for you, How much time are you willing to put into it?
Kittens need a lot of care and attention, They also require patience.
A Guinea pig is a bit more independent then a kitten but also requires attention and cleaning.
A snake is fully independent and requires cleaning but cannot be cuddled with.
I have owned 2 cats, I adopted one at 10 months and even that was hard. I had to train her not to scratch etc. But I wouldn't trade her for the world...
All depends on you
i think im bipolar.. ive read alot about it online and in books because ive had people ask me if i was.. what do i do? Do i just have to live with it? My emotions do change rapidly all the time ..
Bipolar can be diagnosed by a psychiatrist, It is best to schedule and appointment with one.
Okay, my boyfriend is incredible! He plans all these nice dates and takes me out to eat and don't get me wrong I LOVE IT. But I would like to treat him for a change. I'd like to do something different then a movie and dinner. Maybe something where we could get dressed up... but I don't know where to go. Does anyone have any ideas?
Mini Golf
Aquarium
Zoo
Picnic
Hotel for a night?
Waterpark
Beach
Fishing
Maybe rent a canoe?
Horseback riding
Check out ball room dancing?
Try exploring a different town/city
Plan a day trip
Camping
Have a campfire/ romantic music
Okay so I'm a 21 year old female and I was in a relationship with a man on and off for a couple years. At first, he was everything I could've imagined. He was the most gorgeous man I had ever seen, was funny, and always made me take risks. He was also constantly getting into trouble. My family hated him because he would always start fights with me for no reason and I was always on an emotional roller coaster. Then about 2 years ago (the last time we dated) he was introduced to crystal meth. He went from getting scholarships to play college football to a downward spiral of addiction. He was a completely different person.
I stayed for several months, always feeling guilty if I ever thought about leaving him. I tried to get him into rehab but ultimately, quitting wasn't important to him. Some days he would cry to me about wanting to quit, others he would make me fear for my life because of how high he was or because of the sketchy situations he would have me in.
I finally left him and cut off all contact- moved away, changed my number, everything. I DID NOT want to go back to him or have anything to do with him. I had smarted up and knew that there was nothing I could've done to "save" him and that to continue that relationship would only harm MY LIFE. To a certain extent, I believe that he loved me. In fact, I KNOW he loved me, but he had issues that were rooted in him since he was a child that basically made him incapable of giving the kind of love that people deserved.
He not only screwed ME over, but he was awful to his own family. He would say mean things to them and then later would tell me how awful he felt and how he just couldn't change. I stayed for so long because not only did I love the man, but I felt so bad for everything he had gone through and I saw him in his times where he truly wanted to be a better person.
Anyway, I haven't seen or spoken to him in over a year. I've even met someone new who makes me feel wonderful. Yet the past few nights, I've had dreams about him and I find myself missing him terribly. It's like I feel no more of the sting of the hate or anger I once felt, I only feel the warmness I felt when I was with him or how safe I felt in his arms. There's no way on earth we could ever reconcile and no chance of me calling him up in hopes that he's changed.. that being said, how do I stop missing him?
You are not coming to terms with the fact that he was a negative influence on you. Sounds like you moved on and that is great but sweetie you moved on physically not emotionally.
The way you move on is to come to terms with the situation. This was the past, 2 years ago. This man was a negative inpact on your life and his problems were dragging you down. Blunty, He became a deadbeat who needs professional help. You are with someone new, Someone who is good for you. Why think about sacrificing something good? You know as well as I do that 2 years later, The ex probably is still hooked on drugs. like anyone who has an addiction, They must help themselves.
Focus on what you have and be happy. Don't take 2 steps back
Hi, me and my boyfriend been dating for 3 years and we live together. he's very reserved sort of person but not very open but when he's drunk he says, 'you're the love of my life and love you to death.' does he really mean all this or is this just a drink talking? we do say i love you at least 3 times a day . thanks
This would really depend on how much he's had to drink, Everyone holds their alcohol differently.
For me, One drink will make me loopy but I am also not a social drinker.
For many, Alcohol tends to speak for itself when we are drunk. When someone is drunk it alows down our brain function so we aren't able to fully use full brain power.
If he was smashed off his ass, I really wouldn't take it seriously. Words mean more coming from one who is sober.
Omg lately my brother has been acting like a girl...hes eight but i think hes turning gay...he asked me if i could paint his nails....but i dont know if hes kidding or not.....but then he acts totally gross and gets on top of me and my sister and i push him of and beat him and tell him to stop but hes gross and he wont listen
You're brother is young, It is a bit hard to tell what his sexual orientation is at this age. Perhaps your brother could be trapped in the wrong body, Maybe he is gay?
Who cares if he is? The fact is he is your brother. You should love and support him no matter what he is or becomes. As family you are his prime, his main source of support.
If his actions make you uncomfortable then you should kindly talk to him. Let him know that you aren't comfortable with him painting your nails or horsing around with you. No need to treat him differently, He may not act like you but he is still and always will be your sibling.
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Hey there!
I'm 15 and my boyfriend, that's 16, he's been kind of strange lately.
Btw, it's a long distance relationship and before you might think that's the reason, no he's told me a billion times that it doesn't matter him one bit :)
Well as I was saying, last week he was totally fine! Calling me his princess and stuff like that. But he told me he's going to Ireland for a month and since he's in Ireland (Im In Germany and he comes from America) he's been acting awkward. He ignores not of my messages and as I asked him if he's okay or if I'd be annoying him he said: No you're really not annoying me." I believed him. Well I try my best to have a conversation with him but I can't get to him. It's like he completely would forget about me if I'd not start a conversation. I don't know why he's been like this since he's in Ireland. I have the feeling that he doesn't actually love me like he did. He doesn't show it and that makes me upset!
He is likely loosing interest in the relationship
Long distant generally don't last unless you hace serious commitments plans to make living arrangements. Assuming you don't see him, He may of moved on or met someone eles. Unfortunately, Long distance relationships are fantasies abd geberally not real relationships. Most people would naturally want a relationship with someone who they can bond and do things with.