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My boyfriends facebook says in a relationship but it's not with me?
So my boyfriend and I broke up about 2 months ago after dating for 8 months but knowing each other for 9 years and he started dating someone else shortly after. I knew about him dating someone and it kinda made me jealous to the point where I texted him and I told him I missed him BIG MISTAKE. His gf at the time saw it and was completely immature about it. Anyway we started talking again last week and are back together. However, I don't have facebook but a friend of mine looked on his profile and it still says he's in a relationship with her. Yet we hang out all the time, he calls me on every break, and tells me he loves me and only me and realizes now that im the only one who can truley make him happy. If he was dating her still I don't know when he'd have time to? I'm so confused I don't wanna confront him cause I don't wanna seem like a stalker but it's bugging me not to know!
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I would sit down and talk to him. Tell him your friend was on Facebook and she saw that he still said he was in a relationship with his ex.
There could be a chance he's still talking to her. Because if she hasn't taken him off as her boyfriend either, I'm sure there is still something going on.
So talk to him and see what he says. If it seems like a lame excuse, then just end it and move on.
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Most people don't understand the concept of dating and the purpose to it. Dating is only to determine if two people have enough in common to move into a relationship. Once in a steady relationship, it's no longer considered dating, it's now a relationship but the two can plan and have a 'date' night to go to movies or do something special. But a real relationship is not made up of consecutive "dates" strung together.
So in your 8 months of dating, what did you two learn about each other? You are supposed to used dating as a way to find out what you like and dont like about guys. The things you aren't willing to put up with, leave the guy and move on to learn more from the next. It is very dangerous to jump into the 1st or 2nd relationship and go for lifetime commitment. I did. It was a big mistake. I knew next to nothing from life experience yet of what I would like or not tolerate from a guy. You also need to discover more about yourself, what your needs and wants are. If after knowing this person for 9 years you feel that he would misinterpret your asking for a clarification, then the two of you don't read each other well and its a good chance you aren't meant to be in a relationship. But your tone of voice and body language is important and what you say. "Hey, I noticed you forgot to change your FB status back to me instead of Julie" with a light hearted chuckle, is much better than "Why is Julie still listed as being in a relationship with you?" Or worse, "Your FB status says you're with Julie...Are you cheating on me?" The first one, you may not get a reply to. But if the person loves and cares about you, they don't leave you to guess about it either. Once brought to his attention, the considerate loving guy would say something like, 'OMG, I didn't change that? Oh you poor thing, you probably were wondering if I was trying to date two gals at the same time. Come here honey, its you I love," and give you a big hug. Reassurance, building each other up and good communication is very important.
Perhaps that sounds like a dream guy and unrealistic. But everyone can be like that towards their partner or any friends and acquaintances if you learn how to put yourself in the other persons shoes. What must they be thinking right now, how are they feeling?
Perhaps you have some issues of your own to work out, jealousy, jumping to conclusions, etc. but only you will know if that is an issue and if so, I trust that you will work on it because you did mention the other gal as acting immature so I know you care about being mature in a relationship. I hope everything turns out alright for you.
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You are his doormat. You interfered with his new relationship and after 9 years, Sounds like he had someone eles on the side. Considering he moved on so quickly, It's even possible he cheated.
Why are you stalking him? He doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. I apologize, but if he did he wouldn't of gone on to date someone eles. Unfortunately, We cannot stoo someone from cheating and we cannot make someone be in a relationship with someone.
Your best bet is too learn to accept it was over and move on
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