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I've been pretending to be someone else
I was sexually abused in the 7th grade and afterwards I found a social website called "yoville" I made an account made a fake avatar and messed around with it. At first it was just a game to take my mind off things but 3 years later I am still on it and it's become an addiction. I've made a fake storyline for my "character" formed friendships tell them about this character's problems. Every day I go on this and waste hours pretending to be a gayy man who has had a troublesome life. I actually feel as if I am him. When in reality I am a female in highschool. I don't know how to stop but I need to. It's taken control of my life. I have lost most of my friends barely leave my room etc. It's taken a toll on my grades. I need advice on how to stop,and move on with my life. Thanks in advance!
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If you have been sexually abused then you fix the problem by seeking professional help. Lilely you play Yoville because it is an escape for you.
I was abused as a kid into my young adulthood, I was physically and mentally abused. I was too very highly addicted to the computer and spent no less then 12 hours a day on it.
I began therapy, I went out looking for a job, I moved out and enrolled myself into college.
Ask yourself, Is this the life you want? I was isolated, It was so bad it began affecting my social life. I packed up my computer and put it away. Wasn't worth it
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I am so sorry you have been abused in this manner. What is happening to you sometimes happens to young people like you who try to suppress the abuse that has happened or try to ignore it. You can't ignore what has happened, it needs to be dealt with properly with the help of professionals.
If I were to guess what happened I would say that your abuser was someone you know. Possibly a teacher, friend of the family or even a close relative. You may even feel that in some way you invited this abuse. This thinking has caused you not to tell anyone what has happened to you.
Lets deal with the abuse first. There is no way anyone can invites sexual abuse. You are a victim regardless of what your abuser may have told you. There is nothing you did that caused him or her to abuse you sexually. It just doesn't work that way.
As to your abuser. Anyone that forces someone, child, young adult or adult into a sexual situation they don't wish to be in is guilty of sexual abuse. Rape and statutory rape as well as child sexual abuse are the legal charges the person who did this to you face.
In order for you to properly deal with what has happened and get your life back. To gain the control over your life the "yoville" has taken, starts with telling someone what has happened to you. IF this person was an adult in a trusted position such as a teacher they have failed in their responsibility to keep you safe and deserve to be punished. Remember what I have said for it is true, you are the victim and they are the wrong doer.
I would suggest you start by telling your parents. There is no reason not to. Yes it is embarrassing what happened but again you are the victim, you deserve justice and your parents can help you get that and see to it that you get the proper professional help to deal with what has happened to you.
If you truly feel you cannot speak with your parents then there is some one else you can talk with. They are a National Organization called RAINN. RAINN stands for: Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network which operates a 24/7 hot line you can call to speak with a trained person who can help you find the proper help in you home town. There number is 1-800 656-Hope.
RAINN will help you find a trained therapist to talk with who will help you properly deal with what happened. The therapist will also help you tell your parents when and if you are ready to tell them. If you like and you should RAINN will help you contact the police to make a police report.
Regardless of who this person is; teacher, close family friend or relative and regardless of age as sexual abuse knows no age limits. They deserve to be reported to the police as they have broken the law. Worse the y have violated you in the worst possible manner and they deserve to be punished. Remember you are the victim. Nothing you could have said or done was cause for what happened to you.
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