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Ex best friends haunting me in my dreams
14/f So a couple of weeks ago I got into a fight with one of my "best friends". Now we had been really fighting a lot over the past 2 months and this time she called it quits. I had given up on her in early June after she said some nasty things about me on Twitter and basically confronted me with yelling. This past fight was about how I didn't have enough time for her (lets call her carmen)and my other friend (lets call her Tia) because Tia was moving to Stratford,Ontario and Carmen was going on vacation for the whole summer and I wasn't going to see them for awhile. However, my mom wanted to cut both of them off because Tia would always take Carmen's side and saw nothing wrong with her nasty temper and screaming.So basically whenever Carmen would call I would tell her I was busy but she would hang up on me and that angered me. And on Friday the day Carmen, Tia and I were supposed to hang out, I continously ignored their calls because when I picked up the phone the first time Carmen started screaming at me and accusing me of having no plans all week but I was actually busy. I couldn't hang out with them because I had made prior engagements with other friends. Tia and Carmen continously kept calling me so I blocked the number and Carmen on Twitter. On the car ride to the party with my other friends I got a call from a private number and was Tia and I hung up. They continously harassed me by calling to point where I had to turn my phone off. Then my other friends (let's call them Katie and Elissa) told me Carmen was tweeting some nasty things about me on Twitter and made some nasty vines about me. So Katie called Carmen back twice just annoy Carmen by using a blocked number and Carmen and Tia assumed it was me. So long story short, I am no longer friends with Carmen or Tia and I have no qualms about it because they weren't good friends in the first place AND they stalked me on Twitter. But now 3 weeks later I'm having bizarre dreams about Carmen and Tia where they're both yelling at me or something. What does it mean???
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This could easily be a case of young girls going hormonal on each other. Some do it with sisters, others with friends who are close like sisters. The hormonal female teen will find her emotions out of control, she cries at the drop of a hat, gets angry easily over petty or imagined things and is really hard to live with and acts pretty immature all throughout it which could last a couple of years. Not everyone gets hit as hard with the hormonal emotional changes but all go through it in their own ways....I know, I had 3 daughters go through that.
Since all our emotions and feelings are based in our subconscious mind and thats where they come from, its easy to realize that when you dream, the subconscious mind is also in control of the dreaming and whatever is important to you, anything related to feelings can be in your dreams. Even though you have cut off and no longer associate with them, there still remained in your mind the question of why they changed from how they used to be. You mentioned the fights started over past 2 mos. so before that I assume things were pretty good, only occasional fight as the hormones began to slowly change. The unanswered question in your mind is what causes you to have the dreams. Do not be surprised to find them changing back to perfectly normal lovely people once they have gone through the worst of it for themselves. It could be a handful of months or a year before you see a change but if they begin to act mature and approach you to just say they are sorry for how they acted in the past, don't hold anything against them for it. You may even find it possible to allow them back into your circle of friends. In the meanwhile, I wish you future peaceful dreams
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Your dream doesn't really mean anything. You're just dreaming of the situation that has been happening. Dreams are a mix between things you see during the day or week, faces you see, and experiences that happen to you.
For example, my mom used to be drunk all the time. Even though she's not like that anymore, I still dream that she is. So since you still think about them and what happened, there's a good chance you'll dream about it.
It's good that you stopped talking to them and have better friends. You don't need people like that.
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I once heard that our dreams is only our mind helping us cope with problems in our awakening life.
You're ex friends are causing you emotional stress. You must somehow find a way to completely ignore their ignorance and immaturity. Until you find a way to cope, You dreams will be picking up the peices for you. You need to move on and make new friends. Don't think to much on it, What they want IS to piss you off and get a reaction. Otherwise they wouldn't be intentionally harrassing you.
The best way to handle this situation is to ignore them. Don't answer the phone unless you know who it is, If you have to change your number.
They are bullying you, They are not friends. Let your mother become aware of this, She may be able to take legal action into getting a restraining order.
Block them on twitter, Make your entire profile private abd don't accept request from people you do not know.
I once had someone who was harassing me too. I changed my number, email and that was the end of it. Sooner or later she ended up sending letters, I never replied and eventually it stopped.
If it doesn't, Save the proof and go to the police.
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