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Why does he only want to text?
I met a guy not too long ago, and we hit it off pretty well, especially through our e-mail/texting...there was definitely some flirty flirt going on...we met in person again, and things seemed to go well, and I know I didn't put my foot in my mouth or anything...but it's been awhile now, and he ONLY texts me still, and doesn't seem interested in hanging out in person again...I don't necessarily want an actual phonecall, because I personally HATE talking on the phone, but sheesh, maybe I'm just not that impressive in person? =( Maybe it's just him? I know it may seem like an obvious answer, but I am curious to see if others have had this problem too, and if it ever turned out any differently...
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Coming from a guy, I would just say that he might feel like he isn't cut out for you, but he doesn't want to hurt your feelings by saying that. So he keeps it down to a level. Ask him about it. And if he turns out not wanting you, and you get butthurt because of it, then that is on you. If you can't handle the truth, you weren't meant for him anyway.
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Since you have an ongoing texting communication, I'd start there with stating, "It seems that there is enough mutual interest in each other with the continuous texting. So I want to know right now if you are interested enough to take this to the next level of dating? If you aren't thats okay but I want to know so I dont sit around keeping myself available for you.
You'll that my example is a very reasonable request when you hear what I say next.
How do any relationships start?
Attraction: Whether just plain looks or a pheremone attraction. It doesn't mean that either one "Likes" the other yet so it is important to go beyond the staring at stage to conversation.
Conversation: Now you are talking and find that you like the persons sense of humor,how they think, their beliefs or way of living life...this is the teaser...either you decide you want to learn more in depth about the person or you decide you don't have enough interest from convo to want to learn any more. Someone not interested stops talking to the other and looks elsewhere. If both want to learn more about the other, you start dating.
Dating: Dating is not all about calendar appointments to go to a movie or out to dinner, or out dancing. It is a time to learn what you like and dont like about the opposite sex. If there are too many dislikes, start over again with someone new. Or take this to the next level.
Steady relationship: This is meant to be a time where you have plenty of opportunity to spend in each others presence getting to see how they handle themselve 24/7 under all sorts of conditions, their good days, and bad days. Many choose to live together at this time. There isn't much that can be hidden when you live with someone, like their housekeeping habits, what their usual diet is, any mood swings, and by now there should be a good idea of what their normal sexual habits and needs are. You dont want to get matched up with someone who is the opposite libido level of yourself.
Committed relationship: Here there are vows and oaths made to each other, a professing of mutual love and devotion for each other and it goes beyond words to living it out daily in how one treats their partner. This person will be your life mate with a marriage license or without one.
Not many understand the steps to a relationship. You can't find it by observing those around you or parents, because too often many of us flounder through it all and dont figure it out until we are way older, maybe mid 40's on. So give the guy a chance. Ask and if he dodges the answering, read this step process to him and ask where he sees himself as being right now with you. If he thinks he is somewhere else than at the Conversation level....you two are not going to ever be happy together...both your perceptions are way too different. Good luck!
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Sounds like he may not be telling you the entire story on his part, Does he have a girlfriend you don't know about? Is he possibly interested in someone eles?.. Talk to him and tell him you don't want to continue a relationship of any kind over a phone. If you want something real then you got to find it. Even if he didn't have a girlfriend which kind of seems like he has someone eles, A phone conversation is NOT a relationship
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