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okay i cant handle this anymore. how do you deal with parents that are ALWAYS fighting? i mean they wont separate they talked about it but they wont and it's beginning to tick me off because they will be good one day and then the next you know it they are fighting and it sickens me! i cant handle it anymore i feel like punching them out. please help. THANKS!

Talk to them about it! I bet they don't even realize that it's really hurting you. Good luck, I hope everything works out!
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~*Erin*~

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when i was younger in 2nd grade well i was dumb and had sex with this guy whose now in high skool the memory keeps haunting me and i cant get over it. i was under age and i didnt no better hes in high skool now he could have said no!!! so i dont no if it was rape or not!!!! plzzz help me!!!!

OMG, hunnie, don't worry! You were both really young and didn't know any better. It's not rape unless the guy is over 18. Wow, don't worry, k?
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~*Erin*~

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ok im 13/f and my bf always asks me do u wanna make out and hell yea i do but i dont know how how? i mean idk.i really like my bf but i am kinda prude and i wanna atleast make out so this is kinda a stupid question but how do u make out with sum1?
ok i need advice asap bc my bf is starting to get annoyed bc i keep saying not right now not right now...any1 have any ideas? im afraid he may break up with me?

Hey, if your bf really loves you, he won't break up with you over that. Seriously, it just comes naturally. Go with the flow. Do what he does. The more you do it, the easier it will get. Good luck!
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Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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Hey people...Happy Holidays...hopefully you guys aren't having a confusing holiday like me lol. Well I am going out with this kid and he's a year older than me and let's just call him Kevin. Well Kevin told some of my friends that he liked me and they kind of made me go out with him. I didn't really know him and I still don't at the moment. So I really don't like him because I barely know the kid, I'm not good at learning to go out with him either. We've been going out for about a week now and it's just driving me crazy. He calls me all the time and is sooo clingy! He bought me a diamond promise ring for christmas and OMG he shouldn't have done it. Obviously I don't like him as much as he likes me. Well on New Years I want to go to my best friend's party (it's a guy) but the thing is they don't get along that well. I don't want to lead Kevin on either but I don't want to have to tell him I don't like him that much because I do NOT want to hurt him. I need to like break it off and I don't know what to say!!!!! Does anyone know what to say to him? Besides I don't like you or besides being mean to him. I mean I definitely don't want to hurt him but that means I might just have to make something up to tell him I can't have a boyfriend right now! Anyone have any ideas?

You should say something like, "My mom doesn't want me dating anyone right now. Sorry. Can we still be friends?" Something like that. Good luck!
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Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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Is oral sex considered sex? Do you loose your virginity if you have oral sex?

Nope! Losing your virginity is when your hymen breaks, and you have to have intercourse to do that.
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~*Erin*~

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My sister has had a pretty tough year, and I think she's finding the festive season a bit overwhelming. She hasn't wanted to get involved with any of the usual things she enjoys this time of year, like decorating the house with lights. I'm nervous that tomorrow on Christmas Day, she'll be really down. How can I cheer her up, given that the normal "festive" things she likes are just depressing her?

Tell her it's almost Christmas, and she she shouldn't be so sad this time of year. Tell her to try to be happy. Then do something nice for her, like make her lunch or something! Good luck to you and your sister!
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Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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wow well i showed my friend this dress i wanted to get and she bought it that day so yeah now i dont have a dress...i live in rochester new york where can a get a semi-formal dress???

JCPenney has good dresses. Go to the mall, there's a lot of good dresses there. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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do ALL digital cameras have the screen in the back where you can view the pictures after you take them? even the cheap ones? i need to know, thanks

Mine does, but I don't think all of them do.
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~*Erin*~

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tomrrow im going to my boyfriends house...i go there all the time and my mom knows him and shes met his parents before...the thing is she trys to get WAY to involved...she wants me to bring cookies over there! she wants to "fix them up a plate of cookies and brownies" and me give them to his family...come on...THATS SO EMBARASSING! shes like oh but it would be so giving...i dont know how to tell her without fighting..hellpp

Actually since it's Christmas, that WOULD be a nice thing to do. I'd actually do that, lol. Bring a plate of cookies over, and then after that, your mom won't have anymore ideas like that, and if she does, just calmly talk to her about it, without getting mad. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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i have a boyfriend who i love VERY much. we (his name is corey) went out for 4 months and then we broke up. when we broke up he went out with my best friend and then they broke up. then he went out with my other best friend to try to get over me and things led to other things.... she was moving really fast and he didnt want to get made fun of so he just went along with everything. well she gave him a blowjob. he broke up with her right after because he found out i still liked him. he regretted the whole thing. i was have a really tough time dealing with everything. then i went off to highschool before him *hes a year younger than me* and i got a new boyfriend. i went out with him for 7 and a half months but i didnt want to be with him. we were kinda off and on for a long time. things happened between me and him that i didnt want to happen, but i didnt know how to say no. i never did anythng to him... he did things to me sexually. and then i finally got the courage to break up with him. all my self esteem was gone by now, as u could probably imagine. i still liked corey a LOT and so we started talking again and we got back together. weve been together for over 3 months and i keep thinking about what happened between him and my ex-best friend. i just cant seem to get past it. he regrets ever doing it and he knows how bad it hurt me. we have talked about it, we have cried about it. i just dont know what to do to get over the past. i keep picturing what happened. and corey cant get over it either, he gets upset about it all the time. how do we get over it and what do we do about it? thanks for any advice you can give me.

Remember that you love each other. He sounds like he's really sorry and means it. There's really nothing you can do, but move on. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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ok my two best friends (we r all 13)used to be best friends b4 i moved here and then they got in a fight and didnt talk for 2 months. but now they r friends again...and my best friend thats a guy would do anything for her and im afraid they r gonna become best friends again and he will forget bout me! but im not sure that hes like that...i told him and he said it would neva happen but how does he know??? this is a gurl he said he'd do ANYTHING for...so im confused and worried. yea i know it sounds kinda selfish but i dont wanna lose him as a friend...or her! should i worry bout it or trust him and believe it wont happen?

I would trust him. Call him up and talk to him about it, too, and make sure everything's ok. Good luck!
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Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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ok so, what do you do if you're stuck in this situation:

your dad had an affair for 3 years .. without telling your mom or you or your brothers

sounds bad enough, right?

well .. he's still with the whore and expects me and my brothers to warm up to her... be nice to her .. accept her into the family and what not. oh right, and to add to that: she has a 2 1/2 year old son who is annoying as hell.

she comes with us on vacations, and i know my dad spends the money ...that he needs to 'save' before we're able to buy a BASKETBALL HOOP? ... on her

thats not right.. and i've tried having those long serious chats with him. he thinks i'm just doing what my mother does ... hating her for no reason. she screwed over my whole life, why shouldn't i hate her? ...what should i do? and don't say i should try to like her .. cause thats not happening .. other than that i'm up for any ideas

helllp me

I agree with you 100%! Your dad has NO right to do this. He cares more about his new gf than his own KIDS?! You should definitely tell your mom. She'll be more than happy to let you live with her. Good luck to you and your brothers!
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Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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Okay this may sound really dumb or something but it really needs to be answerd cause i really need the help.My friend had wanted to kill herself and then her mom had put her into a center to get the help that she needs(good for her!!).But the problem is that she is on drugs and she drinks a lot and she is only 12 or 13 years old.Well i tries to kill myself a few weeks ago and now i'm fine but my question is that should i be her friend still and hang out with her even though that she wanted to do something that i tried?Cause my fear is that she will want me to think of doing that again?Plzz help.
Thanks again
XxshortyxX

Yes, be her friend, but if she asks you if you want that stuff, say no, and then drop it. Maybe try getting her off those things if you can. Don't try killing yourself again. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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Okay well here it goes.I have a friend named Jordyn and she is a girl.Well she tells everyone everything that she hears or what you tell her.It sucks cause i really like her but i have to watch what i say around her or what happens cause she isn't also afraid to change things around and make things worse than it really is.Is this really a good friend to hang around or no?Also is this a true friend?Please help me!!
Love always,
XxshortyxX

She might be a good friend, but not a true one. The best thing to do is just talk to her about how you feel. If she is a true friend, she'll change. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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I have these two friends... they shall remain nameless... but i have these two friends who really dont like eachother.. they dont get along at all.. they like despise eachother... one is my brothers girlfriend who ive known for like 2-3 months.. and she a really good friend of mine.. we became really close.. and the other is my best friend of 4 years... they dont get a long.. i recently moved... and my friend of 4 years is coming to see me... well my mother invited my other fried to stay with me for that same week... UGh... they have to drive 4 hours in a car together.. with my brother.. and stay together for a week and hang out... well my question is how do i get them to get along... i dont want to hang out with one at a time because i dont want one to feel left out.. and i dont want to deal with them fighting the whole week.. they already said they werent going to start anything with eachother out of respect for me and my mom.. but i know they will at some point... how do i get it so all three of us can chill and no one argues or feels left out?

I think you should get them together and see what they have in common. For instance, they both like you, lol. Good luck!
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Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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my best friend likes my ex-boyfriend and i still like him too.. but i was the one who broke up with him.. i told her i didnt still like him because she really likes him and he likes her back! but im pretty sure he still likes me because he still acts like it. i am fine with my best friend going out with him because she actually asked me before but i will just be so sad.. i dont know what to do!

You just have to learn to accept it. Try being happy for her. The best way to get over him is to find another guy of your own. There's probably a whole line of guys who want to go out with you! Good luck!
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Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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I apologize in advance for the potential length of this post.

Lately, I have been having trouble with my father. It seems like he's taking every opportunity to ruin every chance at happiness that I ever had. I normally wouldn't care, but he's really effecting my relationships with other people and my potential opportunity to get into a good college, which is really important to me.

Since I'm only fourteen, I have no way to move out without his complete consent, and I have considered moving in with my mother in San Francisco, but she is physically abusive toward me, so that really eliminates itself as an option.

He's making me feel worthless and like I'm a horrible human being and I don't know what to do. He's called me a slut, a liar, a failure, and a sociopath. Someone please help me.

Aw, I'm sorry. What you should do is see if any aunts, uncles, cousins, or grandparents could take you in. Both of your parents are abusive, you have to live somewhere else. If nothing works, call the police, because that's about the only thing you can do. Good luck!
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Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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Is is normal for the average teenager (only child) to cry at least once a day when she's by herself in her room. And being an only child has a big issue. I came to realize that I cry everyday. Sometimes more than once. I do it in private though because I don't want people to see me. I guess my biggest reason is my parents, and the fact that I'm sick of being the center of their lives...I've gotten to the point where I feel a lot of pain in me, but I can't take it out on anyone but myself. It all seems really stupid, because it all comes from my parents. They don't beat me, and they're not necessarily "overprotective" or anything, I just hate being the only one they have to worry about... I've gotten to the point where I don't know what to do. I can't even tell them I want to seek professional help, which is what I really want--thats how distant I feel. I don't know what to do....

Aw. Wow. It sounds like you're depressed. You need to talk to your parents about EVERYTHING you feel. Talking will loosen things up A LOT! And ask if you can get professional help, so you can bounce back! Good luck!
P.S. Use tissues, not your sweatshirt, lol.
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Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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My best friend is pretty than me, more popular than me, smarter than me, funnier than me, just BETTER than me. And the thing is...I'm EXTREMELY jealous of her, to the point I get MAD at her when she gets more attention than me!! I mean I don't show it, but inside of me I wanna yell at her. I don't know whats the matter with me!! Today, my band teacher offered to my best friend that he would loan her the skill sax if I wanted to teach her how to play (the saxophone) so then she can join the band. I want her in band because it would be way FUNNER, but now I'm thinking I DONT want her in band. She'll be better than me, prettier than me, funner than me, and nobody will care about ME anymore! I'm so worried. But most of all I'm mad at MYSELF! I dont like getting mad and being jealous of leille but I can't help it!! Any tips on how to stop myself from getting jealous, then mad, at leille?

You just kind of have to be happy for her! But most importantly, be glad about all you have, and be proud of who you are. Good luck!
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Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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I'm 16 and I'd like to try out for the school musical, but I'm really nervous. what should I do to have a good audition?

Just pretend like you're by yourself and don't worry about the people judgeing you. I know you'll do awesome! Good luck!
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Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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