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the past is haunting me
i have a boyfriend who i love VERY much. we (his name is corey) went out for 4 months and then we broke up. when we broke up he went out with my best friend and then they broke up. then he went out with my other best friend to try to get over me and things led to other things.... she was moving really fast and he didnt want to get made fun of so he just went along with everything. well she gave him a blowjob. he broke up with her right after because he found out i still liked him. he regretted the whole thing. i was have a really tough time dealing with everything. then i went off to highschool before him *hes a year younger than me* and i got a new boyfriend. i went out with him for 7 and a half months but i didnt want to be with him. we were kinda off and on for a long time. things happened between me and him that i didnt want to happen, but i didnt know how to say no. i never did anythng to him... he did things to me sexually. and then i finally got the courage to break up with him. all my self esteem was gone by now, as u could probably imagine. i still liked corey a LOT and so we started talking again and we got back together. weve been together for over 3 months and i keep thinking about what happened between him and my ex-best friend. i just cant seem to get past it. he regrets ever doing it and he knows how bad it hurt me. we have talked about it, we have cried about it. i just dont know what to do to get over the past. i keep picturing what happened. and corey cant get over it either, he gets upset about it all the time. how do we get over it and what do we do about it? thanks for any advice you can give me.
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you just need to forget it. dont do this if you dont want to but maybe you have to do the same in order to forget it. DONT DO IT IF YOU DONT WANT TO. or if you think your not ready or something but just forget what happend. sorry if i dont help
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try not to bring it up, my friend went thru the same thing that you did, just try to forget about it, even tho i know itll be hard, but look what you got - you got him back.. look to what you can have in the future and things that are going to happen, expect the best, not the worst, dont live in the past hun. x0
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i think you two need to sit down and have a big conversation about what all happened between everything. because if you don't. it is just gonna linger there for a really long time and you both are gonna be upset about it. why did he go out with your ex best friend? just ask him the questions that you want answered and let him answer and ask you questions too. maybe that's the only way you 2 can ever get it figured out. but congrats on getting him back <3 i love it!
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Remember that you love each other. He sounds like he's really sorry and means it. There's really nothing you can do, but move on. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
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~*Erin*~
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hey, i think that you should remember that you love each.and that no one can take that away from you.i mean sure you made mistakes in the past but thats all in the past now the one thing i have always learn in life is to leave whats in the past in the past and that you need to move forward sure some things will come along what you dont like some things that you even hate but its all apart of making you a better person in life.well i hope this helps!!!!!!!.-tish
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well you made mistakes in the past just as much as he did. what you did with your new boyfriend was out of line, because if you regret it now then you know it didnt mean anything. he did alot of stupid things too, im sure he regrets it, but you cant take back what happened in the past. instead, if you two still like eachother, move in from here and start over. spend time with the people who really love and care about you. if you are meant to be with this kid then it will happen. it not, then try to remain best friends so you can look out for him so that he wont go too far with other girls. dont go out with other guys if you Love someone else. if it's meant to be then it will come together.
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Just wondering, have you shared what you and this other guy did with Corey? You really need to do that. If it's something that neither of you can't get over, then you have to keep talking it out. The thing is that it happened, can't change it now. You can only move on from it. You have to sit down and really think why it is that it bothers you though. If after that you can't get over it, I think it'd be better for you two to break up, because if that continues to be the topic it's most likely not going to go away any time soon.
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