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Right. This could be a bit long.
For the last few days/weeks, I have been thinking about having a baby. Me and my boyfriend are very happy and it definatly looks like we will be together for a long time. He has mentioned before bout kids and stuff. but I always said to him that I would but not yet. I am only 17 years old and I have got a 2 year course at collage coming up. also i dont know if he would actually want a kid yet.
but I have been thinking and I would really love to have a kid.
Can someone please help me change my mind because I know I'm to young to have a kid and I probly wouldn't be able to cope. Even though I'm pretty sure my mum would help me out if I did have a child.
Please help me change my mind because I really want a kid but I am only 17.
Any advise would be brilliant.
Thanks
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Finish you schooling first and make sure your relationship will last. Kids will come but right now is not the time. Wait until you are married or at least in a very long term committed relationship.
Mom may help you out but that isn't fair to her.
I had my first around your age. Your life pretty
much becomes totally focused on raising the baby. No time for fun. Friends who initially
support you will soon grow bored with your being
busy with the baby and will move on.
The cost of raising a child, being on your own etc. are astronomical. So many things you don't now think about.
Housing, electricity, gas, food, clothing, baby formula, diapers, medical care, Home furnishings,
car, car insurance, tags for the car, personal property taxes on the car, Tires and car maintenance, if you work you need childcare. If you have a minimum wage job, paying for that is
outrageous and takes all your money. The list is
never ending!
So you should at least have a good paying job. A partner with a good paying job and a good stable relationship. If you don't have, a baby will end it real quick. :)
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ok, me and my girlfriend have decided we want to have sex, the only probleam is i am not sure how i am going to get my hands on a condom, i am 13, and don't give me stuff saying im too young or anything cause we have made up are mind, im just not sure how i can get my hand on some condoms. can i just buy them? what? and also what kind should i get? (link)
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If you have a planned parenthood center or a health clinic in your neighborhood you may be able to get them for free.
If not they sell them anywhere like walmart or drugstores. The kind you get doesn't matter just get one!
Some public restroom used to sell them in vending machines. Don't know if they still do or not. :)
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my bf whos 38 and his son (14)have lived with me (37)for 9 months he just this month got a job
has not offered any financial help at all .
then yesterday he came home from work and said he was taking his two dogs to the desert. 10 hrs later at 1am he came back told me he was working on a new place to live and he had to bring dogs over to meet some one. then he says hell be moving in two weeks (by the way he looked like he just woke up) should i throw him out now or try to make things better weve been rocking this relationship for 7 yrs of witch he has only worked 3 of those years.so im the one always paying for everything i do love him but i feel he is using me and now that i made him get a job hes gone. so my question is should i wait the two weeks or get it on now (link)
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Talk to him first and see what his reason are etc.
If he seems adamant about leaving I wouldn't give him the 2 weeks. Let the one who had to meet the dogs put him up and boot him out before he loses his job and can't leave.
There is absolutely no reason you should keep house for him for 2 more weeks. It will tear you up inside. May as well have it done and start putting it behind you.
Good Luck.
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okay well i have liked this one guy for about 6 months now. we went out but it was only for a month because we had to brake up cuz i wasnt allowed to date and i am in 8 grade. i`m 13. well anyways we got in a fight and we havent talked in forever. and i always think about him it is like i can not get him out of my head i feel like he is the one. i sometimes think he likes me too because he was my first love and i was his. i dont know what to do anymore. i only love him i never can love another guy i have tryed wht do i do??????? thanks!
xoxo emily (link)
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Hi Emily,
Go up and start talking to him. Maybe he thinks you are mad at him still. Do you have his email
address or instant message sign on? Might be easier to start talking again that way if you can't do it in person.
Let him know you want to be friends again. Hopefully it will lead to better things in the future. Good Luck! :)
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So i have been playing basketball ever since the summer before 6th grade. ((im in 9th grade now)) basketball hasnt started yet this season but im kind of scared because last year i was on my schools team and first the first couple of games i play maybe a little less then half the games but then the last couple of games the coach put me and another person in for only the last 4 fricken minutes!!! like it really pissed me off but there were alot of good players on our team. But it was weird because everyone always told me i was really good and i knew i was good cause i could make a basket from anywhere! so i dont know what happened. ive been running alot so i can get faster this year and of course ive been playing practicing basketball but i dont know what happened last year. should i continue to play even after last year? also i love the sport! (link)
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Most of the time you have to have been on the team a while to get a lot of play time. I think you should be on the team this year if you love playing. It will get better every year. Before you know it you will be wanting a break from all the play time you get!
Hang in there and play basketball. :)
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alright well there this guy. and i don't know for sure if he likes me, cause ive been thinking and i don't relly think he does. would there be any way to get him to like me more? (link)
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Sure. Talk to him. I know that's a hard thing to do sometimes but if you can find something you have in common and talk about it he is sure to take notice. :)
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i got lice from a friend (who didnt tell mee) we used this stuff called rid- it worked but i had so much that i thik its still kinda there...any home remedies? should i use rid again? please help! anything will do :'( (link)
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You may need to get a prescription from your doctor. Some of those head lice medicines can't be used more than a couple of times.
The main thing you need to do to get rid of them is make sure everything your head may have come into contact with is washed. Pillows, blankets, stuffed animals, hats combs, brushes anything you may use in your hair like hair do dads. The couch or chair or car seat that your head leans
against etc. If not then they will come back time and again.
It is very possible also that they are gone and
you just itch thinking about it. Best bet it go to the doctor, or if you see one withing the last year you can just call the office and have them send a prescription to your pharmacist.
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ok, i lied and i'm nervous. i've secetly been talking to someone that my mom didn't want me to talk to just because she's selfish and he doesn't *meet her standards* well, i'm afraid she's going to find out by reading my text messages or something. what do i do? i want to keep on talking to this person. but, what do i do?
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Does mom know this person you are talking to or is he a stranger to her? Most parents are, and should be cautious about that.
If you want to stop feeling guilty you have to do
one of two things. Stop talking to him or tell her you want to talk to him and make her understand you aren't up to anything but talking.
I don't think she is being selfish, she is just trying to look after your best interests and keep you safe. :)
*** I agree. If she just doesn't want you to date him because she considers him "ugly" then that is indeed pretty wrong of her. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and if you find him good looking then she has no business interfering.
I think you need to explain to her that your idea of hot and hers are 2 different things. She isn't the one doing the dating so she really needs to mind her own business and let you choose your own boyfriends. Don't be...well, you know don't get the teen attitude going when you talk to her. There isn't nothing can PO a parent more! But talk to her calmly and in a grown up way. Let her know you aren't a child anymore and
picking your own boyfriends is part of growing up. At some point a mom needs to back off and let the chicks do their own thing (within reason). Some moms have a hard time accepting that thier daughters especially are growing up. :)
Good luck. :)
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im 14m and my doctor told me i need to increase my physical activitys because im at risk of having high blood pressure. swimming was working out but because it's aguast that's only gonna last me 2 or 3 more weeks. and i hate exercising because it's boring and i always get tired and feel bad about my self and when im in the pool i have fun and don't get tired or sweat and it isn't boring and i hear that in high school you get alot of homework so i don't know how im gonna find the time to please my teacher and my doctor at the same time
help!
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Just wanted to add that places like the YMCA have
indoor pools. You might be able to get your parents to get you a membership if you have one near and you can swim year-round. :)
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about a week ago, my parents were fighting. it was so bad that me and my sister had to call my grandparents to tell them that we would like to sleepover. our parents tried to work it out but i don't know what will happen. also the next day when my dad saw us, he started crying and saying that he loves us. it was weird though to see my dad crying but i thought something was going on. yesterday i went blueberry picking with my parents and my sister. i wasn't really up to it but my mom said privately to me that we did this to be together and we don't have to be together and not have my father.
i am really scared now. please can you help me?
ty in advance. 13/f (link)
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It sounds like your parents may be having a hard time right now. It also sounds like they are trying to work out their problems. This is very good!
Please try not to worry about it to much. Being married can be hard work and it needs worked on all the time. They aren't giving up so you don't either. It isn't unusual or anything. Think positive. :)
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One of my molars Are chipping & it has a hole like right in the middle and another hole right next to that one.
I brush my teeth about 3-4 times a day.
Is this something i should go to a dentist for?
And do they pull teeth for situations like this. because i broke a diff tooth ( it didnt look like this one does) a few years ago with my toothbrush & he had to pull it.
If you need to know im 17 f
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Sure sounds like a cavity. The dentist can probably give you a filling if you go before it breaks apart. They just fill the whole with filling material that keeps if from hurting and breaking more. :)
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I heard a really good song on 92 pro fm (a radio station) yesterday at about 2:15-2:20 in the afternoon. I loved the song soo much but it didn't say what it was called and I don't remember any of the words!! It was a boy band and it sounded kind of like Fall Out Boy but it wasn't Fallout Boy but it was that kind of music and I think it must have been a new song because I never heard it before. Does any one know what the song is called if you were listening to the radio at that time? Also is there anyway I can contact them to ask them what the song was called or find a list of the songs they were playing that day? Any help would be appreciated. (link)
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You can certainly try calling the radio station and see if they can help you out.
That is probably the only way you will get an answer. There are a lot of advisers here but they are scattered across the world. It will be very rare if someone was listening and noted the time and all that!
Keep listening because if its new they will be playing it again soon. :)
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um im 14/f, && my boyfriend just started fingering me. sometimes he fixes his boxers because of well ____ something. anyways, im scared if he was doing it too me, and somehow when he fixed his boxers he may have gotten some sperm on it and then when he fingered me, he got me pregnent, only because i dont have my period, and i was due a week ago, and also i feel sick alot lately. PLEASE help, im begging you. im really really nervous. please help im really scared. (link)
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Its probably nerves. I doubt you are pregnant. I will give you a site to go to that has lots of useful information.
If you are that scared and nervous though, You may not be ready for all the sex stuff. It does come with lots of risk and worry. :)
http://www.coolnurse.com/
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If you're wearin a condom and you cum and it goes into the woman is it possible to get pregnet? (link)
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If you are wearing a condom properly it will stay in the condom.
It is still possible for a female to get pregnant because accidents do happen. The condom could break or have a leak. That is a rare occurrence but is possible.
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Unfortunately, I had to report someone. When I clicked to see the status of my abuse report, it said "Needs reviewed by level III administrator". What does this mean?
Also, can I add something onto my Abuse Report?
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Needs reviewed by a L3 moderator means it is something that needs looked into a little further
than a L2 can work on. Or it could mean we are waiting for advice on how to handle a report by a L3 or Dangernerd.
You can send a new report, I don't know that you can add to one.
It may take a little bit but it will be taken care of. :)
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I filed an abuse report against a level III moderator. Am I done for, and will they even look at my report?
I had a pretty strong case against her, however.
Will they contact me about the situation?
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You are not in trouble. It doesn't work that way around here. :) Yes they will look at the report.
Dangerwench plans to write you later about it. She is not going to growl at you or anythig so don't worry about that. I think she deserves a chance to explain the situation to you. I can tell you she didn't mean to offend anyone and I will let her talk to you about it herself.
It may be a little while but she will probably get back with you sometime this evening.
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i have my first gyno visit in a few days..can someone tell me anything about it and is it painful cuz im sorta nervous (link)
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This site will tell you everything that will be going on. There are lots of other good things to know on the site too so if you want do some browsing around. It is a little uncomfortable but
not painful. :)
http://www.coolnurse.com/pelvic_exams.htm
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when someone says i.e (link)
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Basically it means...in other words.
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There's this guy who says he likes me (on this site) and I have no idea how to talk to him. Because I don't know who he is...he sent me a personal question about a girl named milly, me thinking it was a quincedent answered and when he gave me feed-back he said i like YOU (my name is milly)...so what do?
I don't get in a relationship with someone I don't know and I don't meet with someone somewhere who I talked to over the Internet...I want to ask him why and a bunch of questions...
please help if you know what I'm talking about and trying to say...
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Don't answer him back because he is being banned.
You are not the only one he has sent that question to.
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i had sex tonight.. and i had it unprotected. he said he took it out when he cummed and then put it back in.. could i get pregnant still?? im scared (link)
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Yes you can. Hopefully you are not pregnant. I will give you a website so you know what to watch for.
I can only tell you in the future you need to make sure the guy uses protection. He can take off of you get pregnant, you can't. So take care of yourself. And NEVER believe anything a horny
guy without protection tells you. They usually don't pull out in time either. Be safe. :)
http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy.htm
Lots of other good articles on this site too.
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