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I've had diarrhea for four days, should I seek medical help?
It is a good idea to get checked out as you may have become dehydrated at this point and that is not a good place to be as it can cause other medical complications.
Hi there I am a 23years old confused girl. I am in a relationship for 3.5years since I was doing my graduation. Then I got an opportunity in the most prestigious university of the country and I left my boyfriend back home and went far away in the university. My bf couldn't take it rightly. He got upset and when I used to feel lonely there and needed him to talk to me, he used to blame me and make things worst. Now I came back home for few months and he left for an remotely interior village for his job. My parents wants me to marry after getting a job. But I am waiting for a PhD in my town but it seems impossible as our county university doesn't have any professor of my field while my previous university (which is the no.1 university in country) is offering me a PhD. And now if I leave for the PhD from no.1 university i'll lose my bf's trust again as he wants me to stay with him. If I stay here with him I need to shift my dream career notion. And as per my parents wants me to prepare for civil services exams that I really don't want to sit for. I love academic line. What should I do? Please help... :-(
Likely, your parents want grandchildren and soon...if they are encouraging you to marry as soon as you get a job. But don't let that pressure you into changing any of your life plans, for what job you go after, or which guy you go after.
Something I want to point out to you is that both of you met while you were 19 going on 20. We may feel grown up at that point. I know I did and married at 20 and my choice in a guy was a disaster. The plain truth is that while our bodies develop starting in early teens, our pre-frontal cortex of the brain doesn't finish and become complete until mid 20's, but I have seen in my own kids that for some people, that time is closer to 30.
What does a few years matter? Well, when it affects a person's ability to maturely weigh outcomes, form good judgments and control impulses and emotions. This section of the brain also helps people understand one another. So that would explain his behavior of blaming you and generally acting immature instead of being understanding and supportive for you. You both also met at a time when you didn't have much relationship experience and then you have spent a good chunk of it apart, so I wouldn't count on the 3 1/2 year length of knowing him as a boyfriend to really mean anything as far as whether he still is the best person for you or whether you would be settling for less by changing your plans to be with him. And there is no guarantee that his brain has reached maturity yet. You may have at 23, but he may easily have 5 to 7 years to go yet.
Now, as for a job, few people get to have a job that they enjoy and find satisfying. Most take any job that will give them a comfortable living.
While the economy may have improved, what I see is a cost of living continuing to skyrocket higher than people can afford to make ends meet. A big added income these days is for home owners with an extra bedroom renting it out cus so many can't afford an apartment on their own. So if you have an offer already, then it looks like for you, it's a decision between an ideal job which would provide a comfortable income or love.
I did not say decision between job and boyfriend, because I am not convinced with as little as I know about both of you, whether it is truly a mature love. I don't know if he thinks he loves you, or is in love with the idea of having a girlfriend. Is he able to fully support you comfortably if you did not pursue the job outside of hometown? Would you be happy with giving that up? I would normally say, if two person are 100% sure that they have found their true love and soul mate for life, that both would do anything to be together which would include moving elsewhere so one can pursue an ideal job. If he is incapable of being supportive of you in the past and that is a character flaw that won't change with age, then you can expect more of the same and years down the road wondering why you stayed with him. He's a boyfriend....but can you say he is husband material and father material? There can be a big difference depending on what his idea of dating is and marriage is.
Another problem I see is in your words, dream career notion. Are you being truthful with yourself or lying to yourself? We all lie to ourselves at times when faced with something difficult to go through. Is this really just some fanciful Notion that will pass in time? If you have certain passions about thins in life and you find outlets in life, even in jobs where you can let your passions just flow from you, you will be exceptionally good at whatever you do, and better than anyone else who is doing the same because someone forced them to do it, or they settled for less, even in a job. We live in a modern time where a woman doesn't need to ditch all her plans to follow her boyfriend/husband around. Its a matter of happiness, and practicality. If he really loved you, and he had a job that he could easily find elsewhere, then he would want you to be happy and move with you to where you need to be. Is the boyfriend really the deal breaker for taking the job or the idea of what his possible reaction will be. Lets say he throws a big tantrum. Is his tantrum something that will cause you to turn down the Phd? This would mean that you make decisions in life based on what other people think, say and do. That is not the right way to live ones life. I hope you have the back bone to go after what you want, no matter what the parents or the boyfriends have to say or how loud they complain.
I want to know tht if sperm gone into girl vergina tht girl will be pregnant.
Only if she is ovulating at the time, and that means that she has a egg ready to be fertilized. This happens for the most part, once a month in her cycle, just as her period which comes once a month if she does not become pregnant.
However, if you are talking about a teen girl, their cycles are not necessarily regular and so it is hard to know when a girl may have less chance of getting pregnant, as there's always a chance if no birth control is being used.
Cycles can occur twice a month or go for 2 3 months without appearing so you can't count on anything there as far as looking for a period to know she's not pregnant. Best thing at this point is taking a pregnancy test if it's been some time since sex. Read the package as there is a time that is too soon to test. If its a day or two after unprotected sex, she can go purchase Plan B, emergency contraception at the pharmacy. This is not something to use on a daily basis. You and her can go to Planned Parenthood for information and also you can get condoms there, and she can get birth control too.
I'm fourteen, a freshman in high school. Since I was in 6th grade, my mom has had to straighten my hair. I have really thick and wavy hair, and I just can't do it myself. My mom has more experience with straighteining hair, and mine is just SO wavy. Is that weird? I don't see how people can straighten their own hair if you can't even see the back. I don't have any other styles I can do, since it's incredibly wavy. Ponytails look really weird on me too...
It's not weird. Be thankful you have a Mom who is willing to do this daily work with your hair.
My friend has been using her facebook for the last week but did not accept my friend reqwest until a week later why did she wate so long is it a girl thing
Some people learn to screen out all the buttons like ones with requests and just get on to post something. I don't always look. And sometimes a person can be too busy to get on. If you weren't accepted at all, I can see having a question why but you've been accepted as a friend, so don't worry about the wait, just be a good friend.
22/f
In an ldr for around 2 months now.My boyfriend is moody..he retreats into his cave.
I last spoke to him day before yesterday and he was all lovey dovey.
And yesterday he didn't reply to my messages and later when I asked him if he's busy, he said he's not but unhappy with his uni.
He moved there 2 months back. Things have been hectic for him I'm assuming.
He skypes often.Usually initiates it all the time.
Talks to me well and all that's there.
I do not like the fact that his mood swings get to me.
I asked him if hes unhappy with the relationship, he said not at all,and he had mood swings last week as well (so I asked him if it was me,he assured it wasn't)
So I dunno if this is a way of signalling that hes donw wit the relationship.
I am totally paranoid when it comes to this.
I asked him "if this changes things between us"
Him : no not the relationship
Me : it eventually would,if you stop talking to me.
Him : I wouldn't stop talking to u,my feelings for you haven't changed
I'm having a bad day.
What am I supposed to assume from this?
I'm confused!:(
If this was not an LDR but face to face relationship, then you'd be there in person to be able to gauge if he's just having stressful days, if depressed or just simply a moody person.
In LDRs, our imagination goes wild to fill in the missing info that we can't glean from just talking on line. Trust is also built in person, not on line.
So what really happens is what I call 'theater of the mind', with us imagining for the most part, what all is really going on whether we get some of it right or none of it right. If you haven't done LDRs before, you can't expect any better than this. They don't have a good success rate. So if you can't handle this, then perhaps you need to be looking for a guy you can be seeing in person for a dating relationship. the period of dating is the 'information gathering stage' that comes after the initial interest or attraction to a person. During dating or hanging out together we learn things about the other persons character and personality, what they stand for and believe in, habits, their morals, hopes dreams, what they are like emotionally 24/7 in all types of situations. You can't do all that in an LDR.
I can't say if he is really moody or not or if you are over thinking it. But it's for you to decide now that I've given you more info. whether you want to spend more time with this relationship or not.
I met this girl I adeed her on facebook and she started randomly inboxing me on Facebook and she likes a lot of my status updates and she keeps asking me things like do you watch eastenders and she says hi how are you every time I walk past her at college nobody else does they only need to say hi once
there is an initial interest or she wouldn't be writing and asking you things or attempt to start convo's with you. I interpret the word "fancies" as "likes". So for her to like you, that's kinda hard to do when she still knows next to nothing about you. the way relationships go, it starts with an Attraction or interest, that prompts the two to ask each other if they mind spending time hanging out together, or dating. Dating should not mean this is automatically a boyfriend/girlfriend commitment stage yet, this is the information gathering stage during which both of you will learn as much as you can about each other by good in depth conversation and spending time in each others presences, getting to know the personality and characteristics of each others, hopes dreams, wants, beliefs etc.
If the two have something in common, thats when they become a committed couple/dating and may go for a short or long term relationship.
Since you two haven't started the info-gathering stage with each other yet, there's really no way to know whether she fancies you. Attracted yes...so go for it and talk to her, ask to go for coffee and or somewhere you can talk. If you can feel a chemistry in talking, spend more time together dating.
so me and my ex broke up back in April and I know its been a while but post break up we decided to remain friends, we weren t together that long only like two months, we still kinda talked a lot but he recently like about a month ago started dating someone else. when I found that out via facebook and instagram I automatically deleted him. and he did the same on instagram. he used to come into the gym I work at on a regular basis and now since he started dating her he doesn t even do that, which I am somewhat grateful for that .they are in a long distance relationship hes here and shes in a different state. when he popped up in the section of people you may know I saw a picture of them together and it broke my heart, all I keep thinking about is how I wish I did things differently and I start doubting myself thinking I was a horrible girlfriend even though I know I probably wasn t. even though I am talking to someone now the thought of my ex being with someone else stings. plus the guy I am talking to has the same NAME as my ex
Hurting after a break up and seeing them with someone new hurts. We all get those thoughts, whats she got that I didn't have. Our subconscious mind is where our emotions and feelings come from. And it takes the subconscious mind longer to get over than it does your conscious mind. But I also find my inner child with childish thinking sometimes is also controlled by my subconscious and that is why I had to learn to tell myself/my subconscious when those thoughts came (like encouraging a girlfriend of yours) that there is nothing wrong with myself, i just wasn't a perfect fit for him. Both people have to feel the same. Also, the first or 2nd person we date isn't who we end up long term, life long or married to. It's not going to be healthy for your relationship if in comparing the new guy to the old one, you find him lacking. the purpose of dating is to always go a step better, an improvement in the next person. It is a good thing to continue dating though. It helps if you know what you are looking for in a guy so I will paste in now what the purpose of dating is about. You can't avoid the hurts, but understanding the process will help you feel more confident about yourself. Here goes:
Dating is for determining if there is interest beyond basic attraction, discovering more about the other to determine if you like and can handle their personality traits, and whether there's enough in common, or evidence of destructive habits or tendencies in the other that would harm you emotionally and/or physically and kill the relationship. Depending on what you discover, you either continue dating the person and take it to the committed couple level or you break up.
Dating is more about learning what you do and don't like in a guys character and the same for him. Its a time of making comparisons. Seeing what is lacking in a current partner that you would like to have, or something that they do, or ways they treat you that are disrespectful or hurtful emotionally or physically as in being abusive or violent. When you come up against things like that, you need to decide if you will settle for less or move on to the next dating partner, hopefully always shooting for someone a step better in some area. Make a list of the qualities you like and remind yourself with another list of the qualities you dont like or must avoid because they are harmful to your well being. Review it and update it often through out the years. All of this is good but another important point, if chemistry is lacking, doesnt matter how nice and perfect for you he is, it just won't work. And you can not control if the other person doesn't feel chemistry for you, thus the hurt of breakups. But never think it is you, it's a lack of chemistry, that magic thing called pheremones that match. Its what makes one mans kiss feel spine tingling and another like your brother just tried giving you a romantic kiss. One person may feel something and the other, not.
If you break up, you look for the next dating partner, always trying to find someone a step better than the last partner, basing your choices for the new person on traits you discovered in the last person that you liked enough to look for in the next person, while at the same time avoiding the other things that you won't tolerate.
If all is going well and you develop some serious feelings for each other, you take the relationship from just dating to the committed couple level. At this level, depending on your age, you are dating each other exclusively or if adults, moving in together or getting married.
If you find you keep having the same issues, no matter which guy you date, either you never learned from the past relationship, or perhaps more of the issues are with you and you need to be honest with yourself as to what issues you need to work on within yourself before you can make a good dating partner. I can't begin to stress how helpful having a list of what I liked and wanted and needed in a guy was to me in finding my 2nd husband. Make sure your list is criteria which if a guy doesn't meet it, thats a deal breaker and you won't date, no matter how much interest he shows or how handsome he is, cus there is always someone better. Worked for me. It should work just as well at any age, including high school dating too.
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 9 months, and we will be celebrating Christmas together this year. I bought all his presents , BUT I'm confused to what I should put in his stocking. His presents weren't cheap so now I'm on a budget. I just don't know what kinds of things I can put in his stocking. Can someone suggest some things I can get, do, or put in there to fill it up?
I know my husband loved when i got him a stocking stuffer of something to hang from his rear view mirror that wasnt too big to obstruct his view but where ever he went, it was a constant reminder of the person who gave it to him and he said gave him many fond smiles daily.
Another fun small thing could be getting him another key ring holder, or if he likes the one he has, getting one just for the part he can attach to his like a mini flash light or some other neat gadget.
Buy a mug with a design of something he likes on it. It doesnt even have to be brand new. I bought mugs in good condition one year at 2nd hand store and made it part of everyones Christmas gift. Make a homemade coupon book with coupons for him to redeem like a good should rub or back rub, you're making dinner for him. You treating him out to a movie, a coupon good for a ---- minute long kiss, you put in how many minutes.
If he doesn't have a good pair of gloves, that might fit in a stockiing. Also can be found brand new for cheaper at 2nd hand stores. Try a trip through a 2nd hand store for ideas, a spare pair of earbuds I've bought there new too.
So, I had this guy I liked, ( I'm a female ) and he liked me back. We dated for about 6 months, before he moved and it was hard for us to see each other except by skype and such. I guess that was too hard for me, because I broke up with him. He had a twin brother and I talked to him a lot. After the break up, his twin brother and I talked a lot about stuff and everything, but lately I keep on wanting to see him. I get annoyed and check my messages constantly, waiting for him to respond. I'm not sure if I like him, I'm unsure. Any ideas on what I should do? Am I only falling for him because he looks like my ex? I don't want to stop talking to him or anything. Help!
What are you looking for dear, have you thought this out? If this was in reverse and you had a twin sister whose boyfriend broke up with her and started paying attention to you and told you it was because you looked just like her, would that be acceptable to you? Attraction is important but too many people stop at that point and look no deeper, especially younger people inexperienced in relationships and dating. If a person is looking only for sex partners, there's not a big need to look much deeper at personality, characteristics and what they stand for and believe in. So if a guy didn't care to learn about that part of you, would you be okay with it? I know almost all females would not. They want a guy not only drawn to her sexually but also to who she is on the inside.
Now apply that to this twin boy. Would he be happy that you have an interest in him only for his looks. Maybe for a couple times if it gets him some sex. But if the two of you haven't a care about each other like best friends would care and know you, then it eventually falls apart.
you have admitted to getting annoyed and checking messages constantly for something from this twin and the two of you have made no commitment to at least hang out together to get to know each other better. So I don't understand why you would get so annoyed.
A truth about Females: Females crave attention from males. Females often make 'having a boyfriend' their top priority and expect the same of the male. Males view priority differently and actually better, juggling many priorities and usually have a top 3, one being job, school and girlfriend. A female with low self confidence tries to get hers from having a boyfriend. It means she will put up with anything, even the bad, because she believes she has self worth if she has a boyfriend. this tends to make a girl act desperate for a guy. Guys are good at spotting this in a female. The good guys will tire of her needing constant attention from him and not having a life of her own and drop her. tHe bad guys will take advantage of that, knowing that they can mistreat her and cheat on her, abuse her and she will stick around because she is willing to settle to less because she is afraid she might not be able to find another guy and he is her mental crutch, making her feel good about herself. If a woman can feel good about herself without needing a guy to make her feel that way, she becomes attractive to men and will attract many and not have to worry about not having a guy to choose from. Between A self confident woman and a desperate but bombshell of a woman, according to male relationship experts, the confident gal will attract good guys every time over the other. This relates to you dear, I have a feeling because you were making a surface level comparison over the guys and confused, so thats why I am going on about this. There's more.
A confident woman will look attractive to many men who are douche bags, simply because they got bored with the other types of females and looking for something they think may be more interesting. What they are responding to is a woman who sets the boundaries and rules, knows herself well and is able to describe that to a man, and knows what she wants and isn't afraid to ask for it. Thats like honey to a bee, a flame to a moth, and men will notice you. It then becomes your responsibility to weed through them all and know which ones know how to appreciate a woman and are self confident themselves as well, and which are the immature men who still need time to grow up, have no idea what they are looking for in a women, and have nothing in common with the female and are a waste of her time.
The only way you'll know is if you take time to learn how to represent who you are as a person....think of it like a job interview, expressing your skills, only here its more personal stuff, what is it you;re passionate in life about, what are your beliefs, hopes dreams, what is important to you, etc... When you can come up with a list about yourself, that should help you come up with a few things that you are looking for in a guy. If you want kids someday...why date a guy a year only to find he is adamant about never having kids. This item would go on a list of must haves in a guy. If he doesnt meet it, thats a deal breaker. sO no matter how cute he is, you break up because you know what you want and won't settle for less and you check the next guy out. I did this in on line dating searching for my 2nd husband. Came across hundreds of guys who wrote me over a couple years because I DID everything a self confident woman does and like I said, it attracted a lot of duds and douchbags but I had my list and criteria for a guy to meet, their first mistake, i dropped them, until finally met the one i am now married to. By contrast, his intro letter to me, stood out in comparison to most males so i knew he was worth investigating further. Dated but a short time before I knew he was the one for me.
I want to see you get to this place dear. If you can do it, you'll know what to do with the twin or whether to go looking elsewhere.
Good Luck!
I was in a long distance relationship for almost six months. (I am pretty young, so that seems like a decent amount of time for me.) We were completely in love with each other, and he (we'll call him Henry) even came all the way from Indiana to visit me in Cali for a week. After fighting constantly over stupid things said and done, Henry broke up with me. He made it clear that he definitely wanted to start dating again after I matured a bit. I was heartbroken, but I was so hopeful that he would come running back in less than a month. Two months went by and he still hadn't asked me out again - or even talked to me at all. I decided to move on. I started dating a new guy who lives less than a mile away from me! He (we'll call him Jack) has liked me since sixth grade (i'm in high school now). I am exceptionally happy in this relationship, but I simply cannot get over Henry. Even though I never actually see or talk to him, I think about and cry over him almost everyday. I can't decide if I should ditch Jack, my current loving, compassionate, and "best friend forever" boyfriend, and sit here waiting patiently for a boy halfway across the country.... or I can stay with my current boyfriend (Jack) and try my best to forget Henry. Keep in mind that I believe I truly love both of these lovely people. Of course, there are so many details I can't list because of the character limit, but I stated the main ideas. :/ thank you!
Since at our teen or even early twenties, we have alot to learn in life yet, let alone relationships, we are going to make mistakes, both due to being naive, having no previous experience to drawn from, being immature and/or not having been observant of other relationships your age and parents age to see what works and what doesnt. (some can be learned by reading books or watching videos) I can't say if there was anything you were doing that wasn't to his liking but when we choose someone to date, it's going to start with someone who is visually to our liking. Then starts the investigative part of hanging out with/dating to get to know about the person's character and personality. That's just as important, if it wasn't, every girl in school would click with you and be a best friend. Your'e looking for a guy who can be like a best friend but also with whom there is chemistry for the romantic/sexual part. Henry has written you off so there is no pursuing him. People can have their heart battling feelings for more than one person at a time. That happens in life sometimes. Ive experienced that too. What I can say is the best thing is to pursue a relationship that seems the most promising for both the friendship part and the romantic part. By friendship, I am talking about a boy who is there for you like a girl friend is, he cares no matter what your mood, is understanding, a listening ear, encourages you in many ways, is supportive, is someone you can trust, doesnt' put you down, and is always building you up. If you wouldn't hang out with a girl who treats you other than that, don't hang with a guy who does.
From the way you describe Jack, sounds like your decision should be easy to make. Sounds like he had the makings of a perfect boyfriend, cus the friendship part is nailed down. All there is left for you to determine is if both of you have the chemistry for the romance and sexual attraction. Like do your hearts do somersaults and stomach flutter when you kiss or flirt? If you haven't yet, or don't want to, then there's likely no attraction that way. Might make for a great friend but nothing more, not relationship or dating or marriage material for you someday.
As for your having the emotions still over Henry...it will fade in time, usually after you find someone a step better than him. Thats what dating is about, going through a serious of monogamous relationships, improving each time with your next choice of boyfriend, and breaking up with someone the moment you see behavior you won't tolerate. this means you need to ask yourself what is acceptable or not for you and stick with it and make sure a guy knows up front what you are looking for and expecting. Also work on bettering yourself, trying your best to mature, get more educated on relationships and it will all work out. good luck dear.
Please help me. I'm currently engaged to a man I've been with for 2 years but I really feel like I'm settling. I'm 20 and we've been engaged since I was 19, I met him at right after I turned 18 so I barely dated.
I feel like I want so much more out of my life and that if we ever get married I'll be settling for less than I dreamed of. Even our engagement although sweet was just "okay" in a discount hotel I paid for followed by a normal day at the beach. He fell asleep during dinner at a Carrabba's, I didn't even get to eat my food. Nobody acted surprised, it wasn't like I imagined where our parents cried out of happiness or where my friends were excited. I loved my ring at first but now I've found out bill collectors are coming after him for the money on it and it makes me sick now because it wasn't even a grand.
We live in a somewhat nice apartment. We struggle with money though even with a roommate. I want to move for better opportunity and he doesn't. Last time we went out of town he told me he didn't have enough money to pay for our dinner and so I had to make an excuse to cancel the order.
This isn't what I want with my life but we've been through a lot together and I do love him but everything is getting so old and I can predict everything he does before he does it. He's sweet to me and he's a good man but everything just feels "okay" there's no romance or whirlwind of emotion. I never feel wowed or amazed. Just okay.
I met a guy a few months ago just for a business dinner and we got along so well. He didn't know I was engaged because it was just business between companies and he didn't know me before. He told me later on how much he liked me though and that he really wanted to see me again. He's recently messaged me again wanting to see me and hoping to get back in contact with me and I think I want to see him too. I know he makes really good money, has a luxury car and a beautiful home. I feel like it would be stupid of me to say no and pass up the chance to a better life seeing as my current situation isn't the best.
Where do I go from here? Should I just go to dinner with him again and see how we both feel before deciding to really break things off with my current S.O.? What do I do? I don't want to throw everything here away if it was just some kind of wonder of something better.
If your heart is giving you doubts and it feels mediocre, and like you're settling for less, then you probably are, listen to your heart and your instincts and break it off. You may not understand yet why you feel that why because you may not have ever made a list of what you are looking for in a guy and what you do not want and without much dating experience of other guys, your list will be quite short. But a list is better than nothing. I am serious about this. I didn't find my 2nd husband until I made my list and had a clear picture of what I was looking for. The list must have the needs and also the wants, although the needs are the most critical, such as "do you need him to have the same spiritual beliefs as you? Do you both want kids someday. Needing a patient, easy going man who doesnt raise his voice perhaps cus your dad was the opposite and you know you don't like that. Needing a man who has great sexual desire for you and both of you are compatible in what you like.
A want would be wanting a guy with long hair but if he has a shaved head instead, it's not a deal breaker like your Needs list. Wanting someone who can afford to reasonably take care of you and any future children is important, even if both of you need to work to have a comfortable life but don't give up on all your other ideals just for financial security. So take some time, make your list and pray for guidance, then decide if your settling for less. If you are, break the engagement. Doing it backwards and meeting with other guys while with him to see if you can find someone promising or better is the wrong way to go about it. You must first settle in your heart whether fiancee is in love with you and meets your wants. Good luck dear.
But do not break it off
First off, I love my boyfriend (I'm female), he loves me (I think) we've been together 3 years. I was his first, he was my first (we're both 20). We started having sex after 1 year together. Even though neither of us knew what we were really doing, it was great, trying new things, seeing what worked. I used to always like being on top.
Then something changed. I was using my hands to stimulate him and it wasn't working. Tried my mouth a different time, he stopped me. My confidence dropped, I thought I was doing something wrong, he said no I wasn't. I thought he was just shy so I took it as a challenge.
Over time, he doesn't like me doing anything to him anymore. I've asked him to show me how in case I was doing it wrong but he won't. He just makes me orgasm all the time. And sex, I can't help but breathe harder, get hot, moan a bit, you know and genuinely orgasm but his face never changes, he never makes a sound. I never know if he orgasms or not - he occasionally ejaculates but does that mean he orgasms? I stopped going on top cause it was like having sex with someone asleep but he insists he wants me on top.
I want to take control, be sexy. I fantasize about strutting into the room in a skimpy outfit, doing a little dance or something, pushing him back on the bed, straddling him, kissing him all over his body, feeling him with my hands (not even my mouth if he doesn't want me to) and actually see physical signs that he's enjoying it. Am I doing something wrong? I'm so upset, I feel totally useless.
Your first problem is that you are not sure if he loves you in return. The other is that since both of you are each others 'first', you don't have any experience with someone different to make comparison. Is this as good as it gets or might there be someone a better fit as a mate for you? You have no experience to draw on.
Since you are his first sexual experience, he was only in the beginning stage of learning about himself, what he likes or doesn't, maybe something about his sexual orientation. Some people may discover over time they like and desire the romantic connection but have sexual desire only in the very beginning or not at all, no sexual libido. This is called Asexuality and I have a link for you to read concerning that. You need to understand what that is, have a talk with him about your concerns, show the definition to him and ask him if he thinks this describes him.
If this is who he is, there's nothing wrong with him, he doesn't need to be fixed because it is a normal sexual orientation but he will never have the sexual responses or you the satisfaction of being able to sexually please him. He cares about you that he is willing to do what he can to make sure you have your orgasms which is great but does that meet all your needs, like to need to experience a man's sexual response to you. If you stay with someone like that, you are settling for less and must be able to emotionally handle it being that way for life, never changing. If you have doubts, then it may not be a good idea to go down that road of having a long term relationship with him. A great relationship or marriage is built on a foundation of two things dear, one being a solid friendship which it seems you must have and the other being compatible sexually, having desire for each other and both able to please and satisfy the other. If one or the other is missing, the relationship will eventually have trouble of one, the other or both ending up tired of the situation as is and wanting more. This means splitting up or someone cheating to get what they crave emotionally, or sexually, elsewhere. Here's a link with description on Asexuality.
http://www.wikihow.com/Understand-Asexual-People
I'm a hairstylist. My boss has been doing hair for 20 years but opened her own salon in March. I've been working in this salon for a little over 5 weeks and I love everything about it but one thing. Her husband will go pick up their 6 and 8 year old kids from school and bring them to the salon. I love kids and I love them, but they DO NOT listen. They fight and whine andante riot me while I'm working on somebody. I think if it was me getting my hair done, I would want it done in a relaxing environment. I'm new to this, and I don't want to overstep my boundaries or hurt feelings but it's getting old quick. Help me!!!
She probably either can't afford after school childcare or is trying to save a buck, or couldn't find someone available to take them.
Since she has the option of taking them at her work place because she is the owner, she's taking it. Even good parents can end up with children who act disobediently so you can't blame it on bad parenting. This is all stuff you don't know anything about.
If it irritates your customers to the point they all stop coming and you're losing earnings, you need to ask if they mind telling you why they are not coming back. You can't assume anything here. If you do have several people who give the reason of her children, then it is an issue you can bring up to her. If she doesn't try harder to find another place for her kids, then find work in another salon.
If it doesn't irritate any of your customers, you're not losing business, but yOU can't handle the childrens presence as it causes you to lose concentration on your job, then you need to find somewhere else to work.
here's my situation, when i started the 11th grade. i. met this boy named jean. jean is an honor student and a working man. i have school community service with him.every day . since ive gotten adjusted to seeing him every day we became friends. He very handsome and such a gentleman. i told him a month ir two later that i liked him he said " your pretty too" so i was happy all my friends said we should date so i am like hey what can go wrong. we flirted.for a few days and i felt like.he was taking to long to make the move so i made it. i wrote him a small letter expressing my.feelings ( and again this us all happening on Facebook because when were in school he always surrounded by his guy friends or female friends (alot of female friends 😭😭😭😭😓)) after i sent him the letter he said this "😍😍😍 you made my year but i wish we could be more than friends if it wasn't for my job skedual and school " ofcorse i was crying after that but then i got over it pretty fast. the following week were flirting again then he tells me he has somthing to tell me on Monday and im going like so im here waiting for the weekend to end because i though he was going pop out the question even all my friends but when i get to community service he not there but he comes the. last min . i ask him what he had to tell me but he rush out without saying a word i texted him on Facebook and he said " if you guess my favorite color then ill give you a prize " i am mad at this point so i played his little game and never won my prize. my friends say to keep trying so i made the move AGAIN . for the third time , i asked him on q date he said yes . i asked him 200 times are you seriously going through with this and he said yes as long as im paying. out date is set for two weeks from now and is either going be at a park or a botanical garden ( it pretty cold in New York) .
the moral of my.question is , Do you guys think he really like me? for a boy who rejected or as we teens say Dub (is like another word for rejection) more than once thens agree to go on a date thats pretty frustrating.
Young men in their teens and 20's can change their mind about a girl more often than they change socks. When it comes down to it, they are still just babe's in the woods of Dating and Relationships. But then, so are girls. Some of the things you do that you might think to be harmless may in fact be detrimental to a dating relationship and kill his interest in you and the same thing with things he does that get you to have doubts. You did say you asked him many times (200) about the date. That is one thing which if it is ongoing in the relationship, will over time kill a guys interest if there really was one. If he is pretending, then he'll never commit to dating you to find out more about you. Dating is for the purpose of taking the next step in getting to know a person whom you are visually attracted to, to see if they may be a good match for you. That is the objective of dating. You are not boyfriend/girlfriend when dating yet, not until you both have spent enough time together to be sure you want to go on to the next step and become bf/gf and be 'seeing each other' going together, or known as a couple. Girls seem to believe that going on a date means she is his girlfriend. Not all boys believe that way. A few, but mostly they are afraid of a girls mistaken expectations that he is making a commitment at that point and neither one is talking it out and communicating on it. Did you notice the choice of words and how different when you said you "like" him and he did not respond back with the same, rather he said, you're pretty too. He took your confession of "Liking" to mean that you were telling him that you were attracted to him, found him handsome, attractive and want to get to know him better which is done by getting together for dates...
I cannot guess what his objective is with his little game of guess my favorite color. He may just be playing games and has no reason for it, or maybe he is playfully trying to get the message across that he wants a girl who is interested in getting to know who he is inside, his likes, dislikes, etc... Are you showing an interest that way by asking him questions about himself. So if he's leaving you hints and all you do is guess a color and then get mad, you're only showing yourself to have less of an interest in him than he would like. Usually it's the girls who have a guy not wanting to discover who she is on the inside.
Another possibility, he is subtly trying to get across a message that you are taking this dating too seriously, or for totally different reasons than him. bY making up this game he may be trying to say to lighten up and try to have fun in the time that you date and get to know each other enough to be able to choose whether this is the kind of person who is perfect for you or not. In almost all cases, teens do not end up life long with the 1st or 2nd person they date. They learn what they like in the opposite sex as well as what they won't tolerate, and if ground rules are set at beginning of a relationship, and one person breaks them, then the other will dump them and move on to find someone a step better rather than settle for less. Rejection as you see it, may have a natural reason behind it such as what I just gave and is a good thing compared to being with someone not right for you.
Another thing to understand about guys, they do prioritize which commitments are most important to them which he mentioned, the regret of school and job schedule meaning he didn't have enough time for you. Guys will have many prioritys among which are also a sports team they play on or excercise of some sort, hanging with their friends, their family (parents/siblings) and a girlfriend. If you are not one of his top 3 priorities then you are not yet of highest importance. You may have his interest but fall lower on the totem pole as far as importance he places on you. But then again, you haven't really dating yet. So its quite natural you wouldn't instantly achieve that level. But if you reach the level of committed relationship with a guy and you don't become one of 3 top prioritys, then something is wrong and he may not be the best person for you. So if you have any questions what he means by something, or where you stand, find ways to ask him. A good question series to discuss is both of you answering for each other how you would define "Attraction' and what does it involve, are you dating or bf/gf at that point? What does dating mean to you? What would you describe as the perfect bf/gf? At what point do you think a couple are in a relationship, considered a committed couple? You may come up with even more questions. You may be surprised with each others answers. Until you both are on the same page, believing the same, having the same ideas and ideals, you are not going to have it easy and there's room for doubt.
Good luck.
Please tell me how to get an abortion in my ninth month of pregnancy?
Abortion is only for the early months when a fetus is too small and undeveloped yet to survive on it's own.
So the idea of trying to have an abortion at this stage, is like forcing an almost fully developed child to be born early. It might easily born born alive without any difficulty surviving on its own. However, Many babies are born early and end up in intensive care until fully developed. What's the difference of 1,2 or 3 or 4 more weeks? If you don't want the baby, at least give it the few more weeks of development to be healthier at birth and allow someone else to adopt.
If you don't want to ever see it or know it's sex, the Dr.s won't tell you. The child can be whisked away into Nurses care and an agency work to find adoptive parents. There are so many people who can't have kids of their own and want a baby that they are willing to pay a woman to carry one for them.
As has been said, its not ethical for medical staff to perform an abortion at this point because of the fact the baby is developed enough to be able to be born alive and killing it after birth would be murder and they'd lose their license.
If you are worried about vaginal birth and pain or whatever, many Dr.s today are scheduling c-SECTIONS for perfectly normal women capable of giving birth naturally so that the birth can be conveniently scheduled and the woman given pain medication so she doesn't feel anything. If that's the issue, consider that route but You have to do the paperwork now, not at last minute.
Hi, I'm a 14 y/o female in high school. There's this guy I like and we talk on the phone. Well, sometimes he'll flirt and I just don't know how to respond. I've had severe social anxiety my whole life and I don't want to embarrass myself or anything. How can I be more comfortable and flirt back??
If he's talking to you on the phone, then he already likes you and is probably aware that you are shy or have social anxiety, to me its one and the same as I was shy at your age and it was a fear of interacting with other people socially. I just got tired of being shy all the time and wanted to learn how to overcome that.
The best thing I found to handle fear like that is to admit it. When you face the fear that way, by sharing it with someone else, yes, it makes you vulnerable if sharing with the wrong person but if it's someone who already likes you, or a friend, that person will do what they can to tell you it's okay and once they know that you are afraid you might say something wrong, you are released from the anxiety of wondering about their reaction if you say something wrong because they already told you thats okay and they understand. So if you do mess up and say something awkward, likely they'll reasure you and you both may find yourselves able to laugh at any blunders and move on with your conversation and your friendship. It worked for me. Hope it works for you.
i began my period on the 8th of november and it ended on the 12th of november and i had unprotected sex on the 16th of novemeber. can i be pregnant? thx
Probably not, but you can take a test to find out if you're pregnant. However, teens with irregulars cycles can get pregnant just about anytime. I don't know your age so If you are a young teen, I need to share the following:
Teen girls won't have a regular cycle for quite a few years, this also means they don't ovulate at a regular time each month that you can count on so it's possible to have 2 periods in one month for that matter, I remember having that or no period for 3, 4 months! And that's the visible sign of your cycle not being regular yet, while your body is still getting used to the hormones of puberty. The part you can't see is when your body releases an egg that can get fertilized. It might be the same time each month but if it isn't, there is no way to predict when you have an egg that can be fertilized, so counting just when you had a period is not safe enough. So if you are a teen, taking a pregnancy test is your first step. Follow the instructions on it, it works best if used after a certain amount of time after sex, taken too early it may show nothing yet. Or call your closest Planned Pregnancy center to ask them and go see them. They do work with teens all the time, they are a good source for any care concerning your reproduction organs and can provide you with birth control if you're planning on continuing to have sex. This is all confidential under Hippa law so parents don't have to know.
In school, I have better friendships with boys than girls. Does this mean anything or is it just me?
there's nothing wrong with a female who makes friends easier and better with males or males who make better friends with females. The majority still choose the same sex for their friends instead of the opposite. But there is a plus to this I'll explain soon.
For the female, the trick is to determine which guys are wanting to be the kind of friend for emotional support, and are not attracted to you sexually for when you area of age to do something about that part, and which ones are hanging around, pretending to be friends only to see if they can get a chance to have sex with you.
The ideal person for the future when you're looking for a long term partner or marriage partner is a guy who is not only your best friend but both of you are attracted to each other and have that sexual chemistry together.
So the girls who prefer male friends have a plus in finding a mate, for among the male friends, there will be someone who is attracted to you both as best friend and sexually. The thing is, when you're ready (age of sexual consent) is to look for the best friend guy whom you're are also attracted to sexually, the one you have deeper feelings than just friendship. And not let your fear of losing a best friend hold you back from asking if he feels the same.
Too many guys end up in the friend zone forever when they also would like to move on the the dating zone and maybe marriage. The problem, they are afraid to tell her for fear of losing her as a friend. You'll have to decide what you want to do when you get to that point. In meanwhile, enjoy your male friends. It's perfectly normal.
I have never had a man ejaculate inside of me and I was wondering what happens to it. They say what goes up must go down so I'm just wondering when he ejaculates inside of you, does it all stay up there? Does some of it come down? Are you supposed to push it out? Does it come out on its own? Are you supposed to rinse it out? If so, do you have to rinse the same night or can you wait until your morning shower? Do you do any of the above differently if you are trying to get pregnant? If you don't remove the excess cum can you get an infection? Thank you.
Depending on the amount of fluid, some will appear and dribble out at vaginal entrance right away, you can wipe this away. The rest will dribble out slowly over time, much the same as your own natural cleansing system does daily to keep you clean and germ free inside. Even if not having sex, a woman naturally has a pale yellowish fluid end up in her panties, the result of her very own cleansing system inside her vagina working. So you do not have to do anything to remove it. The only infections you can get is if he has an STD, or if condom's used and you are allergic to rubber or latex, you might have allergic reactions, like itching and redness, or if you try to use soap inside or use douches, you kill or rinse away the good bacteria inside you that keeps things under control, leaving bad bacteria free rein to multiply and you end up with vaginitis and needing to go to Dr and get antibiotics to get rid of. I learned the hard way early on and was using douches all the time until I read about not using them at all.
So if its sex and then going to sleep, you don't need to do anything at all and just wash well in shower in morning. I use no cleansing products. But you can do something. Make sure you have clean fingers, no sharp spots on nails, and while in shower, raise leg on edge of tub and insert your ringers to swish around in a circular motion, rinse fingers and repeat a second or third time. That odor of having had sex, will be rinsed away. I don't do this routinely, only when I pick up that I am smelling stronger or a bit differently than usual.
If having sex and then planning on being upright and going on with your day, you can go use to potty and bear down to pee and some extra cum will flow out and be wiped away. Then use a panty liner to absorb the rest that slowly trickles out over the rest of the day.