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not sure what to do!
22/f
In an ldr for around 2 months now.My boyfriend is moody..he retreats into his cave.
I last spoke to him day before yesterday and he was all lovey dovey.
And yesterday he didn't reply to my messages and later when I asked him if he's busy, he said he's not but unhappy with his uni.
He moved there 2 months back. Things have been hectic for him I'm assuming.
He skypes often.Usually initiates it all the time.
Talks to me well and all that's there.
I do not like the fact that his mood swings get to me.
I asked him if hes unhappy with the relationship, he said not at all,and he had mood swings last week as well (so I asked him if it was me,he assured it wasn't)
So I dunno if this is a way of signalling that hes donw wit the relationship.
I am totally paranoid when it comes to this.
I asked him "if this changes things between us"
Him : no not the relationship
Me : it eventually would,if you stop talking to me.
Him : I wouldn't stop talking to u,my feelings for you haven't changed
I'm having a bad day.
What am I supposed to assume from this?
I'm confused!:(
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If this was not an LDR but face to face relationship, then you'd be there in person to be able to gauge if he's just having stressful days, if depressed or just simply a moody person.
In LDRs, our imagination goes wild to fill in the missing info that we can't glean from just talking on line. Trust is also built in person, not on line.
So what really happens is what I call 'theater of the mind', with us imagining for the most part, what all is really going on whether we get some of it right or none of it right. If you haven't done LDRs before, you can't expect any better than this. They don't have a good success rate. So if you can't handle this, then perhaps you need to be looking for a guy you can be seeing in person for a dating relationship. the period of dating is the 'information gathering stage' that comes after the initial interest or attraction to a person. During dating or hanging out together we learn things about the other persons character and personality, what they stand for and believe in, habits, their morals, hopes dreams, what they are like emotionally 24/7 in all types of situations. You can't do all that in an LDR.
I can't say if he is really moody or not or if you are over thinking it. But it's for you to decide now that I've given you more info. whether you want to spend more time with this relationship or not.
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