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So I'm 12 year old girl and I hate how I look. I am the ugliest person in the world. I want to look prettier. What can I do with out getting in trouble with my parents?
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Ok well I doubt you're the ugliest person in the world. The number one thing you do need to work on is your self esteem.
So you don't feel pretty, all of us feel that way at some point. So you do things to make you feel better and make you feel pretty.
Since you're 12, make up probably isn't an option.
I'm not sure what you don't like about yourself. If it's acne, you can take medicine for that or buy face wash at the store. If it's weight, you can eat better and work out. If it's hair, get a cute hair cut.
All in all, you should do things girls do to make themselves feel better. Dress in nice flattering clothes. That doesn't mean you need to wear super tight clothing or extremely revealing clothing but wear clothes that make you look and feel good. They don't need to be super expensive clothing or anything either. Just look around and shop for clothes that look pretty on you but also aren't too mature looking.
But number one thing to work on is your confidence. It's important that you work on this now because when you get older, you'll end up feeling worse. Going through puberty sucks and most girls don't like themselves at that age. Being a happy girl who learns to love herself no matter what she looks like with actually be happy.
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Me and boyfriend have been dating for four months today. We are both Jrs in highschool.
Recently I feel unimportant because he has been neglecting to make plans with me or see me. Throughout the relationship, he has avoided being able to come to events that are important to me or to stay a little while after school, telling me he has plans or has to do homework.
Until now I have had no problems with this, I want to give him as much space as possible! :)
But I feel like he just doesn't want to see me? I asked him to make plans on a non-school day, and he says he has homework. I don't know how he could have twelve hours worth of homework, or why he didnt make an effort to have some of it done so that we could hang out. But no problem, school comes first right?
But when I texted him this morning to tell him something funny that happened, he was hanging out with friends.
This happens all the time, and I feel like I'm not a priority.
When I brought it up and told him how I felt, he just said 'you know hw always comes first!'
I havnt seen him outside of school in three weeks, other than valentines day.
He also has made a habit of leaving when he is hanging out with me to go meet other people. (Once even another girl to 'study'... But that is resolved)
I communicate about how I feel but he doesn't seem to see a problem. It's a pattern. I love him but...
If you want more background info, I'm probably out of his league, but we are both very mature for our age.
In the past I have had problems with him moving to fast physically, and my parents and him quietly don't get along, if that makes sense.
Should I end it? I'm a loyal person, and staying longer may just make life a lot harder for me. (link)
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It's good that school comes first to him. But if I was in your shoes, I'd be feeling the same way.
It's only been 4 months, that's not a long time and he's already avoided coming to events that are important to you.
It's fine that he hangs out with friends, it's fine that he has homework, but he also needs to have time for you. If he can't somehow make time for you, then that's crazy and he probably isn't making the effort. I mean hey, the busiest people in the world make time for their spouses.
My boyfriend is in college and works and still makes time for me. It's not impossible and if he wants to make time, he will.
Do you guys see each other on weekends at all recently? If not, then this is something that probably can't be fixed since the problem is coming from his end. You've already communicated on how you feel, which is really really good because a lot of girls have trouble doing it or they do it the wrong way by yelling and all that.
I think you should sit him down, don't text or call him about this, do it in person and let him know one more time about how you feel. Just tell him you'd like to spend more time with him and that you know homework and friends are important but you want to be up there too. Maybe once he gets his homework done, then you guys can hang out after once a week on a school day or something.
If he goes a long with it, then good. If not, then you should end it because you aren't getting what you want out of this relationship and you don't need someone who isn't trying.
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i am 12 and i need to know some good teen films for when i go on holiday i am a girl so i like teen flicks i already have
pitch perfect
mean girls (1&2)
st trinians
wild child
plz help asap (link)
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Safe Haven
LOL
High School Musical 1 & 2 (Any other Disney made movies)
Hello Sister Goodbye Life
Like Crazy
My Future Boyfriend
Marley and Me
The Last Song
Grease
13 Going On 30
Love Actually
Beauty & The Briefcase
Love Wedding Marriage
Upside Down
Pizza My Heart
What To Expect When You're Expecting
The Breakfast Club
Yours, Mine & Ours
Mirror, Mirror
Revenge Of The Bridesmaids
Our Idiot Brother
Side Effects
Sleepover
Men In Black
Beverly Hills Chihuahua 1,2 & 3
Legally Blonde
Legally Blondes
I Give It A Year
The Truman Show
Hugo
Tintin
A Cinderella Story
Easy A
A Walk To Remember
Freaky Friday
Another Cinderella Story
Confessions Of A Teenage Drama Queen
John Tucker Must Die
She's The Man
Twilight 1, 2 & 3
17 Again
I Love You, Beth Cooper
Cyberbully
21 Jump Street
The Hunger Games
This Means War
The Princess Diaries 1 & 2
The Notebook
The Proposal
500 Days Of Summer
Agent Cody Banks 1 & 2
Ice Princess
Hairspray
PS I Love You
Dear John
Letters To Juliet
Sorority Wars
The Princess Bride
27 Dresses
How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days
When In Rome
The Holiday
Definitely, Maybe
Enchanted
50 First Dates
Cheaper By The Dozen 1 & 2
Father Of The Bride
Ella Enchanted
Herbie Fully Loaded
What A Girl Wants
Miss Congeniality
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My “friend" is totally ditching me for some brat, and I can prove it. When I told her how I felt, she said that I can sit next to her at lunch. But the brat who drowned her a couple years ago but is all of a sudden her best friend, was sitting next to her, and refused to move. In fact, the brat started to scream at me, and my “friend" just told me to sit in front of her. I'm not letting her get away with it. I'm gonna tell my other friend why my ex-friend REALLY isn't going to her party. But I wanna do more. Any ideas? (link)
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It sucks when one of your friends want to spend time with someone else that you don't like. It happens all the time.
When I was in middle school/early high school, my best friend hung out with the girl who I just hated. I wanted to get back at her but I knew it would be stupid and just not solve any of the problems.
Revenge never works. It usually just backfires. If it doesn't, it'll just hurt more people than just the ones you were trying to get revenge on. I mean now you're going to hurt your other friend by telling her about your ex friend.
Honestly, this is all just middle school drama. I have no idea how old you are, but you sound super young. If you aren't, then you should probably drop this revenge stuff because it's something that kids do because they don't know any better. Even if you are young, you should let this go because it's just unnecessary drama about to happen.
I don't really think this is your friends fault. I mean the most she's done is chose someone who might not be the nicest person to be her friend.
I mean she did take your feelings into consideration when she said you can sit by her at lunch. Instead it was her friend that was the one who didn't move and screamed. That wasn't your friends fault. She could have said something, but that would have just caused more drama and maybe your friend just isn't confident enough to do that.
So what you need to do is let this go and move on. If you're still mad at your friend, then just go find new friends instead of holding grudges.
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Hi!
So anyway, I'm a freshman in high school and I'm jealous of my friend. I really don't know why I'm jealous of him, because there's nothing to be jealous of. He's pretty much a pale twig (it's awful but it's true). Is there any way to get over this jealousy without knowing the root of what I'm jealous of? Is there a way of keeping myself from being jealous? Any answers are appreciated, thank you for reading! (link)
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Jealousy sucks.
It's difficult to deal with when you're not quite sure why you feel this way. But like the other advisers said, you called him a pale twig so you might be jealous that he has confidence in himself even though he might not be the best looking guy around.
Either way, no matter what the jealousy is from, it's affecting you and it's something that you need to deal with. Either way, you're jealous or something he has, that you feel like you don't have. Whether it may be looks, confidence, dating, personality, intelligence, material things you don't have, ect. You need to learn to accept yourself and be happy with with what you do have.
It's easier said than done but you know it needs to happen or else you're just going to keep feeling jealous when there is no need to be and could possibly lose a good friend over it.
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13/m
So how can I make some money? Im 13 so obviously i cant get a job and i dont get paid for doing chores. Also when i want somthing at the store i ask my mom and she tells me to buy it with my own money but i dont have any way to make money. So yeah i was just wondering how i could make some money. (link)
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You can do chores for neighbors. If it snows where you live, you can shovel snow in their driveway. If not, then you can mow their lawn, wash their cars, rake leaves, ect.
You have a type of yard sale and sell things you no longer want or need.
You can bake cookies or cupcakes and have a bake sale.
If you know how to make anything else, you can sell those too.
You can take neighbors trash to the curb on trash day for like a dollar or two. Even though that's not much, if you do like 10 or 20 houses, you'll get $10 or $20. It's a simple and easy job.
You can collect cans and bottles and recycle them. Going door to door can help you get tons more than what you just have in your house.
You can babysit.
You can petsit or housesit a neighbors house while they are out of town. Like feed their pets while they are away.
You can even walk dogs for money.
If it's hot out where you live, it's pretty hot here in California, you can have a lemonade stand.
If you know how to play music, you can go outside and make money from tips.
I'm not sure where you live, but you can check and see if you can do a paper route and deliver newspaper.
If you're good at math or some other subject, you can tutor other kids who need help.
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We go to the same university (both sophomores). We've known each other for a while, but I was in a failing relationship at the time that we met, so he didn't "try" anything.
He asked me out after my previous relationship ended. We went out for drinks and then I came over to his place. We ended up making out the entire time. He tried to go further, but I stopped him.
Last week, we went out again. He asked me to come over but I declined.
He wanted to see me again, and we made plans to hang out at his apartment for a few hours this weekend(we have pretty cramped schedules and it was the only time that worked for both of us).
Should I be concerned that he's just asked me to come over? How do I prevent things from escalating too fast when I do come over? Does it sound like he's only interested in sex?
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Ok well he does want sex, that one is given. As for whether he ONLY is interested in sex, I can only guess. But it does sound like it. Only because every time you guys hang out, he invites you inside.
As for preventing things from escalating too fast, you need to tell him your boundaries. He might think you're ok with going that far because you're agreeing to go to his apartment. So you need to let him know where you stand. If he stops talking to you after that, then you know he was only interested in sex. If he wants to actually date you, then he'll respect your boundaries.
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hi! im a 13 year old girl, and i have these two best friends who I love hanging out with, but they don't really like each other. I want to do things with both of them but I don't want them getting into conflict. should I just hang out with them separately? what do I do? (link)
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If they aren't mature enough to handle hanging around each other without getting into some sort of conflict, it's best to just hang out with them separately.
Being 13 is young and going through hormones and all that doesn't help. So unless you can sit down with them and explain how you feel and they can agree to act civil with each other, just hang out with them separately.
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I am a 25 year old female and for somr reason people seem to think me abd my cousin are dating some people even think wr are married and I dont know why. Its not like we flirt or anything or act like we are . We just hang out all the time because even though we are cousins him and I are likr best friends we are super close. I will give you sn example . The other day we went todairy queen to go eat and we told the lafy who was taking our order we were paying seperate and the lady gave us a funny look and kept asking my cousin if he sure he wasn't paying for mine and he said yes and then gave him a dirty look. Why do people think we are in a relationship together? (link)
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You both are around the same age right? So it's just one guy and one girl? It's just assumed sometimes, it's not a big deal.
People don't have to be holding hands or something to mean that they are dating.
That kind of thing happens often. It'll happen with me and my guy friend.
Just ignore it, it doesn't mean anything and it's not a big deal.
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Hey iam 17year old and form india, i want to have sex with my girlfriend can i control my sperm as i don't want to use condom and get her pregnant, i don't wanna use pill to stop pregnancy. (link)
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If you don't use condoms or birth control, she can get pregnant. There's no other way around it.
Condoms also protect against STIs and you don't want to get those either.
You can't exactly control your sperm, because even if you pull out before you ejaculate, you can still get her pregnant because there is pre ejaculation that contains sperm and can get her pregnant as well.
So you need to use both condoms and birth control or you'll end up getting her pregnant.
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My ex boyfriend used to love me so much and truly care about me. One day he just changed, started never wanting to see me, being just mean and didnt give a shit. Me being an idiot, held on so tight, hoping hed go back to how he was, which made him even more horrible. he broke up with me, i was heartbroken, 2 weeks later we were in the same club,despite him being the one to end it, i vowed to myself i wouldnt go off with another boy in front of him to save his feelings, he saw me there and had another girl on his lap then walked straight passed me looking at me in the eye, and slept with her down some alley. He knew what he was doing would hurt me, how did he turn out to be such an asshole? But a part of me still loves him because i keep remembering the good times? Any advice to get over him? How could he change into the opposite of what i always thought he would be. (link)
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Breaking up is never easy. It's ten times harder when he acts like a jerk about it.
A lot of guys will act all nice and sweet with someone and eventually get bored and then just act like a jerk. He just wasn't that great of a guy.
It's fine to cherish the memories, but remember that you can't live in the past. He's not the same guy as what he used to be. So you just need to let him go and move on.
It'll be difficult. It'll take time. But just keep your head up and don't have any contact with him. Go out, enjoy yourself, pamper yourself, hang out with friends and try new things. Find someone who is actually worth your time.
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I'm dating a guy I don't want to be with but in not so good at breaking up. We have been together a month and a half and he has probably spent over 200 dollars on dates with me. I feel so bad because it's almost valentines day, should I break up with him now or after? He said he has a surprise for me coming valentines day and I don't know what to do. My friend suggested breaking up before valentines because it would give the guy time to return whatever he got me. I need help, I'm not gutsy when it comes to things as such. (link)
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You definitely should break up before Valentines. The sooner the better. I mean that's just being fair and nice to him.
Breaking up is never easy when you actually do care about his feelings. As long as you say it face to face and let him know that you just don't feel the same or whatever the reason why, just be kind and honest.
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This guy and I constantly flirt. We talk outside of school. He asked me a few days ago to "use my computer" for a class he is taking at school. And I agreed to let him come to my house to use it. He came over at 5pm. He spent about 3 hours working on what he had to do with my help. when he was finished, he chose to stay at my house 2 extra hours. We sat at my kitchen table and watched YouTube videos until he had to leave which was at 10pm. He played with my animals and he seemed to enjoy himself. He said he would be coming back over soon. I have been in a bad relationship, and he knows. I dumped the guy I was dating in front of him. And he said "hmm." That was it. Does he like me and consider being with me? Or does he see me as just a good friend? (link)
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There's definitely a good chance that he's interested in you as more than a friend. I mean most guys won't go to a girls house to use their computer if they had other friends that they could use it from too. Then he stayed even longer after he was done so that's a good sign.
Try making plans to hang out. You can go see a movie, go bowling or any other activity that you can think of. If he agrees, then there is definitely a much better chance of him being interested in dating you.
So I'd start there and see where it goes.
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I am from India . My boyfriend did fingering last month .now my periods are delay m worried . Am I pregnant ? (link)
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Only sperm can get you pregnant. Having actual sex can get you pregnant. If he fingered you when he had sperm on his finger, then it's possible. If he didn't have sperm on his finger, you can't get pregnant.
Periods can be delayed for several reasons. One big reason would be stress. Then there is change of diet or exercise. And also illness can delay your period.
If it still doesn't show up any time soon, just take a pregnancy test to put your mind to ease.
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So me and my boyfriend have been doing some sexual things but NOT sex itself. I usually give him blow jobs then he acts like he is done and can't do anything else after I give him that. But lately after I give him one I kind of regret it also I give him one like 1 a week. Is that bad because idk about that stuff it's all kind of new to me and why would I start to regret it. Also one time he was sucking on my breast and I think he bit it and it starting to bleed and hurt but why would it bleed like that I got super scared are your breast sensitive or something? (link)
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Well he doesn't really know much about sexual things. He doesn't know how to make a girl feel good. Breasts are sensitive, and he's not supposed to bite it. If you guys do this again, make sure you let him know that it hurts and you want him to be gentle.
If you give him blow jobs and you regret it, then stop doing it. You shouldn't be doing something that you don't enjoy.
You should just talk to him about it. Let him know what you want and communicate what you like and what you don't like. Sexual things should be mutual and enjoyable for both people. It shouldn't feel like a chore.
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My mom won't let me get a bikini and I'm 15 and perfectly fine with my tummy showing! I'm 15 and I can't drive how do I get one without anyone knowing? (link)
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You've already asked this question. The problem isn't about you being fine with your stomach showing. The problem is, your mom doesn't want you to have a bikini and you can't change her mind.
I think it's wrong to lie to your mom. I don't know why you think it's ok to lie to people, especially your mom but there are two pieces that aren't bikinis that are cute. There are also really cute one pieces that you should look for. Lying to your family is not a good idea.
You won't be able to get one without anyone knowing. If you did what the first adviser said about getting a card, even then she can see your card history online.
So you just want to let it go. You're 15, you have to do what she says. If not, then there are consequences. Just wait until you are 18.
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There is a guy I like and he doesn't notice me most of the time and I want him to notice me and think I'm atractive but how do I do that and I have standerd dress (link)
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Like Dragonflymagic said, it comes down to personal taste. There's nothing really you can do to grab his attention if he has a different taste in girls.
I mean, the most you can do is try talking to him and see how he is when you guys talk. If he still doesn't seem interested, you should just let this one go and find someone else.
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Me and my best friend have been very close and we used to have dance classes together but she quit and I don't have any classes togeather and we are kind of growing apart weather we want to or not how do I stay close with her (link)
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Friends naturally grow apart sometimes. It's sometimes because they move, switch schools, or just don't have the same interests anymore.
But since you still want to be close, then you guys need to make time for each other. Try calling every once in awhile and hanging out on weekends. If you make the effort, I'm sure she will too.
If you still feel like you guys aren't trying to hold onto the friendship, talk to her. Let her know that you feel like you guys are growing apart since you guys don't see each other anymore and she'll reassure you that you guys will still be close and you guys can come up with ideas on things to do to keep close.
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Im in a long distance relationship for 1 year now. when he left in January, it kinda felt a little different.
He keeps telling i should find someone better and that i deserve better. He also said he wants me to be skinnier and says I sometimes look ugly when i dont do my hair. He also broke up with me a few times (at least i thought he did)
I told him like 4 times, that if he does this again to me, i wont come back. yeah like i said i did that 4 times, i always forgive him.
Now he did it again, told me his "Im-gonna-break-up-with-you-speech" again and that hurt me so much.
I told him that this really hurts me and he didnt even apologize. he was just like "ok.sorry"
We said that i will visit him in summer again, and he still wants me to come. I mean i want to come too, but it cant go on like that right?
I really dont know what to do...
Thank you for reading that, I appreciate every advice (link)
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You're right when you say he doesn't care about you. He really doesn't. I agree with Zane. This guy is awful and treats you like crap. He is definitely right that you deserve better.
He has no right to control how you look. A boyfriend is supposed to be supportive. He's not supposed to tell you to lose weight or ever call you ugly. He's supposed to accept you for who you are, not try to change you. Never ever stay with someone who wants you to change.
Stop talking to him. He can't just keep playing with your feelings like that. You deserve someone who can treat you better. Believe me, you'll find someone ten times better.
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First lets just call her..Su. So in 6th grade Su left the school im in and she wasnt here for 7th grade, she came back in 8th grade and stuff changed for the first week. We flirted alot and chatted alot on facebook... i was planning on asking her out the following day, but another guy was faster then me and she said yes to him. I knew he was a jerk but never told her just to not get her angry at me, after a while she broke up with him, and during the time she was going out with him she friendzoned me. I accepted it at first but at the beginning of the school year after christmas i started to have feelings about her, she hugs me sometimes, rarely gives me a kiss on the cheek. I dont know what to do, i always felt like she was the one for me but now its starting to fade and i get angry about it...what should i do???
Btw i dont want any comments that say 'dont worry youre young time will pass and you will get another chance' cause i know all of that but i need help with this. (link)
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I'd say go take the chance. I'd start with hanging out more often, talking more and see how she is with you and if she shows any other signs that could mean she could be interested.
If she does, then ask her to the movies or bowling or something fun. If you guys hit it off then ask her out.
If she doesn't feel the same way, then you can't really do anything else. I mean you can't make someone want to be with you. So at that point you'll just have to accept that it's not going to happen and then move on.
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