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It feels like my boyfriend doesnt even care about me anymore
[19F]
Im in a long distance relationship for 1 year now. when he left in January, it kinda felt a little different.
He keeps telling i should find someone better and that i deserve better. He also said he wants me to be skinnier and says I sometimes look ugly when i dont do my hair. He also broke up with me a few times (at least i thought he did)
I told him like 4 times, that if he does this again to me, i wont come back. yeah like i said i did that 4 times, i always forgive him.
Now he did it again, told me his "Im-gonna-break-up-with-you-speech" again and that hurt me so much.
I told him that this really hurts me and he didnt even apologize. he was just like "ok.sorry"
We said that i will visit him in summer again, and he still wants me to come. I mean i want to come too, but it cant go on like that right?
I really dont know what to do...
Thank you for reading that, I appreciate every advice
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Im gonna tell you what you dont wanna hear. I was in the same type of relationship a few months ago, he used to love me and care about me so much, i thought i was so lucky. then all of a sudden he just stopped caring? he treated me like shit nad i put up with it. the truth is its gonna end up with yo ugetting your heartbroken because hes not going back to how he used to be, which fucking sucks. Believe me, i completely got my heart broken, not just when we broke up but for the weeks or months he stopped caring, id cry everynight and pretend to him everything was fine because i didnt wanna lose him. I looked despereate and needy, everything i promised myself i would never be. End it. Do yourself a favour, you wont regret it, I swear. Never let a man treat you anything less than Beyonce.
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You're right when you say he doesn't care about you. He really doesn't. I agree with Zane. This guy is awful and treats you like crap. He is definitely right that you deserve better.
He has no right to control how you look. A boyfriend is supposed to be supportive. He's not supposed to tell you to lose weight or ever call you ugly. He's supposed to accept you for who you are, not try to change you. Never ever stay with someone who wants you to change.
Stop talking to him. He can't just keep playing with your feelings like that. You deserve someone who can treat you better. Believe me, you'll find someone ten times better.
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He's abusive
No guy that truly cares about someone would EVER care about their appearance. This guy is a classic asshole who is controlling and manipulative. Guess what, You don't owe him shit. If someone can't except you for who you are as a person, Then you shouldn't be with them to begin with. It is NOT about how you look, It's about who you are. Find someone who loves you for YOU as a person and appreciates you. Who gives a flying shit about your hair or your weight, It's not what matters. I feel sorry for this jerk I really do, Good luck to him on ever finding anyone who is willing to accept that bullshit. Stop forgiving him, Stop talking to him period. Cut him loose and move on
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