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why do people think me and my cousin are dating?
I am a 25 year old female and for somr reason people seem to think me abd my cousin are dating some people even think wr are married and I dont know why. Its not like we flirt or anything or act like we are . We just hang out all the time because even though we are cousins him and I are likr best friends we are super close. I will give you sn example . The other day we went todairy queen to go eat and we told the lafy who was taking our order we were paying seperate and the lady gave us a funny look and kept asking my cousin if he sure he wasn't paying for mine and he said yes and then gave him a dirty look. Why do people think we are in a relationship together?
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Some people see two people, and automatically make assumptions. That's the beauty of judgement. This will happen all the time. Try not to take it too personally, and brush it off. They don't know you, you don't know them, disreguard their opinions.
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Many times when people think that two people are a couple, there is probably some reason for it. For example, they flirt, hold hands, kiss, use pet names... But as you said, none of this is the case and yet people still seem to think you are dating.
While it's really impossible to know for sure why you get this reaction, I have a few guesses as to why this might be the case.
The main thing is that many people just like to make assumptions or jump to conclusions without any real evidence. Are you close in age? If you are, that could be a factor. And just the fact that you spend a lot of time together probably leads people to immediately think of you as a couple. Chances are, you would not have this happen if you where both of the same sex.
Try not to let it bother you. But if it does, you can always just outright clarify that the two of you are cousins and that should end things. Even flat out introduce yourselves as cousins right away. For example, when going into the DQ you or he could have said to the lady at the counter, "My cousin and I would like..." and unless she's totally dense, she'd get the hint.
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You both are around the same age right? So it's just one guy and one girl? It's just assumed sometimes, it's not a big deal.
People don't have to be holding hands or something to mean that they are dating.
That kind of thing happens often. It'll happen with me and my guy friend.
Just ignore it, it doesn't mean anything and it's not a big deal.
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Don't worry what others think. If you feel like correcting them, then do so but its not required, they are the ones making assumptions. As has been shared, it happens to others quite often. My younger sister lived close to my brother who had mental issues when he was alive so she spent lots of time helping him out with stuff. Even though she was married, if she went anywhere with my brother, people who didn't know her or somewhat knew her assumed that brother was her husband because of the closeness between them, even though they weren't romantic or such.
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You are two, twenty-somethings, one guy and one girl?
Hell, people think the same thing about me and my brother. It's not evil, it's just an assumption that happens to be wrong. Truth is, in most cases that service people encounter, two people who looks like you two, would probably be a couple.
Laugh it off. It's meaningless.
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If it upsets you just try to egnore it! You can hang out with who you want even ones who people think you are together with but just tell them that you are only friends and don't love eachother! I'm not really sure why they think you love eachother they might not even know you are cousins and in their eyes maybe they think you look like a good match so that's probably why they think you love eachother but it's just what people think, it won't change anything about you and your cousins friendship though :)
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