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Why did he stop loving me?
My ex boyfriend used to love me so much and truly care about me. One day he just changed, started never wanting to see me, being just mean and didnt give a shit. Me being an idiot, held on so tight, hoping hed go back to how he was, which made him even more horrible. he broke up with me, i was heartbroken, 2 weeks later we were in the same club,despite him being the one to end it, i vowed to myself i wouldnt go off with another boy in front of him to save his feelings, he saw me there and had another girl on his lap then walked straight passed me looking at me in the eye, and slept with her down some alley. He knew what he was doing would hurt me, how did he turn out to be such an asshole? But a part of me still loves him because i keep remembering the good times? Any advice to get over him? How could he change into the opposite of what i always thought he would be.
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Breaking up is never easy. It's ten times harder when he acts like a jerk about it.
A lot of guys will act all nice and sweet with someone and eventually get bored and then just act like a jerk. He just wasn't that great of a guy.
It's fine to cherish the memories, but remember that you can't live in the past. He's not the same guy as what he used to be. So you just need to let him go and move on.
It'll be difficult. It'll take time. But just keep your head up and don't have any contact with him. Go out, enjoy yourself, pamper yourself, hang out with friends and try new things. Find someone who is actually worth your time.
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The good times you remember, if someone else was experiencing them may not be described as 'good times'. Its really hard for a person to switch character that greatly that quickly unless something like street drugs is involved or he started heavy drinking, some substance that would change his character.
Otherwise, I'd say its a safe bet that this things you see now were always a part of who he is at core and he just happened to be very good at putting on an act to get a girl. If he is not into having a serious relationship at this point in his life or doesnt ever want one, then perhaps the moment he sense a girl getting serious, he dumps her or begins to treat her bad and rub it in to make sure she doesnt try to get back with him. Some guys are afraid of commitment for various reasons and others are just plain douche bags. The heart gets involved and develops feelings for a person and we pin our hopes on it turning out and the heart will eventually heal. But the feelings we develop for a person aren't always because the person is kind and loving, there are women who love men who are verbally, emotionally and physically abuse and threaten to kill them and yet stay because their heart says, I love him. What needs to happen is that women learn to love themselves first and foremost before loving a man, or it takes higher priority than loving a man. If a woman truly loved herself, she would not deliberately want to subject herself to that treatment. I know what I am talking about. I thought I used to love myself with ex husband but I continued to allow him to treat me abusively out of misguided ideas I had mostly based on religious reasons. So I don't know what your misguided ideas and beliefs may be if any, but trust me, you are better off without him. It takes time, your heart will heal in time.
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