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Growing apart
Me and my best friend have been very close and we used to have dance classes together but she quit and I don't have any classes togeather and we are kind of growing apart weather we want to or not how do I stay close with her
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This sort of thing happens with everyone especially girls for some reason ! I know it can upset you but just try and show her how much you mean to her! Like make her laugh, spend as much time together as you can , make her a preasant or do something sweat that will sure put a smile on her face ! And if you can text her try to tell her how you feel and if you can text her that's good because you can still have chats and be bffs even when your not with eachother :) just bacicly try your best to keep your friendship together
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Friends naturally grow apart sometimes. It's sometimes because they move, switch schools, or just don't have the same interests anymore.
But since you still want to be close, then you guys need to make time for each other. Try calling every once in awhile and hanging out on weekends. If you make the effort, I'm sure she will too.
If you still feel like you guys aren't trying to hold onto the friendship, talk to her. Let her know that you feel like you guys are growing apart since you guys don't see each other anymore and she'll reassure you that you guys will still be close and you guys can come up with ideas on things to do to keep close.
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Change happens in life that we can't predict and often have no control over which will affect the closego for.ness of a friend.
A couple of examples of things that cause this are ones parents moving the family to another town or state so you can't be with your friend anymore, or friends going off to different colleges once out of high school. Or once an adult with family and finding out your friend is moving cus her husband found work far away. Life brings changes and we need to learn to adapt with it.
In your case, it sounds like your friend will still be in town, just not in classes together, so you'll need to find time on weekends to see each other or days off school. It might feel like you're growing apart but if you are good friends, you'll find ways to keep in touch, it just won't be as often as before and in the same circumstances. I have 3 daughters who all had their own close friends in school. All of them are now in their 20s. They do not see their friends as often as they did before.
Heres an example, My oldest had a friend I'll call Sara. When they began to date seriously after high school, each was more into thier boyfriend to have enough time for each other. Jobs or local colleges took away more of their time so they only saw each other occasionally. Sara became pregnant and married a navy guy who got moved across the country so for a few years, my daughter never saw her, just kept in touch with occasional calls and facebook. Then Sara came back as he was re stationed back where they started and by then my daughter had her first baby so Sara would bring her kid over even though two years older than daughters baby and they'd visit while watching over their kids. Then Sara moved away again with hubby but divorced and had a 2nd child with someone she didn't marry. She recently decided to move back since family is in the area and she was now a single mom with 2 kids. Sara has recently come back to the area and of course she and my daughter are finding time to hang out together again. But they definitely are not spending time together the way they used to when they were in school together, and yet their friendship has survived all these changes and unexpected situations.
I believe your friendship can too.
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