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I need your help please
So me and my boyfriend have been doing some sexual things but NOT sex itself. I usually give him blow jobs then he acts like he is done and can't do anything else after I give him that. But lately after I give him one I kind of regret it also I give him one like 1 a week. Is that bad because idk about that stuff it's all kind of new to me and why would I start to regret it. Also one time he was sucking on my breast and I think he bit it and it starting to bleed and hurt but why would it bleed like that I got super scared are your breast sensitive or something?
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Well he doesn't really know much about sexual things. He doesn't know how to make a girl feel good. Breasts are sensitive, and he's not supposed to bite it. If you guys do this again, make sure you let him know that it hurts and you want him to be gentle.
If you give him blow jobs and you regret it, then stop doing it. You shouldn't be doing something that you don't enjoy.
You should just talk to him about it. Let him know what you want and communicate what you like and what you don't like. Sexual things should be mutual and enjoyable for both people. It shouldn't feel like a chore.
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Teens in general know very little about sex so it's not as enjoyable as it can be. All that kids are taught if even that, is how to prevent pregnancy and STDs but nothing at all about the mechanics or physiology of the male and female sexually and how to pleasure ones partner. It is definitely not supposed to be a one way street with the guy getting his orgasms and the girl getting nothing. Right now, his focus is just on himself without a care as to what your getting out of it.
Believe me, Sex is not supposed to be a 'chore' that you don't look forward to. It should be one of the best things you've ever experienced in your life and you enjoy it and look forward to it with your partner.
There's a simple saying, "If you're not enjoying it, you're doing it all wrong" and that applies in other areas of life besides sex, such as life goals and vocation. Life should be enjoyed.
You'd know if he bit you, so there's no guessing there. If its your nipples you are talking about that are bleeding, it could be a coincidence and they were dry and cracked to begin with. In my entire life, I've never had nipples bleed from a guy sucking. However, my nipples have gotten sore and chapped at times from nursing babies 3 times.
The only thing that might cause bleeding which will happen if a baby is too aggressive in nursing is if the guy sucked too hard for really long. So wash the sore nipples in warm water only, pat dry, don't rub. and then smooth a 100% Lanolin ointment into them which should help them to heal.
It is important to have good communication with a sex partner...at any age. If you are too embarassed to bring up the fact that he was excessively rough on your breasts since it is rare to hurt and bleed right after, then you shouldn't be having sex yet at your age. If you can't bring yourself to tell him that you feel all thats happening is that he gets to experience all the fun and you are not being pleasured, then you have no business having sex yet.
If he says that if you won't do sexual things, that he'll dump you, then let him go, he was just using you to get blow jobs and such and didn't care about you to begin with.
If he tries to tell you that having penis in vagina sex will make things better and feel better for you, don't believe him. The majority of women do not have orgasms with the penis inside. Its through stimulation of their clitoris or their g-spot, all of which the guy can do for her to give her pleasure.
If you haven't thought to get on birth control yet, you shouldn't be doing anything sexual yet.
Girls can get pregnant without penis-vagina sex due to semen getting near her vagina, or some of his cum on your hand or his and then that hand touching your private area.
I believe the best thing you can do is to self educate you on the topics of relationships, and a positive healthy and knowledeable outlook on sex and I have a you tube website for you to check out regarding that. It's sex positive instruction in short 3-4 min videos by a peer, young college age gal Lacy Green who is very very good and gives the actual facts and has worked with Planned Parenthood too. I highly recommend her. She's funny and entertaining but gets the facts across to you. I would recommmend watching as many of her videos as you can, theres a lot of them. Here it is:
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Good luck dear.
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