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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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okay so i've been with my boyfriend for a year and 2 months now. Everything is great. I feel like he is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. He knows how to make me happy & he's just the sweetest thing ever. We've had our ups and downs just like any other couple. The biggest problem we have is trust. He trusts me but it's kinda hard to trust him. In the beginning of our relationship everything was amazing, just perfect I never thought things would get so badly to the point where we almost broke up. We would argue because I would find out things that he lied to me about. He's gone to parties without telling me anything and I got mad because he lied to me & told me he was going to sleep. Then later I found out he lied about smoking. He told me he quit for me but he lied. & he's lied to me about other little things which made me question him at times. There were also times where I felt like I was in competition with other girls. Ive told him about it. & hes change. He stopped with everything & things have been getting better. But is it bad that I just cant get over what he did? Like its always in the back of my head & i guess i have some anger towards him still. There are times when were talking just fine & it reminds me of the past & wat he did & i bring it up & we argue again. Can you please tell me ways to get over it ? I dont know why I just cant forget that he lied to me & hurt me.
talk to him
Ask him why he is always lying too you. Tell him you are gaving a problem trusting him because of it. I would also have a problem as little things can turn into big things. Communication is the key to any good relationship. He may need to earn your trust abd in the process maybe the both of you need to set some boundaries in the relationship.
My boyfriend never wants to go out when I hang out with my friends. I almost feel like I'm single because everyone is with their boyfriends/girlfriends and they are always asking where mine is and I have to make up some excuse. And then he gets mad at me for going out or gets upset. I'm 21 years old and want to live life. All he does is want to lay in bed and watch TV and have sex. I love him but is this really worth it? I'm tired of acting like a 50-something year old couple. I've already talked to him about it and alls he says is "sorry I'm not good enough." He won't even make plans to go on vacation or on a hike or whatever with me by OURSELVES. Please help.
Basically he doesn't want a relationship, He wants a fuck buddy. He isn't putting effort into you, He doesn't care to meet you friends or even make plans to spend time together. Mhm.. He ain't worth a dime. Find someone eles sweetie, Someone who is willing to be friends with your friends and have a good time with you too.
why would my ex boyfriend call me a bitch
Because he's an asshole that doesn't know how to respect a woman.
Ive heard sooo much if you break a mirror its 7 years of bad luck. Is this really true? If it is please tell me
Not true, It's just a legend
I've been dating my bf for 3 1/2 months I really adore him but I have a feeling he might be cheating. I'm really emotionally unstable and untrusting because of all my past relationships so its hard for me to trust. I saw a dick pic on his phone that wasn't sent to me but then he explained that he was gonna sext me one night when we were talking dirty etc. I got so upset and he got really upset and apologized for everything and said I was his world and he didn't want to lose me. He is always there to reasure me that things are ok and always answers questions when I have them. Also what bothered me was that he didn't shave for a week and said he was too lazy to (he usually shaves everyday), he changed up his haircut a bit because he said he was bored, and also he said he wanted to shave his happy trail cause it made him hot lol. That made me a little nervous like why the sudden change in appearance? I looked through his phone and didn't find anything but I was so paranoid and thought maybe he deleted stuff. Its driving me insane I really do love him but i'm just so insecure. Help?
You found a dick on his phone? Who was it sent too?
I would be a bit suspicious, Sounds like he may of came up with a lie to cover his ass honey. Not worth it
I was married almost 4 years. We had our problems he stole from my son (his step son) would sell his video games and say he just found a bunch of money he stole a generator from my father and sold it and got caught he got two years probation. He walked out 2 weeks ago took all our money our only car my driver license.( i dont miss him or anything i think our marriage died along time ago) Left me with two children (we have one child together) and the bills i had a full time job but couldnt get back and forth to work i was walking 6 miles with my two kids back and forth to work. I got off work at 10 pm. My brother finally came and got me I didnt have any family there. I moved (12 hours away) I havent talked to him he hasnt even tried to contact me or his daughter. My sons father who i had a child with at the age of 15 (22 now) came with my brother to pick me and the kids up. Hes been great with my son who he hasnt seen in 3 years. He always asks if i need something. He texts me all the time to check on me on the kids. He texts flirty texts. He asked me if he should hate me. I said do you hate me? he said no it feels like we were never gone ( i was gone 5 years) he said it feels the same as before. I said what does that mean he said i dont know. he said he missed me. He has a girlfriend they have been on and off for a few years mainly off. She doesnt like my son my sons father thinks shes jealous of him. Not really a question I am just seeking advice on what you all would do in this situation.
You file for divorce and fight for custody, You also fight for child support.
Here is where you start - You must first begin with contacting a lawyer.
Once you do, Get yourself into counseling. Talk to someone who can guide you. Get your children into counseling also. As much as you may not see it now, His children will end up resenting him in the long run and it will all backfire one day.
19/f
One of my former best friends from high school and I had a huge fight at the end of our senior year. It ended our friendship. It's hard on me because she constantly talks about me/posts things about me on her blog when this all went down over a year ago. I need to move on and not be so bitter and angry over it anymore, but I don't know how to start. How can I get over this and not allow her to affect my life and how I'm feeling anymore?
Posting stuff about you? Why are you even looking at her page? You are giving her exactly what she wants. Block her, Ignore her and stop giving a shit about her stupidity. People who have to fill their satisfaction by bad mouthing other people are those who are insecure and have low self esteem. If you want to move on then ignore her drama and be mature enough to just move on with your life. Those who follow her drama are exactly like her, They also have growing up to do.
16 Female
Both male and female answers.... but I mostly want a guys opinion on this! Thanks :)
I like this guy and he likes me. We are going out. He is 18 and I'm 16. He has already had sex. And I haven't. He wants to have sex, not right asap, but he doesn't want to have to wait so long for it. I understand what he means by it because I care about him and I don't want him to feel like he doesn't get pleasure in that way. He respects that I'm a virgin and doesn't pressure me into having sex, and that I'm nervous about having it. His birthday is in two months and I was thinking about giving in to him then. My one question is am I ready to have sex with him? Or do I just hold off on it. My other question is would his birthday be a good time to give him sex?
I think it's a bit cheesy to consider giving virginity as a "gift"
It isn't about gift giving, It's about when the time is right, How much you love and trust this person.
You stated he doesn't pressure you but he doesn't want to wait too long? That is pressure.
I think you should do what is right, but don't just loose it for the sake of his birthday. Lame
I know love is just supposed to be about love but realistically financial situations can easily ruin a relationship and I think it's already starting to tear apart mine.
Here's the deal. I've been with my boyfriend for a couple of months of now and we're doing really good. He's become my best friend and I almost believe he's my soul mate as silly as that sounds.
We'd never really fought before last night but I finally hit a weak point with him on the topic of money.
He's 21 and his parents pay for almost everything. He lives in an apartment outside his parents home and they pay for his schooling and rent. All he has to pay is like $100 a month for car insurance on the car that was given to him also by his parents and he doesn't even think he should have to pay that. He works about 25 hours a week at a local grocery store.
I work 40-60 hours a week and I'm 19. I pay $550 rent, $316 car payments, $180 car insurance, $50 cellphone bill, $150 groceries, gas and other living expensive all on my own. I don't have any help from my parents or family members.
Last week he decided not to go to work for a week. He didn't even take vacation he just didn't go so he didn't get paid today like he normally would. Well now he's saying he probably won't be able to see me this week unless I pick him up and that he's afraid the cash he has won't last him through the week for even himself and frankly that pisses me off.
He chose to not work and now he's realized he doesn't have any money and he's upset about it.
I wouldn't be so angry if he hadn't said I spend too much of my own money last night when I went over all of my finances with him (which isn't the first time it's been talked about) he kept saying that I was paying too much for them when clearly he doesn't understand how much it costs to actually support yourself.
Now it's like if I drive to him I pay for gas i pay for all of our meals I pay for everything. With that said I've been low on cash lately (I have $180 to last me until Friday) because he always wants to go out to eat for all of our meals and I almost always pay and I never had this issue before we started dating. I literally probably spend around $150 on him every week between eating out and gas for my car even with a hybrid.
On top of that I have the next week off which I'm taking vacation time for (I get paid) and just a couple nights ago we planned to go out of town. Now we can't go anywhere because he doesn't want to pay for anything and I'll be damned if I spend all of my money when he put himself in his financial situation so I'm probably going to spend the next week at home doing nothing.
What do you think I should do?
We'd talked about getting engaged in the close future and getting a place together but there's no way in hell I'm going to pay for everything and support him while he pulls crap like this.
You two aren't on the same page, Clearly in this situation you are a bit more ahead then he is in life.
He is a financial burden to you, From what you wrote sounds like you are babysitting rather then being in a relationship with him. He isn't a man, He isn't mature and doesn't have a clue what love is. He isn't right for you, You both are on different chapters in life. He is dependent upon you because his parents shield him from responsibility. He hasn't grown up and he is treating your relationship the same way he treats his parents. By being dependant....
I'm 13, whenever I drink redbull I start feeling sick, not straight away though,like a hour later but its like hectic nausea. Can it be the redbull? And if so why? I drink it a lot so its not like my bodys not used to it.
Redbull, Mobster etc. Contain a dangerous amount if caffine.
In fact, I recently read of 2 people dying from caffine overdoes from drinking Monster.
Could be a nasty effect from the caffine, I would definitely lay off.
Here is the article....
http://mobile.nytimes.com/2012/10/23/business/fda-receives-death-reports-citing-monster-energy-a-high-caffeine-drink.html?source=hp&ei=tEfsUdjnGcWr4APp6oG4BQ&q=person%20dies%20from%20drinking%20monster&oq=person%20dies%20drinking%20Mons&gs_l=mobile-gws-hp.1.0.0i22i30j0i8.2785.13398.0.16820.27.19.0.2.2.0.679.1163.4-1j1.2.0....0...1c.1.21.mobile-gws-hp.uMBfAkU02n0&
28 year old female.
I need help! I dont know what to do. Yesterday my boyfriend of almost a year used my phone to check his facebook messages. Well he left it logged on and I didn't realize it until I got a notification on my phone saying I recieved a message. Not realizing at first that it was his facebook I went to check. Immediately I realized it was his after opening the message but then I noticed my name and started reading. I discovered that he has been talking to this girl for quite a while telling her my life story my secrets and thoughts. I also discovered that he has been waiting for me to fall asleep atleast twice a week and sneaking over to her house. The after reading that message curiosity got the best of me and I decided to read other messages. Turns out he had sex with his ex girlfried/baby's mother the day we got together and on many other occasions. Once even bragged about doing it in the livingroom while I was sick in bed with the flu. He has been cheating on me all along. I thought he was different I thought he was the one I was going to spend my life with. I told him about reading the messages and at first he lied but then he told the truth. Meanwhile my heart is shattered! He broke my trust, he betrayed me, he freaking cheated on me. I have been nothing but good to him. I cook for him, clean for him, invite his buddies over and let them play video games while I bake them all cookies and fetch their beers. I try to never complain and always try to be the perfect girl for him. He has told me many times I am everything he ever wanted. But then he goes and sleeps with someone else. I love him but I cant stand to look at him. Everytime I think about him in bed with another woman I literally get sick. I have no family. I am basically alone in the world. He was the only person I have ever truly loved. What am I to do? Do I stay? I know I cant do any better and I should be thankful for what I have and I know that I am nothing without him, but inside I want to run away. I cant stop crying. Im so hurt. Please help.
-Heartbroken
Dear Heartbroken,
The first step is too realize it wasn't you, We cannot conrol the actions of others. Everyone grieves after learning something devastating. The best thing to do is to pick up the pieces and make a new puzzle. Let him go, Dump him. While one may feel they are in their weakest state, We have the power to find strength within ourselves.
You start over is what you do. Dump him, Block him and cut contact. It is toxic to stay with someone who feeds you poison. Pick up some volunteer work, More hours at work and focus on friends and family but do not allow yourself to take 3 steps back.
You are heart broken because it is fresh, You have just beeb delivered bad news. Time will heal all wounds, but you must allow yourself to find peace.
A.box.of.secrets@gmail.com
My boyfriend says he loves me sooo much. We've been together 6 years. He jokes around a lot. He's cheated on me in the past, I know this may sound bad but today when I went to the store I set up a voice recorder before I left. He was beggin me to go boat riding. But told his friend on the phone he'd prefer I didn't go so he would have more fun and look at bikinis. I confronted him and he says it was said as a joke, I really don't know what to think... any advice? Btw we are in our 30s
1, He has cheated in the past
2, He preferred if you didn't go
Why are you with him? This man doesn't seem to value your relationship much if he wants to leave you out enough to not want you around. Sounds to me like he never really go over his "cheating"
He isn't what I would call dating/marriage material, Also I wouldn't be taking anyone back if I found out they cheated.
Yeah he's obviously 2 faced, He is also a compulsive liar too.
I am 14 a year ago I flahsed my body on omegle to heaps of guys (very stupid I know) . To be honest I'm not afraid of it being leaked online cause I can tell people it wasn't be it wasn't me but I am worried on the men I flahsed to may be stalking me or trying to find me am I being paranoid ?
Added onto what Dragon said, Photos are traceable.
You are a minor releasing child pornography, If caught you could face charges as that is a federal offense. It is stupid, Yup. It is also a good way to show guys you don't respect your body and are easy.
Photos can very easily be leaked, Your photos can even be leaked into a child pornography website then you'd really be screwed.
Stay off the internet if you don't know how to use it
I live in Florida and I have become increasingly aroused by my dog. I have let him lick me a couple of times and really enjoyed it.
The other day my bff found out and told me it is disgusting and I could go to jail. First off, it is all over the internet and many people enjoy the company of animals. Gayness is disgusting to some, but makes others happy. Same applies here. What concerns me is that it may be illegal. I have searched and searched but have found conflicting results. I really enjoy what I am doing and don't want to stop. Please Help. Is it legal in Florida? Thanks XoXo
It's called bestiality, It's illegal and it's a crime.
Not only is this a class act of animal abuse, It is wrong and immoral.
An animal can't consent, This IS indeed extremely disgusting and I encourage you to seek some help. This again is a CRIME and ANIMAL ABUSE.
My boyfriend of half a year cheated on me and started dating the other girl for a month. He came back and was so apologetic... For about a day. I forgave him and he stopped apologizing now two weeks later we were talking about how I wouldn't be going to his birthday cause I'm going on a cruise with the family and he got mad but I told him I scheduled it when we were broken up and I had no intention on talking to him again. He then said "well it obviously wasn't that big of a deal because we're talking now". He said this even though he knows how much it broke my heart for him to cheat on me... I hung up on him and now he's mad at me... What do I do? Do I have a right to be upset?
Break up with him and cut contact.
You should never take someone back after they cheat. The reasoning for what he said is because you basically told him it was okay. He clearly doesn't respect you, As much as he may of apologized, It doesn't change anything.
He's a loser, Sorry but it's true. If he was into you then he would never think about taking a risk to loose you.
Move on and cut him loose, He's a liar and a player.
I wanted to know how young is appropriate to get engaged
Definitely not at 14, We already told you that.
Maybe in your 20's, An appropriate engagement depends on stability and how long you been together.
So back in May my boyfriend and I broke up. I've gotten over him and now have a new boyfriend. I sent him a friend request back a few weeks ago on Xbox but he declined. We go to the same church but I don't go there often. I really want to be his friend again and I know he might too. How can I work this out. (he has a new gf btw and I just want to be his friend)
You haven't moved on, If you did you wouldn't care so much to be his friend. He moved on, He is no longer in a relationship with you and clearly he does not want any contact with you. You are in a new relationship, Why are you still crawling back to your ex? Why do you even still care?...
Stop sending him friends request, Stop looking at his page period. If you wabt your current relationship to work then leave the past the past. He is over it, He doesn't care anymore.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 Months. In the beginning of June he came to me and said he wanted a break because he wasn't feeling as happy. We had so many tears and talked and talked to see if there really can be changes made. He kept saying " I feel like I met you too early because you're the woman I would spend the rest of my life with" We have did have a little break like he wanted I would say about a week. We normally see each other everyday. It was so devastating to me. I had no idea what I have done so wrong. We did talk and worked it out and pulled through. On July 4th I saw a conversation between him and his ex. Which I knew they talked but I didn't really feel comfortable. They were friends for quite sometime after and before the break up. 3 years all together I would say. I saw he was saying to her " The more and more we talk the more and more I like you" Her response she acted very surprised. But I saw this conversation occurred while he wanted a break. I brought it up to him and he said " I told her I don't think you and I should talk anymore because I don't want to hurt you anymore" But I feel Like the damage was done. Am I stupid for forgiving to some extent. Even though he said he is sorry and he said He feels so horrible for what he has done. He said he was stupid for doing any of that. He said he is now truly ready for us and to start our lives together. I love this man but am I stupid for wanting to forgive him. There was also another incident I saw him asking a co worker to hangout through text. Before all of this happened. He said he will just tell me he is at work or something to this girl. She felt like he wasn't being so faithful. I asked about that also and he tried to flip it on me that I freak out if he is talking to a girl. But now do you blame me? I absolutely am head over heels in love. I know I am. I am also scared now to rebuild this trust for the man I want to spend the rest of my life with.
He sounds like a real manipulator...
He may have broken up with you because he wasn't happy but he also broke up with you because he fell for someone eles. There is NO excuse to be in contact with an ex, They are drama and cause a butt load of problems for current relationships.
Really, You should have took it as an alarm knowing he was friends with her. Many people who friend an ex are generpeople who have a tough time letting go of the relationship. Unless there are children involved, An ex stays in the past.
I think you are really cutting your own rope with forgiving him, Yes. Anyone who has the balls to disrespect and betray me in anyway would be packing their bags. I am old school, You are with me and give me as much respect as I give you or pack your shit and hit the door. Put your foot down girl, You aren't a doormat.
I am 19, and a female working FULL TIME and in college FULL TIME. I live with my boyfriend and three roommates. It is a decision through our house that we don't eat each others' food or share food.
With that said, I usually eat a lot of fast food. And I mean way too much. It hit me the other day when I bought breakfast at McDonalds- 5$, lunch at Tropical Smoothie- 9$ and finally dinner for my boyfriend and I at Taco Bell 12$
Talk about a heart attack.
So now I'm trying to change my ways, save money, and feel better but I have one major problem: I don't know how to grocery shop, plan meals, or even cook. Of course we go to the grocery store but we end up buying junk and microwavable meals that my stomach is now telling my brain it's right their next to puppy chow.
I have realized that I cant google how to do change my fast food habits, I have to make a lifestyle change.
Oh, I just wanna throw this out their that my boyfriend doesn't cook but maybe once a week, if that and its pretty much a can of green beans and then some random meat with some more random spices and that gets old real quick.
Please just give me any advice you have on how you eat healthy and plan meals.
I need a system that requires very little actual cooking and can apply for breakfast lunch and dinner. (I don't always eat fast food for breakfast- I eat cereal if we have the milk to go with it. And sometimes ill bring a sandwich for lunch but both those options are plain and boring and not really nutritious, either.
Sorry if this is too long, I just felt everything is pretty important to include in order to get the advice I'm looking for. Thanks in advance for the advice.
P.s....please don't just warn me of the health risks associated with my current diet. Thanks.
Is it possible someone in the household could file for foodstamps? Perhaps putting money together and all helping each other out?... This option may work best.
Here is a quick menu I whipped up....
Breakfast- Banana, Apple, Orange with yogart and Granola, Wheat toast with jam, p&b, raisins, protein shake
Lunch- Tuna sandwhich, fruit or veggies, chicken salad, salad, some sort of wrap?
Dinner- whip up a stir fry (You can buy a veggie pack at walmart $7.00) Chicken, Turkey burger, casserole,
Grab a flyer and go through it. Look up fast recipes online
Biy family pack of chicken for maybe $10.00, This should carey about 2-3 meals between you and your boyfriend. This is less then a meal at Taco bell. Be creative...
Make a chicken salad out of one of the chicken breast, PUt it away for a lunch. Buy cereal maybe find 2/$5 deals. Look for bargains.
You see, The amount you spend on fast food could go towards food. Your best bet is to maybe buy buy 1 get 1 free-
Hi, Im a 13 year old girl I will be turning 14 in October. I have had my periods for about 2 years now. Recently for the past2 months there have been no sign of my period at all except mild cramping, but no blood.I am not sexually active at all no question about that. But I live with 8 brothers. Is it possible maybe they got sperm on the toilet seat and it traveled up by itself? Im still a virgin. I masturbate like 4 times a week usually. Could I be pregnant ?
You cannot get pregnant by a toilet seat lol, Sorey to laugh but it's kinda funny.
In order to be pregnant you must come in contact with sperm or a penis penetrating the vaginal area.
You are not pregnant, Masturbation will not get you pregnant either nor will it affect your period.
See the doctor