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is he two-faced?
My boyfriend says he loves me sooo much. We've been together 6 years. He jokes around a lot. He's cheated on me in the past, I know this may sound bad but today when I went to the store I set up a voice recorder before I left. He was beggin me to go boat riding. But told his friend on the phone he'd prefer I didn't go so he would have more fun and look at bikinis. I confronted him and he says it was said as a joke, I really don't know what to think... any advice? Btw we are in our 30s
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honestly, he shouldnt even be saying that even if it is a joke, his in a relationship and he should respect that. if this happens again you should confront him and be very serious and tell him how you dont like it even if it may be a joke, cause it isnt a joke to you,
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It sounds like he isn't really into being committed to you.
You don't trust him, you really don't have a reason to. He told he he was joking, but did he say that to his friends. I mean they probably end up thinking your not a real thing to him because he'd rather check out other girls. When you love someone, why would you joke about things like that to your friends?
He's in his 30's and isn't showing he's in love with you. So this is your call to make but he doesn't seem like someone you're happy with.
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Hon, what do you want out of life. 6 years with a guy and there is no commitment for life? You are in your 30s so if that's what you really want, maybe you have to be truthful with yourself.
You can't change another person. What you see is what you get. So if you are satisfied with no commitment, just him liking you, or maybe loving you like he loves his friends, but not being "in love with you", then you are on the right track. Just keep doing what you are doing.
Somethings bothering you deep down inside but you may not have leveled with yourself yet to determine what it really is.
Ask yourself this: Does my boyfriend strengthen me or weaken me?
Strengthen means he loves you just as you are, so he is always encouraging you, building you up, supporting what you like to do, upholding you in everything. Life is more fun because you are in it even for mundane things like wanting you to go along with as he runs errands, or shops or does the dishes. When apart, he can't wait to be back together with you. He is building your trust that you are the only one for him because of how he continuously seeks you out, how he treats you and treats you as if your his Queen and he is your servant.
So weakening is all the opposite of that. He doesn't encourage, shows more interest in other women whether in front of you or behind your back, he never seems to miss you, treats you more like a live in maid with sex benefits than the love of his life, etc....
I think you know what you have there. The question you need to ask yourself is why you are staying dear.
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1, He has cheated in the past
2, He preferred if you didn't go
Why are you with him? This man doesn't seem to value your relationship much if he wants to leave you out enough to not want you around. Sounds to me like he never really go over his "cheating"
He isn't what I would call dating/marriage material, Also I wouldn't be taking anyone back if I found out they cheated.
Yeah he's obviously 2 faced, He is also a compulsive liar too.
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