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In Need Advice ASAP
28 year old female.
I need help! I dont know what to do. Yesterday my boyfriend of almost a year used my phone to check his facebook messages. Well he left it logged on and I didn't realize it until I got a notification on my phone saying I recieved a message. Not realizing at first that it was his facebook I went to check. Immediately I realized it was his after opening the message but then I noticed my name and started reading. I discovered that he has been talking to this girl for quite a while telling her my life story my secrets and thoughts. I also discovered that he has been waiting for me to fall asleep atleast twice a week and sneaking over to her house. The after reading that message curiosity got the best of me and I decided to read other messages. Turns out he had sex with his ex girlfried/baby's mother the day we got together and on many other occasions. Once even bragged about doing it in the livingroom while I was sick in bed with the flu. He has been cheating on me all along. I thought he was different I thought he was the one I was going to spend my life with. I told him about reading the messages and at first he lied but then he told the truth. Meanwhile my heart is shattered! He broke my trust, he betrayed me, he freaking cheated on me. I have been nothing but good to him. I cook for him, clean for him, invite his buddies over and let them play video games while I bake them all cookies and fetch their beers. I try to never complain and always try to be the perfect girl for him. He has told me many times I am everything he ever wanted. But then he goes and sleeps with someone else. I love him but I cant stand to look at him. Everytime I think about him in bed with another woman I literally get sick. I have no family. I am basically alone in the world. He was the only person I have ever truly loved. What am I to do? Do I stay? I know I cant do any better and I should be thankful for what I have and I know that I am nothing without him, but inside I want to run away. I cant stop crying. Im so hurt. Please help.
-Heartbroken
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Im only 13 but I am smart enough to know that he doesn't deserve you. You seem smart, and sweet, and I even covet you in a way. You'll find someone better. I promise:)
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You move on from him. By staying with him, it's making him think it's ok. It breaks my heart to read this.
You don't stay with him because he's all you have. You'll be unhappy and miserable. You won't trust him and you'll be wondering what he's doing when he's out or when you're sick in bed.
You need to leave him. You are the perfect girlfriend and he just couldn't appreciate it. There is someone who you will make you fall in love again and he will appreciate everything you do.
He'll regret what he did because a lot of girls won't be as good to him.
Do what's best for you. He's no good for you so go get some friends and enjoy yourself. You don't need him.
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What a B*stard! No no a thunderc**t!
>idk if its appropriate to swear on here, but what he did to you was verrrry bad.<
Listen to the other people, listen to me: Dump him. He cheated on you, and he lied to you and used you. He does not deserve you, do not give him a second chance.
I know it hurts now, but just try your best to hold your chin up and move on. You will not be alone forever. You are still young and you can go out partying with friends and eventually find a better man... You can fall in love again. This kind of thing happens a lot in life, and people DO survive and DO lead happier lives afterwards!
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Dear Heartbroken,
The first step is too realize it wasn't you, We cannot conrol the actions of others. Everyone grieves after learning something devastating. The best thing to do is to pick up the pieces and make a new puzzle. Let him go, Dump him. While one may feel they are in their weakest state, We have the power to find strength within ourselves.
You start over is what you do. Dump him, Block him and cut contact. It is toxic to stay with someone who feeds you poison. Pick up some volunteer work, More hours at work and focus on friends and family but do not allow yourself to take 3 steps back.
You are heart broken because it is fresh, You have just beeb delivered bad news. Time will heal all wounds, but you must allow yourself to find peace.
A.box.of.secrets@gmail.com
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