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Dreams of my ex? I want them to stop :(
My ex and I were together and engaged for two years. It's been 8 months since he left for being unhappy, and almost 4 months since I've had any kind if contact with him, verbally & physicallly. I recently, maybe a month ago, blocked him from Facebook and anyone who contacts him because seeing his name is not helping me move on. I will admit, I am fine without him although I do wish we could be back together, but I've accepted reality and understand that will never happen.i think about him almost everyday but for some reason I keep having dreams about him. First it was him comin back saying he made a mistake. 4 times. Then it was us being back together and me crying because he was yelling at me. Then last night he told me he wanted back with his ex he was with before me (which they are in real life hanging out, idk if its friends or what) and I was crying and told him I hated him and he ruined my life and I wish I never got with him. Every dream I have of him I wake up in an icky mood or I'm crying. What can I do? I never wanna see him again, period.
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You're still in love with him and its hard for you to move on. You two were serious. You were engaged. Thats got to be hard to move on from. Trust me I have had my share of heartbreak. My husband and I have recently separated and we were together since I was 15. Inside I'm falling apart. But I try to follow the advice I give to everyone that ask me how to get over a breakup and I know in time I will be ok. So here it is, the famous advice... Copied from my page...
~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!
~Stephie~
I hope this helps you and I will be here for you if you need me.
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Dreams are generated by our subconscious mind. I would have to state that your subconscious mind doesn't seem to be with the game plan yet as far as where your conscious mind is at concerning the ex.
Subconscious mind is responsible for many things including all our feelings and emotions. It's your subc. mind that wishes you were back together and will continue to. It thinks because you were engaged 2 years that is meant something.
He may have been lying to his subc. mind and believing that being engaged was something else.
I don't think it takes two years to plan a Wedding and get married. So the state of engagement may have been more like steady relationship. But not the one with vows and oaths as you thought you were at. You need to have a good talk to yourself. When you talk to yourself, you'll be talking to your subc. mind. Its like having to reason with a child sometimes, but she will get it. Let her know why the guy is not right for you. He may have been a great guy in many ways, but you need to find one where not just one of you but both have that chemistry together. Good for him that he finally admitted to himself that he was not happy. If you had married to an unhappy man, your marriage would not have been wedded bliss. So he did you a favor by being strong enough to make that move.
Never give up on finding the right guy. I was married 30 to an abuse man. Once I left, I needed some healing and adjustments in how I thought. Now I am married to a 'prince of a man'. But a relationship takes both putting in equal effort to make it work. I am in love and so is he. But I didn't get that until I was 50. Not saying it will take that long. Just that it is always possible. Ask yourself this: Are you more afraid of being alone, being single than of not finding the right man? Fear is an emotion and therefore comes from the subc mind also. A fear like this in your mind could cause you to not be fully truthful with yourself and willing to overlook things that actually were warning signs that something was not right.
Here's something I've written about the stages of a relationship. At any point, one of the two can decide that they are finnally sure this isnt the right person. The end goal is a lifetime commited relationship with or without marriage license. Hope this helps you decide to keep trying.
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